How Covert Narcissist Lure Empaths As Their Victims

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Covert narcissists are amongst the sneakiest, most dangerous narcissists of all because they operate like stealth bombers. You know something is wrong with the way they behave and how you feel – but you just can’t quite put your finger on it. Being connected with a covert narcissist is no less than experiencing psychological warfare, as you find yourself being turned in circles – and knots – eventually barely even knowing what is UP or DOWN. If you are in a relationship with a covert narcissist, it would be usual for you to feel incredibly unsafe and on edge, and to start checking up, investigating him or her, and feeling like you are losing your mind. (more…)

 

Covert narcissists are amongst the sneakiest, most dangerous narcissists of all because they operate like stealth bombers.

You know something is wrong with the way they behave and how you feel – but you just can’t quite put your finger on it.

Being connected with a covert narcissist is no less than experiencing psychological warfare, as you find yourself being turned in circles – and knots – eventually barely even knowing what is UP or DOWN.

If you are in a relationship with a covert narcissist, it would be usual for you to feel incredibly unsafe and on edge, and to start checking up, investigating him or her, and feeling like you are losing your mind.

How To Find Closure When A Narcissist Discards You

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  Is there anything more painful than being discarded? Have you felt, or are you feeling that TERRIBLE feeling … when you are curled up in the corner after being deserted by someone you believed loved you … thinking this: “I am NOT wanted”? That’s painful enough in a normal relationship! And when we are discarded by a NARCISSIST, the trauma is amplified significantly, because it is not their intention to let you get on with having a happy, healthy life after leaving you. (more…)

 

Is there anything more painful than being discarded?

Have you felt, or are you feeling that TERRIBLE feeling … when you are curled up in the corner after being deserted by someone you believed loved you … thinking this:

“I am NOT wanted”?

That’s painful enough in a normal relationship! And when we are discarded by a NARCISSIST, the trauma is amplified significantly, because it is not their intention to let you get on with having a happy, healthy life after leaving you.

My Favourite Way To Set Boundaries That Stick

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  Setting boundaries can be incredibly confusing and sometimes even terrifying. What if you’re unclear about your personal rights? Or, are susceptible to being talked out of them? How on earth do you get people to respect your boundaries – even if you can identify them and express them? Is it possible to lay boundaries, not get sucked into arguments about them, and just have them stick? (more…)

 

Setting boundaries can be incredibly confusing and sometimes even terrifying.

What if you’re unclear about your personal rights?

Or, are susceptible to being talked out of them?

How on earth do you get people to respect your boundaries – even if you can identify them and express them?

Is it possible to lay boundaries, not get sucked into arguments about them, and just have them stick?

How To Stop A Narcissist From Hurting You

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  I know all too well how difficult it can be to go through a tirade of narcissistic punishment. When the narcissist's mask drops, it's like being in the middle of your own horror story with the exits closed. You are face to face with brutal verbal, emotional, and maybe even physical punishment. Your head is spinning, and you can barely breathe, with the threats, words and actions that are happening which are so cruel and vicious. (more…)

 

I know all too well how difficult it can be to go through a tirade of narcissistic punishment.

When the narcissist’s mask drops, it’s like being in the middle of your own horror story with the exits closed.

You are face to face with brutal verbal, emotional, and maybe even physical punishment.

Your head is spinning, and you can barely breathe, with the threats, words and actions that are happening which are so cruel and vicious.

Love After Narcissistic Abuse – How To Stop Attracting Toxic People

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  First off I want to wish you a happy Valentine's day. And I know, many of you may be doing it tough ... this day can be a very painful one in this community. (Big hugs to you if that is the case.) And that is what today's Thriver TV episode is all about ... breaking through so that NEXT Valentine's Day (if this one isn't already) will be beautiful and amazing for you. I really love this topic for Valentine’s day – its big, it's juicy and it's life-changing. (more…)

 

First off I want to wish you a happy Valentine’s day.

And I know, many of you may be doing it tough … this day can be a very painful one in this community.

(Big hugs to you if that is the case.)

And that is what today’s Thriver TV episode is all about … breaking through so that NEXT Valentine’s Day (if this one isn’t already) will be beautiful and amazing for you.

I really love this topic for Valentine’s day – its big, it’s juicy and it’s life-changing.

How To Be Hoover Proof This Valentine’s Day

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  Valentine’s Day can be a very traumatic and painful time for many people in this community. From my experience, it's a narcissist's favourite time to hoover. And naturally, if we are still reeling in the pain and confusion of being originally adored, and then devalued and discarded, we may hope we'll be able to resist a narcissistic hoover attempt. But can we? It is SO much easier said than done! And then there is another potentially painful situation, which is: you may not receive contact from the narcissist this Valentine’s Day at all. And, until healed from your inner trauma, this may feel devastating. (more…)

 

Valentine’s Day can be a very traumatic and painful time for many people in this community.

From my experience, it’s a narcissist’s favourite time to hoover.

And naturally, if we are still reeling in the pain and confusion of being originally adored, and then devalued and discarded, we may hope we’ll be able to resist a narcissistic hoover attempt.

But can we?

It is SO much easier said than done!

And then there is another potentially painful situation, which is: you may not receive contact from the narcissist this Valentine’s Day at all. And, until healed from your inner trauma, this may feel devastating.

Thriver TV Is Back For 2018 + A Huge Announcement

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  It’s SO good to be back. This is our first Thriver TV back for 2018, and I am very excited for this year! Thank you for being so patient and letting me have such a lovely Thriver renewal break from doing videos and articles over January … it was divine! And I hope with all my heart that you were able to have some downtime, doing the things you enjoy and being with those that you love over the holiday break, to nourish your mind, body and soul too. It’s so important for us Thrivers to rejuvenate. Personally – I feel so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed right now! (more…)

 

It’s SO good to be back.

This is our first Thriver TV back for 2018, and I am very excited for this year!

Thank you for being so patient and letting me have such a lovely Thriver renewal break from doing videos and articles over January … it was divine!

And I hope with all my heart that you were able to have some downtime, doing the things you enjoy and being with those that you love over the holiday break, to nourish your mind, body and soul too.

It’s so important for us Thrivers to rejuvenate. Personally – I feel so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed right now!