The Malignant Female – Understanding Female Narcissism

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This is an article I have wanted to do for some time. It’s one many males have asked for – and I also think it will be an interesting subject for women as well. Over the years there have on occasion been men who have accused me of focusing on recovery for women only. The truth is guys – I have NOT been leaving you out, because everything I produce in this Community is for ANYONE who has been abused. And … even though I have thought about doing this article for a while, there is a reason why it hasn’t been a major priority. (more…)

 

This is an article I have wanted to do for some time.

It’s one many males have asked for – and I also think it will be an interesting subject for women as well.

Over the years there have on occasion been men who have accused me of focusing on recovery for women only.

The truth is guys – I have NOT been leaving you out, because everything I produce in this Community is for ANYONE who has been abused.

And … even though I have thought about doing this article for a while, there is a reason why it hasn’t been a major priority.

Why Breaking No Contact Doesn’t Mean You Are Back To Square One

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Breaking No Contact after days, weeks or even months of battling the urge to …. can feel so self-defeating. It feels like everything we went through was to no avail. It feels like we have to start all over again – because we are back to square one. But are we REALLY? In this week’s Thriver Tv episode, you will learn how this is in fact the exact opposite … (more…)

 

Breaking No Contact after days, weeks or even months of battling the urge to …. can feel so self-defeating.

It feels like everything we went through was to no avail.

It feels like we have to start all over again – because we are back to square one.

But are we REALLY?

In this week’s Thriver Tv episode, you will learn how this is in fact the exact opposite …

How To Stop Trying To Help The Narcissist Whilst Destroying Yourself In The Process

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  So many people with wonderful hearts who radiate empathy and compassion, have tried to help narcissists. But it doesn’t work. In fact, it leaves them broken, empty and even lifeless. Why? And how can we heal from this? Learn exactly why, as well as how to heal from this tendency, in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

So many people with wonderful hearts who radiate empathy and compassion, have tried to help narcissists.

But it doesn’t work.

In fact, it leaves them broken, empty and even lifeless.

Why?

And how can we heal from this?

Learn exactly why, as well as how to heal from this tendency, in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

Why Did We Fall For A Narcissist? Part 2

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Last week, in Part One, we explored the reasons why we fell for a narcissist and why it can be very difficult to leave and stay away. And why, in this Community, we DO struggle to end it and break free, whereas other people just don’t … even if they were initially hoodwinked by a narcissist. This week, in Part Two, I want to take a deep dive into the understanding of specifically why we were highly susceptible to narcissists, and may have felt (or still feel) it’s almost impossible to leave. Because it is my fullest intention – if this is your battle – to help free you from that. (more…)

 

Last week, in Part One, we explored the reasons why we fell for a narcissist and why it can be very difficult to leave and stay away.

And why, in this Community, we DO struggle to end it and break free, whereas other people just don’t … even if they were initially hoodwinked by a narcissist.

This week, in Part Two, I want to take a deep dive into the understanding of specifically why we were highly susceptible to narcissists, and may have felt (or still feel) it’s almost impossible to leave.

Because it is my fullest intention – if this is your battle – to help free you from that.

Cognitive Dissonance – How Our Mind Tricks Us Into Staying

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  Cognitive Dissonance is a very important topic because it is something everyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse encounters. It is a normal human brain function that operates to protect us, but when we are trying to create a life free of abuse and stop getting hurt, and leave and hold No Contact ... It has the opposite effect. Even if you've learnt extensively about Cognitive Dissonance, this video will help shed light on WHY this phenomenon is really happening, how it makes it so difficult to leave and what you can do to free yourself from it. (more…)

 

Cognitive Dissonance is a very important topic because it is something everyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse encounters.

It is a normal human brain function that operates to protect us, but when we are trying to create a life free of abuse and stop getting hurt, and leave and hold No Contact …

It has the opposite effect.

Even if you’ve learnt extensively about Cognitive Dissonance, this video will help shed light on WHY this phenomenon is really happening, how it makes it so difficult to leave and what you can do to free yourself from it.

Why Did We Fall For A Narcissist? Part 1

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  It’s a great question – and one that if we could answer truthfully could help inoculate ourselves against another narcissist, as well as provide the remedy for others so that they never have to experience one. There are two trains of thought in regard to the answer of this. The most obvious answer in standard abuse communities is … because a narcissist is a consummate actor who is a con-man or con-woman. And the second, which is the healing premise of the Thriver Community, is … because I had unfinished business. There are some emotional gaps within me that the narcissist was able to infiltrate my boundaries with and hook me with. I believe to an extent that both answers are true. But … there is a very important distinction and truth that also needs to be acknowledged here. (more…)

 

It’s a great question – and one that if we could answer truthfully could help inoculate ourselves against another narcissist, as well as provide the remedy for others so that they never have to experience one.

There are two trains of thought in regard to the answer of this.

The most obvious answer in standard abuse communities is … because a narcissist is a consummate actor who is a con-man or con-woman.

And the second, which is the healing premise of the Thriver Community, is … because I had unfinished business. There are some emotional gaps within me that the narcissist was able to infiltrate my boundaries with and hook me with.

I believe to an extent that both answers are true.

But … there is a very important distinction and truth that also needs to be acknowledged here.