Why People Attract Narcissists

 

It’s a sad truth, that if we’ve been hooked by a narcissist in the past, it’s very likely that we’ll have encounters with more in the future.

You may have had the experience of seeing narcissists ‘everywhere’ and feel like a small fish in a sea of sharks every time you step foot out into the world.

If you are anything like I was, you might be incredibly sick of continually attracting toxic people into your life and just wish that you could finally connect with healthy, authentic and supportive people instead.

How do we do this?

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Why Narcissists Use Silent Treatment

Narcissistic silent treatment is something that virtually every narcissist delivers skillfully.

Ironically it’s the horrible blow that they themselves are terrified of – being rendered invalid, invisible and totally redundant. We all know what it is to ignore or be ignored – we may have snubbed someone at sometime in our life, or we may have been given the “cold shoulder” ourselves. We all clearly know silent treatment means this: “I disapprove of you or something you’ve done”.

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How To Use The Holiday Period To Heal In The Most Spectacular Way

 

First off, I want to wish all of our lovely American Thriver Family a wonderful Thanksgiving this week!

Because we are heading into the holiday season, I really wanted to do this Thriver TV episode to help you stay safe and maintain your peace this Christmas …

And also to explain how you can use this time to heal in the most spectacular way.

If you are dreading holiday time, my heart goes out to you. You may still be suffering the trauma of what happened to you, or be in terrible battles with the narcissist over custody and property.

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How Narcissistic Abuse Taught Me To Be A Source To Myself

 

I talk in the Community a lot about how important it is to become a source to ourselves to stop handing power over to narcissists – False Selves. And also so that we become powerful creators of our lives without dependence on anyone else to provide it for us.

And then I realised – I had never done a Thriver TV episode specifically on this!

In today’s video, I will address the four key elements of self: self-love, self-approval, security and survival and how you can identify if you are deficient in some or all of these areas.

Personally, before recovering from narcissistic abuse, despite appearing outwardly that I had my life together, I was a complete disaster in all of these areas.

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How To Forgive Yourself For Falling For A Narcissist: Love After Abuse Series

 

One of the hardest things about recovering from narcissistic abuse is that we have to reconcile with the fact that we put so much of our time, love and resources into someone who wasn’t even real.

You may be carrying a lot of shame about the fact that your life is now in a far worse state, as a result of the relationship.

And worse yet, you may have lost total faith in yourself for making the decisions you did in the past.

I want you to understand this, right from the onset, often even more than having to forgive the narcissist – we have to forgive ourselves. And the irony is: unless we forgive ourselves we can’t forgive and be released from any of this, and we can’t forgive the process and what happened to us.

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Pathological Jealousy And Narcissism – Why You Can Never Earn Their Trust

 

If you have ever experienced the pathological jealousy of a narcissist, you know it goes a long way beyond being merely insecure.

In today’s Thriver TV episode, I explain to you the difference between the narcissist’s levels of pathological jealousy and what we would term as “normal” levels of jealousy, and what the steps are to recognising it.

We also go through how narcissists play out pathological envy … and I’m going to explain to you how I released myself and healed from the pattern of jealous and controlling partners.

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Narcissistic Fathers – Healing Yourself And Protecting Your Children From A Toxic Upbringing

The destruction of narcissistic fathers is far-reaching and is a problem that is truly plaguing our world. Many of you may have experienced that, with a narcissistic father, your boundaries couldn’t develop – because you didn’t have any. It is also likely that, no matter what you ever did, it wasn’t enough to earn his love or approval. When you were in need of care, love or advice, the conversations became about all about him and about his problems, blaming you or telling you what you were or weren’t doing to make him happy.

The effect on a child’s self-worth and self-value can be devastating – but how does this affect females and males differently? What happens to adult children of narcissistic fathers in their future relationships? Please know it IS possible for people to heal from the inner devastation of a narcissistic parent (mother or father), even if abuse is all you have ever known and even if it has continued into your adult life, as so many people in this Thriver Community have achieved.

In this Thriver TV episode, I’m going to cover how you can heal yourself from a toxic upbringing. I also talk about co-parenting with a narcissistic father and how you can help your sons and daughters survive, heal and Thrive despite this. It is my deepest wish that I can grant you relief and solutions for you and your children, from the terrible wounds of a narcissistic father.

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7 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact

 

Going no contact with a narcissist, and holding it, is excruciatingly difficult.

Firstly, there are the terrible feelings of loss of leaving someone, and a life, that you poured your heart and soul into.

And … maybe … if we have just tried “that”, or if he or she had done “that” … that it could have worked.

And then there’s the chaotic thoughts in our head trying to see into the future to predict …

What are they going to do next?

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Are Narcissists Evil? A Thriver TV Halloween Special!

 

The costume might be a bit of fun, yet today’s Thriver TV episode is a really deep, interesting and serious one.

It tackles these questions that so many of us have asked: What is evil? Is the narcissist evil?

We all know the feeling of ice in our veins and the horrible disbelief we feel, and the dread and unspeakable trauma when connected to a narcissist. We know it feels intensely evil.

It also feels like a creepy psychic phenomenon – not unlike the Dementors in Harry Potter who can literally suck your soul and lifeforce from you.

Is this undeniable energetic force that is going on “evil”?

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