Hi Maxine,

I am so pleased that you come across my information and that is helping so much.

I really do believe that the truth does help set us free, so much.

I am so sorry that your cruise has been cancelled, yet this is still such a celebration of you regaining and healing yourself.

You are on your way!

Maxime, I really encourage you to have a look at my core healing program NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp because that is where the membership and the magic truly happen within this community. It also connects you to a 24/7 Membership of Thrivers who are your soul brothers and sisters who understand exactly what you have been through, as well is what it takes to fully recover and thrive. This is the entire step-by-step process that I and so many others have used to completely detox our inner beings and free ourselves to our True glorious Self and Life.

I can’t recommend NARP enough as the total system to achieve this.

Sending you so much love

Mel 🙏💕💚

Okay let’s be honest! How many points out of 22 did you answer ‘Yes’ to? (17) After performing this exercise have your realised how co-dependency has been a big issue in your life? ( I was aware of this and have done a lot of self healing in the past.
of my yeses were sometimes or in relationship vs always. I know that years ago I would have had 22 resounding yeses. I am glad to see improvement & glad to see what three item are still highly rated pains and in need of work) What was the biggest co-dependent area for you personally? ( Leaving a person/ situation that is painful, for fear of being alone…not being able to find better)

Exercise Two:

When you tapped into your co-dependent areas (the times when you aren’t in your emotional truth or personal power) did you discover the reasons why you aren’t? A lot of caretaking was required of me when I was young to receive love…so for me making others happy= getting love & making others angry = no love…not caretakung and keeping happy = rejection = alone = a deep reminder of aloneness in childhood which was terrifying ) What
realisations has this granted you? (I know logically that as an adult I am capable of surviving & from all I have been through I am a survivor therefore I do not need to fear being alone as I once did. This fear is outdated.) How do you feel about this now? ( Hopeful that I can get the logic to sink into my ‘feeling of childhood fear’ but not 100% sure how).

Exercise Three:

How did you feel about reframing these times when you know you aren’t being authentic? ( I like the reframe but again, how do I absorb this as a feeling on a vibrational level. I can know this ,write it & read it but don’t 100% feel it??) Do you feel like you can apply yourself to changing these co-dependent patterns? ( Trying trying trying) Can you feel the difference this will make to outcomes in your life? ( I have worked for years on these issues as I know how they effect me…I just want to be healed, fully accepting & full!!!)

I really want to win so I can try your program, bc I cannot currently afford to buy it!!! I know I’m behind but please include me 😉

Okay let’s be honest! How many points out of 22 did you answer ‘Yes’ to? (17) After performing this exercise have your realised how co-dependency has been a big issue in your life? ( I was aware of this and have done a lot of self healing in the past. Alot of my yeses were sometimes or in relationship vs always. I know that years ago I would have had 22 resounding yeses. I am glad to see improvement & glad to see what three item are still highly rated pains and in need of work) What was the biggest co-dependent area for you personally? ( Leaving a person/ situation that is painful, for fear of being alone…not being able to find better)

Exercise Two:

When you tapped into your co-dependent areas (the times when you aren’t in your emotional truth or personal power) did you discover the reasons why you aren’t? A lot of caretaking was required of me when I was young to receive love…so for me making others happy= getting love & making others angry = no love…not caretakung and keeping happy = rejection = alone = a deep reminder of aloneness in childhood which was terrifying ) What realisations has this granted you? (I know logically that as an adult I am capable of surviving & from all I have been through I am a survivor therefore I do not need to fear being alone as I once did. This fear is outdated.) How do you feel about this now? ( Hopeful that I can get the logic to sink into my ‘feeling of childhood fear’ but not 100% sure how).

Exercise Three:

How did you feel about reframing these times when you know you aren’t being authentic? ( I like the reframe but again, how do I absorb this as a feeling on a vibrational level. I can know this ,write it & read it but don’t 100% feel it??) Do you feel like you can apply yourself to changing these co-dependent patterns? ( Trying trying trying) Can you feel the difference this will make to outcomes in your life? ( I have worked for years on these issues as I know how they effect me…I just want to be healed, fully accepting & full!!!)

I really want to win so I can try your program, bc I cannot currently afford to buy it!!! S I know I’m behind but please include me 😉

Okay let’s be honest! How many points out of 22 did you answer ‘Yes’ to? After performing this exercise have your realised how co-dependency has been a big issue in your life? What was the biggest co-dependent area for you personally?

18, yes this was really an eye opener a relief to know Im not the only person thinking these things!! ha very relieving actually also to know that I dont have to think these things – I can let it go.. But scratched the bottom of where they were coming from. My biggest issue and caught myself out doing it recently- do you spend a lot of time worrying about what people think!! its my arch nemesis…ahhh anyway got a commitment written down to stop it so I will stick with that.

Exercise Two:

When you tapped into your co-dependent areas (the times when you aren’t in your emotional truth or personal power) did you discover the reasons why you aren’t? What realisations has this granted you? How do you feel about this now?

I realised that I didnt trust my own thoughts and feelings and I was worried I would make a mistake. Most of my power was with my ex-narc which is very strange to observe now that I have this knowledge to use and think with when he is around-very interesting and puts it all in its place. Also a lot of childhood memories and apparent issues. Also I have had mainly people in my life who were not on ‘my side’ or supported me. I have felt very alone for a long time. Not anymore though.

Now I put my efforts into supporting my feelings,thoughts and intuitions without worrying about mistakes because I know mistakes are important anyway and Im usually right when I follow my gut.

Exercise Three:

How did you feel about reframing these times when you know you aren’t being authentic? Do you feel like you can apply yourself to changing these co-dependent patterns? Can you feel the difference this will make to outcomes in your life?

Yes I feel I still need to work positively on reinforcing what I have written but I love reading this because when I read it it comes from within-sounds strange but then it makes me feel happy and strong because it makes sense. When I do catch myself out, I annalyse why im doing that-its usually for outside approval and I try to grant that for myself. to be cont’d ha.

I thought I was doing really well in how I handled this. And what was intersting was in having such a great empowering day and night with my friend, I was hit with that experience. They weren’t having a moment – they made it very plan that they wanted nothing to do with me and I think anyone with any sensibility would have found that hurtful – the point is whether or not it puts me into the place of feeling Im rubbish, which I did not. Because I am not responsible for what other people think of me.
Yesterday the Universe threw another gift in that a new friend showed me the scars where she slashed her wrists. We talked about how “normal” people change their attitude to you when bad things occur in your life – this has certainly happened to me in the past decade since my son was abducted. But the point is to carry on in my own truth x

Hi TJ,

thank you for you post.

Honey I want to be really straight with you here…because there is something you need to understand.

Sweetie there is ‘no outside’..the real question you need to ask in order to take you power back on this is: ‘Why did I draw this experience to me and why did it trigger me’..

The truth is every outer experience if it triggers us is ALWAYS related to an unhealed part – a defunct beleif we have inside ourself.

This relates directly to the wound ‘I am bad / unacceptable’..

This is why the Universe lined this experience up for you.So that you could recognise this and heal this wound.

It is highly unusual for people to go out of their way ‘to be rude’ – that is an assumption.

Before you arrived they could have been having a moment, something in their life was distracting them…etc. etc…

The truth is you will not know ‘why’ – but ‘what did happen’ is the Universe supplied you the results of your belief about yourself via other people.

The REAL ( and only) remedy is to go directly to and release – transform that belief. Then a) You will not ‘draw’ this expereince, and b) If you did it would create no trigger inside you whatsoever..

I hope you understand this – and that I am delivering this message with the utmost sincerity and love, so that you CAN claim the true gift.

Mel xo

Hi Andrea,

This is great that you have been able to understand how easy it is to hand our power over!

These are fantastic inner awarenesses you have gained as a result of ‘going within’ – you have done a wonderful job of connecting to your ‘reasons’.

I am glad you have now learned the importance and personal power in doing this.

This is wonderful stuff, and fantastic to see you doing the 180 degree turn to creating your life from the ‘inside out’, instead of the ‘outside in’..

This is what being ‘real’ is all about – and this is where the authentic joy and truth is!

Great job Andrea, and thank you so much for your post 🙂

Mel xo