Do You Need More Time Apart or Need More Time Together?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Many relationships have unease, and an underlying tension when one person in the relationship wants more time together and the other partner feels they need more space. Perhaps you have been in a situation where you wanted more attention – maybe you were feeling particularly hurt and you really needed your partners love and affection but they weren't there to provide it. This leaves you feeling abandoned, rejected and unloved. (more…)

Many relationships have unease, and an underlying tension when one person in the relationship wants more time together and the other partner feels they need more space.

Perhaps you have been in a situation where you wanted more attentionmaybe you were feeling particularly hurt and you really needed your partners love and affection but they weren’t there to provide it. This leaves you feeling abandoned, rejected and unloved.

How to Overcome The Pathological Lies Of The Narcissist And Win The Divorce, Settlement And Custody Battles

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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One thing is certain with narcissists; when you separate from them, and still have legal, property or custody to sort out … They will pathologically lie. As such, you can expect fabricated stories, twisted facts and downright dirty tactics. The narcissist is very capable of telling solicitors, police and courthouses exactly whatever lies he or she wants to, in order to try to punish you, get the upper hand and win, project blame, create smear campaigns, play the victim as if he or she has been vilified (especially when things aren’t going well for him or her), and of course disregard any personal accountability for his or her unacceptable behaviour. (more…)

One thing is certain with narcissists; when you separate from them, and still have legal, property or custody to sort out …

They will pathologically lie.

As such, you can expect fabricated stories, twisted facts and downright dirty tactics.

The narcissist is very capable of telling solicitors, police and courthouses exactly whatever lies he or she wants to, in order to try to punish you, get the upper hand and win, project blame, create smear campaigns, play the victim as if he or she has been vilified (especially when things aren’t going well for him or her), and of course disregard any personal accountability for his or her unacceptable behaviour.

Getting Love Right – Empathetic Listening

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Getting Love Right - Empathetic Listening In this podcast I talk about empathetic listening. What it is, how it can work and how it can be used to enrich your vital relationships, as well as your relationship with all of life. So then, what is empathetic listening? In short, it is the ability to allow another person to feel safe and heard, whilst being able to put your own triggers, agenda and pain to one side. It is the ability to seek to understand another, create connection, and promote a safe, connected forum in order to be understood. (more…)

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In this podcast I talk about empathetic listening. What it is, how it can work and how it can be used to enrich your vital relationships, as well as your relationship with all of life.

So then, what is empathetic listening? In short, it is the ability to allow another person to feel safe and heard, whilst being able to put your own triggers, agenda and pain to one side.

It is the ability to seek to understand another, create connection, and promote a safe, connected forum in order to be understood.

When Is The Pain Going To End?

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So many people ask me after leaving the narcissist and beginning No Contact, “When is the pain going to end?” This is a universal question, and one that defies all logic. You see, it isn’t normal. If it were normal, after escaping horrific abuse, you would feel relief. But nothing could be further from the truth. There are so many addictive aspects of being tied up in narcissistic abuse, which you can read about in my article Trauma Bonding - Is it Love or Something Else? By reading this article you will realise that your body has to literally detoxify the addiction to the narcissist, the pain, and the addiction in trying to receive normality from insanity. (more…)

So many people ask me after leaving the narcissist and beginning No Contact, “When is the pain going to end?”

This is a universal question, and one that defies all logic.

You see, it isn’t normal. If it were normal, after escaping horrific abuse, you would feel relief.

But nothing could be further from the truth.

There are so many addictive aspects of being tied up in narcissistic abuse, which you can read about in my article Trauma Bonding – Is it Love or Something Else? By reading this article you will realise that your body has to literally detoxify the addiction to the narcissist, the pain, and the addiction in trying to receive normality from insanity.