LOL..Mission Accomplished!! Mine just told me today 7/14/2022…”I Know you don’t care”😁

Molly –
I find your response here incredibly inspiring and helpful to my similar challenges. These vestiges of resentment and capacity to be triggered, may be gifts to help lock us into the regular daily healing work instead of drifting back into long developed patterns. You are seeing it work, too.

This work, this releasing of these dark patterns into liberation, is divine work and will help us lead the way for others, as you are doing right now. I feel so incredibly supported by you, Peter, Man from California and of course, Melanie, for her magically relevant and timely video and dedication to helping others.

We need to reflect that same devotion to healing back to ourselves doing the inner work by skillfully working it, Modules 2, 3, 4, and 6, for me, and sticking with it. That’s all talk and no ‘do’ but I am inspired to ‘do’ because I have a feeling I will be helping others by targeting the emotion in my body that is triggering, releasing it and bringing in that light.

I so appreciate your sharing. Thank You!

Doug

Hi Ruth,

Please know how welcome you are!

Well done – what you have achieved is MASSIVE!

I love that you are healing and thank you for your lovely words.

It really is the enigma code!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Michelle,

if you contact one of my lovely team at support@melanietoniaevans.com they will let you know about my personal sessions.

Also, I highly recommend reaching out to the NARP Member’s Frum at http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member for help and support … it really is invaluable.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Molly!
Same here! 4 1/2 years ago I didn’t know where to turn. I knew very little about narcissism. I had heard the term and was beginning to explore the Internet with the hope that maybe I would understand more about what I was going through, having been told that my marital partner was behaving narcissistically.
Out of the blue, Melanie’s name and the NARP program came up…. within a very short period of time I joined NARP.
Well, it’s been quite a journey since! I’ve met incredible people in the forum and have this amazing opportunity to hear Melanie speak anytime I wish and to read her writings and articles and use the modules anytime I wish or need help.
I do believe that we are shown certain things at specific times and I know for certain that I was guided to NARP for very specific reasons as I desperately needed the help and guidance that only NARP provides to us….
It is always good to read your comments and your story and hear about your progress towards recovery. Thanks for always sharing! 💞

I’ve had some members of my family “sell me out” when I (thought I) needed them the most. What that actually did is strengthen my own foundations: these are the “real authentic experiences” that underpin the incredible-at-times growth that this sort of healing entails.

An important component of what I am learning is that “caring what others think of me” (and then “not”) is a process: at first, it deeply hurts that the neglect, lying, withholding and other cruelties you refer to we take so, so personally. It hurts so much. Then, we realize that to hurt us is actually part of their intentions, as they are “channeling the darkness” (whether they know it or not). I have learned that these lost souls (or deliberately mean people, take your pick) can safely fade away from my interactions with this world. Yes, some of them I have known my entire life and “losing” them feels like a loss, a painful separation. Yet as I do this, I gain the real experience of noticing that my life is more and more surrounded with GOOD people, POSITIVE people who resonate with Light and our OWN power, not the parasitic draining of others for their own sick jollies. And as I notice this, and it grows, it truly makes a difference in my daily attitudes and outlook. This is real healing.

Your “bizarre” experiences are practically “textbook predictable,” given the abhorrent behavior of these sad, broken people. I don’t say that to diminish your experiences — quite the opposite — your realization that these liars and fakers is an awakening in yourself to be celebrated! It is your growth and thriver-hood blossoming! See this for what it is and cherish that this authenticity is part of the powerful process of you allowing Light into your heart and having it shine both inward and outward.

“The truth comes to the light,” indeed! No need to prove anything (to others): YOU already “know,” and that is what really counts. Please keep on your Particular Path, as it seems to me (and I’d guess to many others here) that you are marching forward into your best life ever.

Thank you for keeping the videos coming. Even if I’m not in the program, I’ve read the book and I keep getting impulses for new turns in my personal recovery process.

What came to my mind this time was that when the narcissist in your life, or my life to be specific, is a parent, terms like “walking away”, “codependency” etc.take on a different meaning. The early childhood conditioning, which is the narcissist’s legacy, is part of my personality now, so in a sense I have to walk away from a part of myself. The adult shame of having tried to copy the narcissistic behaviour, thinking that this was the way the would was supposed to work, has been intense. This shame replaced the old childhood shame of failing to please the narcissist and failing to fix the situation the way children try to do, which I’m now of course in principle very happy about. I cannot begin to describe the relief at realizing that I’ve always felt empathy instinctively. But it has been a complicated lot of shame, anger, fear and sadness to identify and let go of. And that is after I decided to stop yielding to my now 90-ish year old parents, which has been a process in itself.

I’m writing this comment as a celebration of the fact that it has been possible to separate all these elements and “update” a major part of my belief system. And yes, people around me are starting to respond differently!

Again, thank you for input and inspiration.