Comments on: 4 Things You Need To Let Go Of To Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Fri, 18 Mar 2022 06:47:24 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1264642 Sat, 05 Feb 2022 23:33:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1264642 In reply to joanne Monteleone.

Hi Joanne,

my heart goes out to you.

There have been many members in our wonderful NARP community over the years who have suffered this too.

My highest recommendation – for everything regarding narcissists and toxic relationships is to heal ourselves.

That is all that we can do.

NARP is the most powerful solution I know of http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: joanne Monteleone https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1264532 Thu, 03 Feb 2022 09:55:00 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1264532 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

what happens If your narcissist commits suicide? after years of abuse I left and 3 months later he killed himself. I don’t know if he was depressed without me but I couldn’t keep trying to fix him any more.

]]> By: Ida https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1259446 Sun, 21 Nov 2021 00:25:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1259446 In reply to Fay.

That phrase “Let go and let God” I constantly tell myself and it helps me be relieved that a higher Source is helping me as I put in my effort to heal.

]]> By: H. https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1258589 Sun, 31 Oct 2021 22:01:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1258589 Thank you for this post. It is really hard “letting go” after years of abuse, especially the brutal discard phase. Covert narcissists are warped beings, pretending to be “good” human beings in public yet abusive behind closed doors. This is abuse and cannot be normalised. Then their discard phase….no one can be more brutal and inhumane than a certain Finnish architect ; Harri Mutka becomes a monster that no one would ever imagine. His brutality has long lasting consequences.

]]> By: Bobbie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1257365 Thu, 14 Oct 2021 17:21:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1257365 In reply to Peter.

One of my favorite verses ….. this is the NIV translation:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:6

]]> By: Man from California https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1255765 Sat, 28 Aug 2021 18:04:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1255765 Anon83: the very broken people who harm good, loving people like us (like MOST of us) truly do NOT end up with a “happy ending.” That’s more of their “false, fake front” presenting itself, as if it is meant to deliberately hurt us β€” and it does feel hurtful, far too frequently. Please know that these deeply damaged, harmful people will likely never heal from their wounds, so blithe are they to their constant chaos and carnage. But YOU and ME and others like us who are warm and loving (yet imperfect, it’s true), we CAN and DO heal, because we have the space in our hearts to be open to change and improve ourselves.

So don’t be fooled by Cluster B monsters “trying to hurt us” while all they are doing is more of the same broken pattern they feel soothes their deep wounds. It’s a cheap trick that once we see through for what it is, allows us to say “it isn’t up to me to fix them, they might always remain broken.” And importantly, we learn to feel a sense of “I can’t take their behavior personally.” (That’s a difficult one). But we, well, WE have beautiful (battered somewhat, yes) souls that allow us to heal, grow and thrive. I hope this helps. There are many such small steps of realization, but over time, they add up and do much more than simply “help,” they transform us!

]]> By: Anon83 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1255708 Tue, 24 Aug 2021 08:59:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1255708 Thank you so much Mel it means a lot that you replied and that you understand that this is painful. We have mutual friends also and I’m not even sure what to say to them about the situation or if I should just ignore it.

It’s difficult to understand how those that lie and use others seem to end up with the β€œhappy ending” whilst I have been left alone. I do want to let go but this has thrown up all kinds of issues and I don’t know who to trust anymore πŸ˜”

Thank you so much again πŸ™πŸΌ

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1255706 Tue, 24 Aug 2021 06:39:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1255706 In reply to Vicki Elyse Arbeiter.

So thrilled the support team helped you Vicki,

they are amazing!

Looking forward to heaving you in Thrive!

Much Love

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-things-you-need-to-let-go-of-to-break-free-from-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1255705 Tue, 24 Aug 2021 06:38:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9818#comment-1255705 In reply to Anon83.

Hi Anon83,

my heart goes out to you – this is very painful.

I’d love you to check out my free 16 day course, which will help you make sense out of this, get clarity and start to heal.

It has tons of free resources to help you http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

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