2017 | Narcissism Recovery and Relationships Blog

Merry Xmas And Happy New Year From MTE

Posted on December 23, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

This is our last Thriver TV for 2017, and what a year it’s been – more people than ever have joined our wonderful Thriver Community. I can’t tell you how much it fills my heart with joy to see so many of you applying the Thriver Lifestyle in your life and reaping the rewards.

Whether you are new to our Thriver Community or have been a part of it for some time, please know, no matter where you are on your healing journey, myself and the incredibly loving, amazing support team, as well as The MTE moderators, Thrivers and members from more than 80 different countries worldwide, are here to hold your hand and your heart and be your angel wings for you until you can grow your own.

The truth is … we are all in this together, the efforting to not just merely survive narcissistic abuse, but to actualise our Thriving from it. And, as such, I would love to set a powerful group intention with you and the entire Community right here, right now … that 2018 is going to be the best year ever.

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6 Sneaky Tactics Narcissists Use At Christmas

Posted on December 18, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

It’s so important to be prepared for the narcissist’s bag of tricks at Christmas time because traditionally this is a ‘hot-spot’ time when narcissists cause untold trauma to many.

If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship for some time you will probably have a great deal of trepidation, remembering just how horrible the narcissist made Christmas for you last year. Or maybe you haven’t experienced a painful narcissistic Christmas yet, and this may be one where you will need to be prepared.

It can be so awful to experience all the ways that narcissists act out when Christmas threatens to upstage them, and there are a few specific things which narcissists do which are Universal, to try to bring every else’s good Christmas cheer down.

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The 4 Steps to Opening Your Heart After Narcissistic Abuse

Posted on December 13, 2017December 13, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

I know you may be struggling to keep your heart open to love again after narcissistic abuse, and it’s totally understandable, because there is nothing quite like the devastation that this level of abuse inflicts on our heart …

And it’s natural for our mind and body to try and protect us.

However, you may feel frustrated because you would like to connect with others and fearlessly build new relationships, and even possibly fall in love again.

Maybe, because your heart has been hurt so much, you couldn’t possibly contemplate purposeful dating, even though there have been no love opportunities enter your life.

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Why Narcissists Prey On Intelligent People

Posted on December 10, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Have you ever wondered how you can be capable in so many areas, yet for some reason narcissists are able to hook and deceive you?

Have you ever berated yourself for not being able to see it coming?

If you’re anything like me I used to constantly tell myself “I know this person is tearing me to shreds, I know I need to go … and I’m smart, I know everything about who they are and what they are doing but why can’t I leave?”

The truth is you’re not alone … this is the plight of intelligent people regularly.

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Financial Abuse – Rebuilding Your Life After Narcissism

Posted on December 4, 2017February 14, 2018 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Sadly, narcissistic abuse doesn’t only come with psychological, emotional and spiritual torment. One of the most devastating things is the almost inevitable financial abuse.

Financial abuse is one of the most widespread devastations in this community – so many people are stripped of the resources they have worked hard all their life for.

If you are going through it right now, please know you are certainly not alone.

Today’s Thriver TV episode is all about how why we fall into financial dependencies and traps with narcissists – and how you can heal from this, let go of the shame and restart your life, regardless of your age or current situation.

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Why People Attract Narcissists

Posted on November 30, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

It’s a sad truth, that if we’ve been hooked by a narcissist in the past, it’s very likely that we’ll have encounters with more in the future.

You may have had the experience of seeing narcissists ‘everywhere’ and feel like a small fish in a sea of sharks every time you step foot out into the world.

If you are anything like I was, you might be incredibly sick of continually attracting toxic people into your life and just wish that you could finally connect with healthy, authentic and supportive people instead.

How do we do this?

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Why Narcissists Use Silent Treatment

Posted on November 26, 2017October 18, 2021 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Narcissistic silent treatment is something that virtually every narcissist delivers skillfully.

Ironically it’s the horrible blow that they themselves are terrified of – being rendered invalid, invisible and totally redundant. We all know what it is to ignore or be ignored – we may have snubbed someone at sometime in our life, or we may have been given the “cold shoulder” ourselves. We all clearly know silent treatment means this: “I disapprove of you or something you’ve done”.

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How To Use The Holiday Period To Heal In The Most Spectacular Way

Posted on November 22, 2017November 22, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

First off, I want to wish all of our lovely American Thriver Family a wonderful Thanksgiving this week!

Because we are heading into the holiday season, I really wanted to do this Thriver TV episode to help you stay safe and maintain your peace this Christmas …

And also to explain how you can use this time to heal in the most spectacular way.

If you are dreading holiday time, my heart goes out to you. You may still be suffering the trauma of what happened to you, or be in terrible battles with the narcissist over custody and property.

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How Narcissistic Abuse Taught Me To Be A Source To Myself

Posted on November 19, 2017August 3, 2023 by Melanie Tonia Evans

I talk in the Community a lot about how important it is to become a source to ourselves to stop handing power over to narcissists – False Selves. And also so that we become powerful creators of our lives without dependence on anyone else to provide it for us.

And then I realised – I had never done a Thriver TV episode specifically on this!

In today’s video, I will address the four key elements of self: self-love, self-approval, security and survival and how you can identify if you are deficient in some or all of these areas.

Personally, before recovering from narcissistic abuse, despite appearing outwardly that I had my life together, I was a complete disaster in all of these areas.

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Year: 2017