When The Narcissist Makes You Out To Be The Crazy One

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  If you've been in a narcissistic relationship it's very likely you've heard the following words... Look at you, you are crazy!’ You need professional help! Everyone else can see it but you! The thing is, when you a wrapped up in a toxic relationship you are LOSING your mind. You do feel despair, rage, confusion and panic … regularly. You are triggered into feelings and reactions that you didn’t even know you were capable of. (more…)

 

If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship it’s very likely you’ve heard the following words…

Look at you, you are crazy!’

You need professional help!

Everyone else can see it but you!

The thing is, when you a wrapped up in a toxic relationship you are LOSING your mind. You do feel despair, rage, confusion and panic … regularly.

You are triggered into feelings and reactions that you didn’t even know you were capable of.

5 Steps To Dealing With Narcissists In Difficult Situations

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Trying to deal with a narcissist, challenges every fiber of your Being. If you've tried to manage a narcissist in a difficult situation, you know you're triggered beyond the point of ridiculous - struggling to be heard and unable to create sense out of the madness. All whilst the narcissist dances around you tearing up your efforts, emotions, and sanity. By this stage, you've tragically discovered the normal rules of human engagement don’t apply – rather it's all about the narcissist doing whatever is necessary for them to get their own way. So how CAN you deal with someone who has NO INTENTION of complying, playing team or doing the right thing? (more…)

 

Trying to deal with a narcissist, challenges every fiber of your Being.

If you’ve tried to manage a narcissist in a difficult situation, you know you’re triggered beyond the point of ridiculous – struggling to be heard and unable to create sense out of the madness.

All whilst the narcissist dances around you tearing up your efforts, emotions, and sanity.

By this stage, you’ve tragically discovered the normal rules of human engagement don’t apply – rather it’s all about the narcissist doing whatever is necessary for them to get their own way.

So how CAN you deal with someone who has NO INTENTION of complying, playing team or doing the right thing?

Why I No Longer Get Triggered By Narcissists

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Being triggered by narcissists is excruciatingly painful. And … the narcissist doesn’t even have to be in your life. It can be the horror of a bomb going off inside you when you see something that reminds you of them. Or, talking to someone about what you've been through. And, of course, there is the threat that you could bump into the narcissist, or heaven forbid come up against another narcissist in your life somewhere in the future. (more…)

 

Being triggered by narcissists is excruciatingly painful.

And … the narcissist doesn’t even have to be in your life.

It can be the horror of a bomb going off inside you when you see something that reminds you of them.

Or, talking to someone about what you’ve been through.

And, of course, there is the threat that you could bump into the narcissist, or heaven forbid come up against another narcissist in your life somewhere in the future.

How To Speak Up Without Fear Of C.R.A.P

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Do you relate to feeling like you don't have any rights regarding you opinions, values or needs? Perhaps this has made it very uncomfortable for you to speak up in your relationships. If so, it's also likely that you've experienced first hand, being silenced, invalidated or abandoned when you've tried to speak up. Maybe, you were made to feel wrong or defective for attempting to assert your rights. Or perhaps the fear was so intense it literally felt like this for you: If I speak up I’m going to get hurt, REALLY hurt. … or maybe even annihilated. (more…)

 

Do you relate to feeling like you don’t have any rights regarding you opinions, values or needs?

Perhaps this has made it very uncomfortable for you to speak up in your relationships.

If so, it’s also likely that you’ve experienced first hand, being silenced, invalidated or abandoned when you’ve tried to speak up.

Maybe, you were made to feel wrong or defective for attempting to assert your rights.

Or perhaps the fear was so intense it literally felt like this for you: If I speak up I’m going to get hurt, REALLY hurt. … or maybe even annihilated.

What Is The Fate Of A Narcissist?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it. Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources ... and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed. Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things. Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed? Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts? (more…)

 

I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it.

Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources … and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed.

Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things.

Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed?

Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts?

Losing Your Best Years To Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It's nothing short of devastating to end a relationship with a narcissist and feel like your "best years" are behind you. I truly can’t tell you how often people have shared with me the terrible trauma of losing the best years of their life to a narcissist. Things like: “I gave up my career to support the narcissist and now its too late for me to reclaim those years and opportunities” ... and … “The narcissist dangled the possibility of children constantly, and now I’m too old to have them” … and …. (more…)

 

It’s nothing short of devastating to end a relationship with a narcissist and feel like your “best years” are behind you.

I truly can’t tell you how often people have shared with me the terrible trauma of losing the best years of their life to a narcissist.

Things like:

“I gave up my career to support the narcissist and now its too late for me to reclaim those years and opportunities” … and …

“The narcissist dangled the possibility of children constantly, and now I’m too old to have them” … and ….