Melanie Tonia Evans

Shifts Happen – How To Create Healthy Boundaries That Don’t Push People Away

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life. A tendency to overdo boundaries … Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others. This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others. (more…)

 

This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life.

A tendency to overdo boundaries

Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others.

This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 2

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists. All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated. The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist. And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings. (more…)

 

Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists.

All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated.

The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist.

And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings.

What Happens When We Assign The Narcissist As Our God?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  The narcissist seems all powerful. He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad. And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist. You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation. So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them? Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

The narcissist seems all powerful.

He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad.

And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist.

You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation.

So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them?

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 1

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic …. Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist. Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically. This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it. (more…)

 

It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic ….

Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist.

Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically.

This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it.

How Do We Decide To Heal?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It can be a huge thing to "decide" to commit to our own healing. We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated. Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long. But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing? I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode. (more…)

 

It can be a huge thing to “decide” to commit to our own healing.

We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated.

Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long.

But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing?

I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode.

Shifts Happen – Overcoming Ego Blocks

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Our ego blocks can be incredibly formidable. When we are constantly getting "the voices in our head" and the feelings that derail us from working on ourselves. They can confuse our healing process, and even prevent it. This was Mette’s plight, and she had been trying everything she could to get past it. I was only too happy to help her with this issue, because I knew it would not only provide a breakthrough for her, it would also unlock the solution for so many others suffering from the same problem. If you have been struggling with ego blocks that have been preventing your healing, then this Shifts Happen episode is a really important one to watch and participate it! (more…)

 

Our ego blocks can be incredibly formidable.

When we are constantly getting “the voices in our head” and the feelings that derail us from working on ourselves.

They can confuse our healing process, and even prevent it.

This was Mette’s plight, and she had been trying everything she could to get past it.

I was only too happy to help her with this issue, because I knew it would not only provide a breakthrough for her, it would also unlock the solution for so many others suffering from the same problem.

If you have been struggling with ego blocks that have been preventing your healing, then this Shifts Happen episode is a really important one to watch and participate it!

The 5 Stages Of Forgiveness

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article. "Forgiveness" is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term. It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic. The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted. And there are many people who may have believed they have "forgiven" – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being. I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life … (more…)

 

A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article.

“Forgiveness” is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term.

It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic.

The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted.

And there are many people who may have believed they have “forgiven” – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being.

I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life …

Why Don’t People Heal From Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Why don’t people commonly heal from Narcissistic Abuse? Why are people usually only managing their symptoms rather than healing their trauma which is causing the symptoms? Wouldn’t it make so much more sense to do that? Is it possible? These are all questions that I grant you the Quantum answers to in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

Why don’t people commonly heal from Narcissistic Abuse?

Why are people usually only managing their symptoms rather than healing their trauma which is causing the symptoms?

Wouldn’t it make so much more sense to do that?

Is it possible?

These are all questions that I grant you the Quantum answers to in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

Why Do Narcissists Go After Lightworkers

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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So many people who are Lightworkers have been narcissistically abused. An ASTOUNDING amount of people. Why is this the case? Is it because narcissist’s need “Light’ to exist, or is there a BIGGER truth going on? A truth that makes so much sense (as well as lends incredible power) regarding what Lightworkers REALLY came here to do. Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode! (more…)

So many people who are Lightworkers have been narcissistically abused.

An ASTOUNDING amount of people.

Why is this the case?

Is it because narcissist’s need “Light’ to exist, or is there a BIGGER truth going on?

A truth that makes so much sense (as well as lends incredible power) regarding what Lightworkers REALLY came here to do.

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode!

The Decision That Makes Everything In Your Life Change – Thriver Show #32 Kerry

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Kerry’s Thriver Show is so inspirational – and it is wonderful that we were able to do this interview on camera. Two years ago Kerry was at the lowest point she could ever remember. Her marriage had ended and her financial state was ruined. And … devastatingly she thought her dreams of being in a loving relationship, conceiving and becoming a mother were over. (more…)

 

Kerry’s Thriver Show is so inspirational – and it is wonderful that we were able to do this interview on camera.

Two years ago Kerry was at the lowest point she could ever remember.

Her marriage had ended and her financial state was ruined.

And … devastatingly she thought her dreams of being in a loving relationship, conceiving and becoming a mother were over.