What Is The Most Powerful Narcissist Inoculation?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Being abused by a narcissist is one of the most traumatic experiences that could ever happen to you. It left you reeling. It was like your life-force was sucked out, and then you were left trying to deal with a “self” who felt like an empty, traumatised shell. I know, just like me, you never want to go through that again. In fact, the possibility is unthinkable. And to avoid that, this is what we are inclined to do – try to arm ourselves with as much information and knowledge possible regarding how to spot a narcissist and avoid them. (more…)

 

Being abused by a narcissist is one of the most traumatic experiences that could ever happen to you.

It left you reeling.

It was like your life-force was sucked out, and then you were left trying to deal with a “self” who felt like an empty, traumatised shell.

I know, just like me, you never want to go through that again. In fact, the possibility is unthinkable.

And to avoid that, this is what we are inclined to do – try to arm ourselves with as much information and knowledge possible regarding how to spot a narcissist and avoid them.

Why Do Narcissists Pathologically Lie?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Why do narcissists lie? Why do they struggle to tell the truth? Why do they often lie even when there is no apparent reason for them to lie? Of course we may think it is to manipulate and twist and turn people and abuse them – to deceive and purposefully confuse others and hurt them … but is it? Is there something deeper going on as to why lying is such an ingrained personality disorder for narcissists? When you experience the trauma of continual lies, you may begin to question everything including your own sanity. You don’t know what is true or false anymore and things get so crazy that you start to question if the narcissist even knows the difference. (more…)

 

Why do narcissists lie? Why do they struggle to tell the truth? Why do they often lie even when there is no apparent reason for them to lie?

Of course we may think it is to manipulate and twist and turn people and abuse them – to deceive and purposefully confuse others and hurt them … but is it?

Is there something deeper going on as to why lying is such an ingrained personality disorder for narcissists?

When you experience the trauma of continual lies, you may begin to question everything including your own sanity. You don’t know what is true or false anymore and things get so crazy that you start to question if the narcissist even knows the difference.

Can You Heal While You Are Still With A Narcissist?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know we all hear time and time again how you should just leave, create No Contact and THEN start healing. And … I do agree that No Contact and leaving before trying to heal is often the best way to recover. Yet, maybe you just can’t do that – because of children, or a combined business or you don’t have anywhere to go yet. Or maybe … and this reason is a big reason … because you know you just don’t have the resources or the strength or the emotional capacity to do it yet. You simply may be too traumatised, addicted, hooked and or frightened to let go. (more…)

 

I know we all hear time and time again how you should just leave, create No Contact and THEN start healing. And … I do agree that No Contact and leaving before trying to heal is often the best way to recover.

Yet, maybe you just can’t do that – because of children, or a combined business or you don’t have anywhere to go yet.

Or maybe … and this reason is a big reason … because you know you just don’t have the resources or the strength or the emotional capacity to do it yet. You simply may be too traumatised, addicted, hooked and or frightened to let go.

The Dangers Of The Cerebral Narcissist And How To Avoid Them

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Today I want to talk to you about cerebral narcissists – the high-functioning variety. In many ways an intelligent, successful, high-functioning narcissist may be among the most dangerous of all, because they are hard to detect. This person may literally hide their personality disorder, from the world at large, for their entire life. A high-functioning cerebral narcissist is very, very skilled at fitting in, getting people to like them, trust them, follow their orders and admire them. They are energetic, purpose drive and highly articulate and they are often in high positions of power. (more…)

 

Today I want to talk to you about cerebral narcissists – the high-functioning variety.

In many ways an intelligent, successful, high-functioning narcissist may be among the most dangerous of all, because they are hard to detect.

This person may literally hide their personality disorder, from the world at large, for their entire life.

A high-functioning cerebral narcissist is very, very skilled at fitting in, getting people to like them, trust them, follow their orders and admire them. They are energetic, purpose drive and highly articulate and they are often in high positions of power.

Emotional Blackmail – The Devastating Weapon A Narcissist Uses To Betray You

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Today's episode is about a tragic situation you may have, or may still be dealing with, as a result of getting involved with a narcissist ... When they turn the tables and use your sensitive information against you. At first we did not realize that a narcissist is like the CIA building a dossier of information on us. We simply thought their attentiveness and attention was about genuine affection ... but the truth is it was about something much more sinister. (more…)

 

Today’s episode is about a tragic situation you may have, or may still be dealing with, as a result of getting involved with a narcissist …

When they turn the tables and use your sensitive information against you.

At first we did not realize that a narcissist is like the CIA building a dossier of information on us.

We simply thought their attentiveness and attention was about genuine affection … but the truth is it was about something much more sinister.

Why Unconditional Love Is The Key To A Fulfilling And Joyful Life

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I’ve been looking forward to covering this topic for some time, because there is much debate about the following question. What is unconditional love? Does it mean we give and give and give to others even when it hurts us? Does it mean that we give with no need for return? I believe knowing the answers to these questions is vital, because understanding exactly what unconditional love is and how to apply it to yourself and others has the power to not just heal yourself, but heal the entire world. (more…)

 

I’ve been looking forward to covering this topic for some time, because there is much debate about the following question.

What is unconditional love?

Does it mean we give and give and give to others even when it hurts us?

Does it mean that we give with no need for return?

I believe knowing the answers to these questions is vital, because understanding exactly what unconditional love is and how to apply it to yourself and others has the power to not just heal yourself, but heal the entire world.

What To Do When A Narcissist Swiftly Replaces You And Flaunts Their New Supply

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Is there any more soul crushing and punishing thing in our life than to be replaced with another love partner? Possibly not. And how horrifying is it to see the evidence of the narcissist and their new lover plastered all over social media enjoying a wonderful loved up time, whilst we can barely get out of bed, let alone function normally. If we have been discarded and replaced in a heartbeat, and the narcissist is cruelly rubbing our nose in it, the trauma may be so horrific that we feel like we want to literally die. (more…)

 

Is there any more soul crushing and punishing thing in our life than to be replaced with another love partner?

Possibly not.

And how horrifying is it to see the evidence of the narcissist and their new lover plastered all over social media enjoying a wonderful loved up time, whilst we can barely get out of bed, let alone function normally.

If we have been discarded and replaced in a heartbeat, and the narcissist is cruelly rubbing our nose in it, the trauma may be so horrific that we feel like we want to literally die.

10 Lessons Learned From Being Married To A Narcissist

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  Being married to a narcissist taught me so much about myself, life and relationships that nothing other than being married to a narcissist could have taught me. Little did I know that the greatest crash-course I could imagine to the evolution of myself would be the by-product of being married to a narcissist – forever cleaning up my previous false beliefs that hadn’t been serving me. I finally gave up being a victim and took on the Thriver Way of personal responsibility – self-partnering, finding and releasing my wounds and growing up my under-developed Inner Identity parts up. (more…)

 

Being married to a narcissist taught me so much about myself, life and relationships that nothing other than being married to a narcissist could have taught me.

Little did I know that the greatest crash-course I could imagine to the evolution of myself would be the by-product of being married to a narcissist – forever cleaning up my previous false beliefs that hadn’t been serving me.

I finally gave up being a victim and took on the Thriver Way of personal responsibility – self-partnering, finding and releasing my wounds and growing up my under-developed Inner Identity parts up.

Why Narcissists Are So Cruel To You But Kind To Everyone Else

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  When you start trying to explain the behaviour of a narcissist to someone else, they will more often than not counter your words by saying … “But he is such a great guy!” You can see them thinking … “Why is she so ungrateful?” And of course many people outside of the family home love the narcissistic woman because she is so accommodating, hospitable and charming and is always there to help anyone in need. But, we know this is SO not our experience of them! (more…)

 

When you start trying to explain the behaviour of a narcissist to someone else, they will more often than not counter your words by saying …

“But he is such a great guy!”

You can see them thinking … “Why is she so ungrateful?”

And of course many people outside of the family home love the narcissistic woman because she is so accommodating, hospitable and charming and is always there to help anyone in need.

But, we know this is SO not our experience of them!