Comments on: 4 Powerful Ways To Get Over A Narcissist And Live Your Best Life https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Thu, 25 Nov 2021 00:12:31 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259551 Thu, 25 Nov 2021 00:12:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259551 In reply to Lesley.

Hi Lesley,

I’m so pleased my material is helping you.

My suggestion is letting go of the money, as he can hold it against you to control you, and in my experience, he will not do the right thing and ever pay it.

I recommend NARP more than anything for you to help you heal, empower and go forth to never have to go through this again. NARP will also, in my humble opinion, propel you incredibly in your coaching career to help people.

You can check it out here http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

I hope that this helps

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Lesley https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259529 Wed, 24 Nov 2021 00:56:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259529 Hi Melanie and to all that read this comment,

Melanie, you are quite literally saving my life right now. Where I am in the UK, I feel quite alone on this journey and this community and yourself is really helping me on my journey to healing.

My ex is currently on bail for psychical abuse and I was told to not contact him as it could tempt him into replying and get him in trouble. I did contact him, I missed him. We secretly dated for the last couple of months as he love bombed me and I got sucked back in. I broke up with him, but then missed him but due to the ego damage he then said he’s suddenly lost all emotion towards me etc. I’m now dealing with the silent treatment and I’m more ready to try permanent no contact this time. He does currently owe me money which I want to ask for if he doesn’t pay it into my account when he is paid but I’m also debating just to leave it and count my losses? I’m very nervous that because I contacted him that it will affect what happens in court next year regarding the physical abuse and if I will get into any form of trouble? Which would destroy me further as I’m due to graduate as a well-being coach next year and don’t want it to affect anything.

If anyone has any advice or experiences at all then I’d be very grateful to read them!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259499 Tue, 23 Nov 2021 00:30:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259499 In reply to Jill.

Hi Jill,

it’s very powerful that you made that beautiful promise to yourself!

To help you powerfully get there, and much faster than you may think, I’d love you to come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar
I hope that this can help.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259498 Tue, 23 Nov 2021 00:28:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259498 In reply to Michael.

Hi Michael,

you are very welcome!

I’m so happy for you. Congrats!

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Jill https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259481 Mon, 22 Nov 2021 12:03:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259481 I don’t think I’ve been ready to admit that the relationship I’ve been in these past four years has been an abusive one. Partly because he is so good at twisting and warping every word out of his mouth and mine to the point I’m left so confused I don’t know what’s real and what’s not. I find myself apologizing to him for things he’s done just so that I can keep being a part of his life. I am punished with the silent treatment only because I call him out on the truth and express what I am not okay with. He ignores me for weeks. Sometimes a month, and when he is ready, or he needs something only then do I hear from him and every single time I answer his call. Why? Why do I accept this behavior?

I want to thank you for the work you are doing. Because it’s important, and it’s a very beautiful gift you are giving to women and men who have experienced this type of relationship.

After reading this tonight, for the first time I feel ready to understand what it is I’ve just been through and break away from this man who never cared about me from the beginning.

I guess what I’m having the hardest time with is breaking that energetical cord that keeps me connected to him, and what I am taking away from your message I just read is that, it’s time I shift the focus from him, and focus on myself. Because I deserve to be free from this facade, and free of the abusive games he loves to play.

My promise to myself in this very moment is to never, ever again accept less then I deserve from anyone in my life, to put the time and energy I normally would give to him into the people who truly love me and have my entire life, and to give this man (I don’t really feel like man is the correct word for him) but to give this person a dose of his own medicine. The silent treatment. FOREVER!!! So over it. Beyond over it.

Thank you, thank you, thank you so much! I needed to read this tonight. More then you know ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

]]> By: Michael https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259476 Mon, 22 Nov 2021 10:42:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259476 Thank you Mel, for sharing your experience and the kind way you present these sometimes difficult issues. You have been a great help in understanding and recovering from the narcissistic trauma. I’d like to say you can and will get past this abuse. I’m finally freed last week. House sold and new one bought. Now adjusting to a peaceful life. No more eggshells, snide comments outrageous behaviour. It truly is possible to get past them and not just survive but absolutely thrive. I’m very excited what the future will bring. Bless you and all your good work.

]]> By: Donna https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259467 Mon, 22 Nov 2021 02:43:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259467 I, as an empath, have learned through years of Melanie’s blog and tons of research, trying to learn but also understand the ‘why’ a narcissist is the way they are. It seems to come down to a single factor. The narc has a very fragile ego so they overcompensate; in their self esteem and the destruction of others who are usually empathetic. It appears to me they are incapable of understanding the feelings of other people or feel threatened by them…so they ‘squash’ them.
I have two direct family members who are truly narcissistic in ‘normal’ times. I have seen them in their ‘narcissistic rage’ during these stressful times and wow, talk about seeing the truth. One was directed towards me and another was directed to another family member. Sadly they have destroyed what was once the family camaraderie, for those remaining who don’t understand. This Covid thing is terrible for everyone but it seems that the duration of it has pushed many people beyond being civil. It’s heartbreaking but I feel I have become a wiser empathic person because of it. What an awful way to learn not only for me but for so many others.

]]> By: JJ https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-powerful-ways-to-get-over-a-narcissist-and-live-your-best-life/#comment-1259463 Mon, 22 Nov 2021 00:31:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10254#comment-1259463 Great ~So very true!

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