Comments on: 4 Ways To Have A Peaceful Narcissist Free Xmas https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Thu, 21 Jan 2021 00:49:15 +0000 hourly 1 By: mary https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1246715 Thu, 21 Jan 2021 00:49:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1246715 hi because we read your articles we were prepared for whatever Narc christmas drama would happen. My daughter is married to the Narc and has a little boy.

she moved in with me in April to be safe from the virus and to get away from the narc.
so come christmas eve… no word from him…. come christmas no word …. oir the next day…. who cares. she was fine. we had a nice time with our family.

His attention getter. the furnance was broken and he was surrounded by space heaters. … oh well.

We appreciate your articles.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245808 Wed, 30 Dec 2020 09:45:16 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245808 In reply to michman.

Hi Michman,

thank you for the poem – it was really great!

Hope you had a wonderful Christmas and a fabulous New Year

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245807 Wed, 30 Dec 2020 09:39:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245807 In reply to Peter@44.

Hi Peter,

that’s great that you are uplevelling and giving yourself the gift of NARP this year!

Congratulations on your separation as painful as it has been, and I’m so happy that myself, NARP and this wonderful community have been able to support you. You are doing such a great job!

Sending continued love and blessings

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: michman https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245738 Sat, 26 Dec 2020 19:55:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245738 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

β€˜Tis the night before Christmas
… all through the house, not a chimera stirring –
not even my louse.
Pray all children’s hearts β€œpa-rum-pa-pum-pum” in their beds.
No need for my bait β€˜n switch – not even my meds.
No woofing or clatter, nor belch of old matters.
Quiet joy hovers high over new fallen snow –
I breathe above the objections – and blow.
Against my wind the Uber pulls upto with quick –
times long ago knew it would be my old β€œtrick”.
Aware un-attention quickly drains her instead,
and lack of response lays her strategy dead.
I see her so new and so clearly and what was there to hack?
She knows this is not punishment, so into shadow turns back,
At last beknownst, yet another un-improvable, perfect end-thrall.
More distilled now the stillness still here,
welcoming everything welcomed, and all.
And then – dash away, dash away, dash away all!
From such a good night . . . Happy Christmas to all.

]]> By: michman https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245737 Sat, 26 Dec 2020 19:51:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245737 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

It’s always been good to receive your and anyone’s acknowledgement and feedback and even absences of. So, in the same joy and gratitude, you also get the final edits that you just prompted, just now made. So as to round out the year in good stead.

]]> By: Peter@44 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245724 Sat, 26 Dec 2020 01:29:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245724 Dear Melanie,
It’s Christmas day where I live and I didn’t see this in my emails till just a few minutes ago. I want to thank you for the four points you spoke about. Today I did a lot of reflection both self and otherwise.
This is my third year now celebrating Christmas and for me Hanukkah as well alone without my exnarcs interference.
The first two years were really difficult but today it was better and the reason it was better is that I was reminded that I can go to the modules for help and I did that! Something inside of me reminded me this afternoon to do that and I did it and it helped!
Even though things seem very difficult as I am finishing the last parts of a separation that has been so cruel, today I felt a distance from all of it!
In some fashion I tried each of the suggestions that you gave to us and in some very small way each one had a significant impact on how I was feeling.
So, that’s about all I can say except thank you so much for all the help that you and others have given me with NARP. β€οΈπŸ™πŸ•Šβ€οΈπŸ¦‹β€οΈπŸ¦‹β€οΈ
Peter@44

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245721 Fri, 25 Dec 2020 20:27:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245721 In reply to Iris.

Darling Iris,

I totally understand what you mean and the frustration.

I promise you at times I need to remind myself as well! I am blessed in that MTE is now a group of incredible team members as well as myself which holds the space lovingly for those awakening and healing.

We are all in this together!

I agree darling lady we are in an exceptional, yet rocky and painful, time that is akin to the most excruciating labour yet … and those awake will be needed more than ever for those awakening.

Be kind to you first and foremost.

Can’t wait to share 2021 with you

My love always

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245720 Fri, 25 Dec 2020 20:17:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245720 In reply to Linda.

Hi Linda,

you are very welcome.

I’m so pleased I can help and sending you and your family much love and blessings.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/4-ways-to-have-a-peaceful-narcissist-free-xmas/#comment-1245719 Fri, 25 Dec 2020 20:10:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8717#comment-1245719 In reply to Linda.

Hi Linda,

its my pleasure.

Thank you and much love to you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

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