What To Do When The Narcissist Infiltrates Your Dreams

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  One of the most disturbing things about narcissistic abuse is that it often comes after you, even as you sleep. Just when you think you can get some relief from the aching torment of your waking life, the trauma insidiously finds its way into your dreams. Giving you nightmares. And they are horrible ones ... filled with big emotional content, charges and trauma. What do they mean? In this episode I want to share with you what they mean, as well as how to heal yourself to a level where you simply will not experience these awful narcissistic dreams anymore. (more…)

 

One of the most disturbing things about narcissistic abuse is that it often comes after you, even as you sleep.

Just when you think you can get some relief from the aching torment of your waking life, the trauma insidiously finds its way into your dreams.

Giving you nightmares.

And they are horrible ones … filled with big emotional content, charges and trauma.

What do they mean?

In this episode I want to share with you what they mean, as well as how to heal yourself to a level where you simply will not experience these awful narcissistic dreams anymore.

Flying Monkeys – The Minions Narcissists Use To Do Their Bidding

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Flying Monkeys is an expression that most people in narcissistic abuse communities know about. It’s used to describe the people who the narcissist convinces to do their bidding. Abuse by proxy (using other people to abuse us) is a such a common occurrence with narcissistic abuse, and in this episode I’m going to explain to you how to completely eradicate Flying Monkeys from your life – just as myself and thousands of other Thrivers have done. Because I know how awful it is to not only be dealing with the heartbreak and terror of what a narcissist is capable of doing to you … but to also have a minion of people hounding you and trying to bring you down is horrific. (more…)

 

Flying Monkeys is an expression that most people in narcissistic abuse communities know about.

It’s used to describe the people who the narcissist convinces to do their bidding.

Abuse by proxy (using other people to abuse us) is a such a common occurrence with narcissistic abuse, and in this episode I’m going to explain to you how to completely eradicate Flying Monkeys from your life – just as myself and thousands of other Thrivers have done.

Because I know how awful it is to not only be dealing with the heartbreak and terror of what a narcissist is capable of doing to you … but to also have a minion of people hounding you and trying to bring you down is horrific.

How To Start Healing When Everything Seems Helpless

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I really wanted to do this episode to help people who are traumatized beyond measure, and feel really mired in the helplessness of narcissistic abuse. I’ve been there myself … just as many people have – been in that place where there seems to be no hope, no way out and no way to rebuild. I know so many of us have lived that truth – when we are at the final breakdown stages with a narcissist. We know we can’t survive the abuse anymore, but we have no way to believe that we can survive if we leave either. (more…)

 

I really wanted to do this episode to help people who are traumatized beyond measure, and feel really mired in the helplessness of narcissistic abuse.

I’ve been there myself … just as many people have – been in that place where there seems to be no hope, no way out and no way to rebuild.

I know so many of us have lived that truth – when we are at the final breakdown stages with a narcissist. We know we can’t survive the abuse anymore, but we have no way to believe that we can survive if we leave either.

Why Do Narcissists Need To Manipulate?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Being with a narcissist is maddening … it feels crazy as we watch them manipulating with constant lies and twists and turns. We may feel like we are trying to preach to a child … “Why don’t you just be honest with people?” And in relation to the ways the narcissist treats us … we wring our hands in despair with, “Rather than play dirty, why don’t you just ask for what you want honestly?” Why on earth do they do what they do? Why do virtually all narcissists use the same manipulative tactics? (more…)

 

Being with a narcissist is maddening … it feels crazy as we watch them manipulating with constant lies and twists and turns.

We may feel like we are trying to preach to a child … “Why don’t you just be honest with people?”

And in relation to the ways the narcissist treats us … we wring our hands in despair with, “Rather than play dirty, why don’t you just ask for what you want honestly?”

Why on earth do they do what they do?

Why do virtually all narcissists use the same manipulative tactics?

How I Healed From Adrenal Malfunction After Being Told It Was Incurable

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Adrenal malfunction is serious and it is a chronic problem for so many people in this Community. It’s the common by-product of the horrific impact of narcissistic abuse – when our stress hormones go into overdrive trying to cope with the crazy-making, the unsafe twists, turns and stunts that narcissists do, as well as the malicious, unthinkable trauma they bring into our lives and to the people who we love. When our adrenals no longer function as they should, our ability to switch of fight or flee is severely compromised and the symptoms are debilitating to say the least. They include such things as hair loss, appetite problems, sleeping disorders, premature aging, the risk of heart attack or stroke, and many other dis-eases due to a stressed immune system – including cancer. (more…)

 

Adrenal malfunction is serious and it is a chronic problem for so many people in this Community.

It’s the common by-product of the horrific impact of narcissistic abuse – when our stress hormones go into overdrive trying to cope with the crazy-making, the unsafe twists, turns and stunts that narcissists do, as well as the malicious, unthinkable trauma they bring into our lives and to the people who we love.

When our adrenals no longer function as they should, our ability to switch of fight or flee is severely compromised and the symptoms are debilitating to say the least.

They include such things as hair loss, appetite problems, sleeping disorders, premature aging, the risk of heart attack or stroke, and many other dis-eases due to a stressed immune system – including cancer.

How To Trust Again After The Person You Loved Didn’t Love You

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Our most painful traumas are the ones that hurt our heart. Again and again people agonise, as I did too, with the hardest thing to get over – the realisation that this person did not love you. How can we hope to love again after knowing that the love we were invested in was a lie? How can we even consider opening up and taking the risk with our mind, souls and hearts again? Many people don’t ... they concede it is too risky and too painful and feel that they simply couldn’t survive that level of emotional devastation again. (more…)

 

Our most painful traumas are the ones that hurt our heart.

Again and again people agonise, as I did too, with the hardest thing to get over – the realisation that this person did not love you.

How can we hope to love again after knowing that the love we were invested in was a lie?

How can we even consider opening up and taking the risk with our mind, souls and hearts again?

Many people don’t … they concede it is too risky and too painful and feel that they simply couldn’t survive that level of emotional devastation again.

Gaslighting – How A Narcissist Destroys You By Eroding Your Sanity

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  “Gaslighting” is an expression that many people in narcissistic abuse circles have heard. The term owes its origin to a 1938 play “Gas Light” and its 1944 film adaptation. It’s the insidious way narcissists get us to doubt our own sanity, and cause us to be twisted and turned into not knowing what is real or not real. Gaslighting is about untruths, or at the very least stretching facts. It is about punishing people and fabricating information to suit one’s own agenda. It is about confusing you, stripping your power and getting you to distrust yourself. (more…)

 

“Gaslighting” is an expression that many people in narcissistic abuse circles have heard.

The term owes its origin to a 1938 play “Gas Light” and its 1944 film adaptation.

It’s the insidious way narcissists get us to doubt our own sanity, and cause us to be twisted and turned into not knowing what is real or not real.

Gaslighting is about untruths, or at the very least stretching facts. It is about punishing people and fabricating information to suit one’s own agenda.

It is about confusing you, stripping your power and getting you to distrust yourself.

How To Open Yourself To Prosperity After Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  One of the most painful, devastating and traumatic issues after being narcissistically abused is: How on earth am I going to re-start my life? Most people, when suffering narcissistic abuse, are also financially abused. It is one of the ways that a narcissist punishes and controls the most. You may have personally lost everything … Or close to everything that you worked so hard to achieve, to this point. (more…)

 

One of the most painful, devastating and traumatic issues after being narcissistically abused is:

How on earth am I going to re-start my life?

Most people, when suffering narcissistic abuse, are also financially abused. It is one of the ways that a narcissist punishes and controls the most.

You may have personally lost everything …

Or close to everything that you worked so hard to achieve, to this point.