How To Change Your Behaviour Without Slipping Back Into Old Habits

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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When we want to change our life and move forward out of pain and into recovery – we identify that we need to change our behaviour. We truly wish to do things differently. We want to not react to the narcissist’s hooks, we don’t want to get caught up in the manic and mindless battles that once took place, and we don’t want to feel devastated or powerless when we can’t stop ourselves checking up on his or her Facebook account. You know that to stop doing what hurts you, you need to change your behaviour. But you might ask: How do I actually do this? (more…)

When we want to change our life and move forward out of pain and into recovery – we identify that we need to change our behaviour.

We truly wish to do things differently. We want to not react to the narcissist’s hooks, we don’t want to get caught up in the manic and mindless battles that once took place, and we don’t want to feel devastated or powerless when we can’t stop ourselves checking up on his or her Facebook account.

You know that to stop doing what hurts you, you need to change your behaviour.

But you might ask: How do I actually do this?

How To Let Go Of Blame And Claim Your Personal Power

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It is so easy when we have been hurt to move into the normal human response of ‘blaming’. “Something feels wrong, and someone has to be responsible for this wrong feeling.” We then quickly move into blaming. Please understand that by ‘blaming’ I mean believing: “I am in this circumstance because of what someone else did. What they did was wrong/immoral/etc.” (more…)

It is so easy when we have been hurt to move into the normal human response of ‘blaming’.

“Something feels wrong, and someone has to be responsible for this wrong feeling.”

We then quickly move into blaming.

Please understand that by ‘blaming’ I mean believing:

“I am in this circumstance because of what someone else did. What they did was wrong/immoral/etc.”

Changing Your Emotions Before Waiting For Outcomes

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I was prompted to write this article after releasing last week’s article “Nothing Is Real With Someone Who Is False”. For the people that really read the article there was an understanding that this article was referring to us getting real – it was about understanding our ability and necessity to be honest with our self in order to create our own narcissistic free life. I was a little shocked that initially the people who were responding to the article had completely missed this and were all about being focused on the narcissist not being real rather than taking their necessary responsibility for self. (more…)

I was prompted to write this article after releasing last week’s article “Nothing Is Real With Someone Who Is False”.

For the people that really read the article there was an understanding that this article was referring to us getting real – it was about understanding our ability and necessity to be honest with our self in order to create our own narcissistic free life.

I was a little shocked that initially the people who were responding to the article had completely missed this and were all about being focused on the narcissist not being real rather than taking their necessary responsibility for self.

Nothing Is Real With Someone Who Is False

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If you have been in a narcissistic relationship you know what it feels like to be with someone who is false. At first they sweep you off your feet, they are charming, caring, supportive, loving and everything you could have desired in a partner. Before long some actions “don’t add up” and something feels “off” about this person, but you may ignore these warning signs or justify the behaviour, whilst trying to hang on to what you thought was your dream life and dream partner. (more…)

If you have been in a narcissistic relationship you know what it feels like to be with someone who is false. At first they sweep you off your feet, they are charming, caring, supportive, loving and everything you could have desired in a partner.

Before long some actions “don’t add up” and something feels “off” about this person, but you may ignore these warning signs or justify the behaviour, whilst trying to hang on to what you thought was your dream life and dream partner.