Melanie Tonia Evans

How To Evict The Narcissist From Your Head And Move On With Your Life – Part 2

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  What an interesting discussion we had last week regarding Part 1! If you haven't read the first installment of this two-part series please go and read it first. I think it's very important that we don’t get sidetracked by some of the comments differing from what the message really was all about … (even though ... thank you ... I did greatly appreciate everyone's amazing emotional intelligent, love and support!) Understanding how to get out of the loop of repeat painful thoughts that cripple our ability to regain control and start taking positive actions in our life. Last week we learned that the story originates from the beliefs we have about ourselves and all of life – our Inner Identity. (more…)

 

What an interesting discussion we had last week regarding Part 1!

If you haven’t read the first installment of this two-part series please go and read it first.

I think it’s very important that we don’t get sidetracked by some of the comments differing from what the message really was all about … (even though … thank you … I did greatly appreciate everyone’s amazing emotional intelligent, love and support!)

Understanding how to get out of the loop of repeat painful thoughts that cripple our ability to regain control and start taking positive actions in our life.

Last week we learned that the story originates from the beliefs we have about ourselves and all of life – our Inner Identity.

How To Evict The Narcissist From Your Head And Move On With Your Life

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  This article is very important for new members of this Community who are only beginning their recovery journey … as well as veterans to recovery, who are struggling and feel stuck. I’m going to start this article a little differently …  from the end game. So that you know this story does have a happy ending and so that you have something to aim for and a solution to believe in. Myself and many other people in this Community no longer have any daily thoughts whatsoever about the narcissist or what happened to us. Yes, the odd thing may still bring up a trigger, which as Thriving NARPers we are dedicated to finding, releasing and up-levelling as soon as this happens … (more…)

 

This article is very important for new members of this Community who are only beginning their recovery journey … as well as veterans to recovery, who are struggling and feel stuck.

I’m going to start this article a little differently …  from the end game.

So that you know this story does have a happy ending and so that you have something to aim for and a solution to believe in.

Myself and many other people in this Community no longer have any daily thoughts whatsoever about the narcissist or what happened to us.

Yes, the odd thing may still bring up a trigger, which as Thriving NARPers we are dedicated to finding, releasing and up-levelling as soon as this happens …

Shifts Happen – Freeing Yourself From Chronic Pain And Disease

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  I am so happy to be back tapping into the MTE channels bringing you weekly inspiration and healing for 2017. I hope that you have had a positive start to the New Year. I want us all to know and start connecting to the cellular knowing that we are in truly exciting times. Revolutionary times of being able to say “no” to the aspects of life that we may have been living, and “yes” to a whole new way of being able to transcend into up-levelled emotions and experiences. This year and this month is all about “change”. (more…)

 

I am so happy to be back tapping into the MTE channels bringing you weekly inspiration and healing for 2017.

I hope that you have had a positive start to the New Year.

I want us all to know and start connecting to the cellular knowing that we are in truly exciting times.

Revolutionary times of being able to say “no” to the aspects of life that we may have been living, and “yes” to a whole new way of being able to transcend into up-levelled emotions and experiences.

This year and this month is all about “change”.

Should You Tell A Narcissist Who They Really Are?

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  It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do. And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense. All the pieces add up.  And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life. All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore. And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are. (more…)

 

It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do.

And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense.

All the pieces add up.

 And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life.

All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore.

And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are.

Breaking The Disconnection From Love, Intimacy And Connection With Jeanine Staples

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  This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy. It's about melting the iciness within our souls. Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world. Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on. I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher. if you haven't heard any of her talks before I recommend you don't miss this one! (more…)

 

This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy.

It’s about melting the iciness within our souls.

Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world.

Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on.

I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher.

if you haven’t heard any of her talks before I recommend you don’t miss this one!

Shifts Happen – When We Can’t Say “No”

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  This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic … The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”. As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life. And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of. It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through! If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need. (more…)

 

This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic …

The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”.

As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life.

And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of.

It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through!

If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 2

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  Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists. All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated. The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist. And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings. (more…)

 

Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists.

All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated.

The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist.

And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings.

What Happens When We Assign The Narcissist As Our God?

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  The narcissist seems all powerful. He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad. And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist. You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation. So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them? Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

The narcissist seems all powerful.

He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad.

And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist.

You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation.

So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them?

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

How Do We Decide To Heal?

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  It can be a huge thing to "decide" to commit to our own healing. We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated. Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long. But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing? I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode. (more…)

 

It can be a huge thing to “decide” to commit to our own healing.

We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated.

Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long.

But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing?

I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode.

The 5 Stages Of Forgiveness

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  A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article. "Forgiveness" is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term. It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic. The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted. And there are many people who may have believed they have "forgiven" – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being. I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life … (more…)

 

A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article.

“Forgiveness” is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term.

It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic.

The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted.

And there are many people who may have believed they have “forgiven” – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being.

I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life …