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		By: Ruth Hall		</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 09 May 2021 13:27:38 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Hi Melanie , I find your programme and comments really helpful , I was with a full-blown narcissist for 30 years before the Penny finally dropped , we weren&#039;t married , we were friends or so I thought , I can&#039;t believe I have been so slow to GET IT !! My family never liked him but still I thought he was wonderful, he tried to isolate me from family and did unmentionable damage but still struts about refusing to believe that he IS the problem . Unreal . It&#039;s so interesting that you suggest healing from within , I realize I was just an open book ripe for a narc to take advantage of and he did . I am nowhere near ready to date again, I realize that I have work to do and just want to say thank you for pointing this out , I never realized these people existed , I do now !!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Melanie , I find your programme and comments really helpful , I was with a full-blown narcissist for 30 years before the Penny finally dropped , we weren&#8217;t married , we were friends or so I thought , I can&#8217;t believe I have been so slow to GET IT !! My family never liked him but still I thought he was wonderful, he tried to isolate me from family and did unmentionable damage but still struts about refusing to believe that he IS the problem . Unreal . It&#8217;s so interesting that you suggest healing from within , I realize I was just an open book ripe for a narc to take advantage of and he did . I am nowhere near ready to date again, I realize that I have work to do and just want to say thank you for pointing this out , I never realized these people existed , I do now !!</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Apr 2021 10:49:44 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1251524&quot;&gt;Harriet&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Harriet,

I truly do not know of the legal recourse.

All in know, in regard to getting favourable dealings and results with narcissists and courts, is to heal ourselves.

Meaning, let go of the trauma and fear and reset to peace and inner calm and solidness, then usually the BEST just organically unfolds. All the RIGHT pieces fall into place, with the irony being, we don&#039;t need them to to feel well, because the inner peace is established unconditionally anyway.

Such is the power of Quantum Law - so within, so without. The outside must shift to match our inner experience - always. Yet we can&#039;t need the outer experience to grant the inner experience. Hence why true inner healing is needed to embody that state.

That is what my area of expertise is.

I hope that this makes sense.

Mel 🙏💕💚]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1251524">Harriet</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Harriet,</p>
<p>I truly do not know of the legal recourse.</p>
<p>All in know, in regard to getting favourable dealings and results with narcissists and courts, is to heal ourselves.</p>
<p>Meaning, let go of the trauma and fear and reset to peace and inner calm and solidness, then usually the BEST just organically unfolds. All the RIGHT pieces fall into place, with the irony being, we don&#8217;t need them to to feel well, because the inner peace is established unconditionally anyway.</p>
<p>Such is the power of Quantum Law &#8211; so within, so without. The outside must shift to match our inner experience &#8211; always. Yet we can&#8217;t need the outer experience to grant the inner experience. Hence why true inner healing is needed to embody that state.</p>
<p>That is what my area of expertise is.</p>
<p>I hope that this makes sense.</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕💚</p>
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		By: Harriet		</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Apr 2021 08:32:58 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Hi Melanie
I am in South Africa and your emails etc have really helped me.
I wondered if you could offer some advice.  During my marriage I inherited a substantial amount of money. Naturally my husband, over 5 years, managed to take control of the funds, buy property in his name and even lose a lot gambling on the Stock Market.
In our courts this would be seen as me &#039;gifting&#039; him the money. Obviously it was never intended to be a gift and my understanding was that it was still my money invested in his name for &#039;tax&#039; purposes.
What would you suggest my legal team do to get a judge/magistrate to rule in my favour?
Any tips?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Melanie<br />
I am in South Africa and your emails etc have really helped me.<br />
I wondered if you could offer some advice.  During my marriage I inherited a substantial amount of money. Naturally my husband, over 5 years, managed to take control of the funds, buy property in his name and even lose a lot gambling on the Stock Market.<br />
In our courts this would be seen as me &#8216;gifting&#8217; him the money. Obviously it was never intended to be a gift and my understanding was that it was still my money invested in his name for &#8216;tax&#8217; purposes.<br />
What would you suggest my legal team do to get a judge/magistrate to rule in my favour?<br />
Any tips?</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Apr 2021 09:56:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250868&quot;&gt;Jean Anne Du&#039;Pratt&lt;/a&gt;.

You are very welcome Jean Anne,

I love that these words resonate with your soul.

Love and blessings to you

Mel 🙏💕💚]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250868">Jean Anne Du&#8217;Pratt</a>.</p>
<p>You are very welcome Jean Anne,</p>
<p>I love that these words resonate with your soul.</p>
<p>Love and blessings to you</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕💚</p>
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		By: Jean Anne Du'Pratt		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jean Anne Du'Pratt]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Apr 2021 15:42:38 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250549&quot;&gt;Melanie Tonia Evans&lt;/a&gt;.

Melanie,
Thank you for your perpicacious insight. Indeed, I have spent years of my life believing I was the &#039;wicked&#039; one among 5 children.  When I was the one who was shy, played or read or &#039;cooked&#039; alone, by myself dreading the noise my brothers &#038; sisters made as they played together. I left home at 18 - 50 years ago - and have even settled down on the opposite side of the world.  Yes, over the past 50 years I have strived as best I can to make sense of Love, Friendship, Trust and Caring. Your words are like a baume to my Soul.  God Bless. 🙏🌹]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250549">Melanie Tonia Evans</a>.</p>
<p>Melanie,<br />
Thank you for your perpicacious insight. Indeed, I have spent years of my life believing I was the &#8216;wicked&#8217; one among 5 children.  When I was the one who was shy, played or read or &#8216;cooked&#8217; alone, by myself dreading the noise my brothers &amp; sisters made as they played together. I left home at 18 &#8211; 50 years ago &#8211; and have even settled down on the opposite side of the world.  Yes, over the past 50 years I have strived as best I can to make sense of Love, Friendship, Trust and Caring. Your words are like a baume to my Soul.  God Bless. 🙏🌹</p>
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		By: Donna Mcconnell		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Donna Mcconnell]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Apr 2021 06:52:23 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250539&quot;&gt;Antonette&lt;/a&gt;.

I think I have experienced this. My partner that I’m still along with . Two years ago I find the dating sites he was on for 3 years at that time. I took his handsets and found lots of dating sites and saw them on his email address aswell. Even though I have seen it with my own eyes he is trying to tell me he was hacked. How can this be. He said that it was probably me that set them all up. Is mine a narc. Or what kind of person would do this. If he was hacked it all would not be on his emails saying administration. And even saved passwords on his phones. They weren’t so much an ordinary dating sites. They were local fxxk sites and sites from Russia. I even got into a couple of his sites and I saw how he got to speak free of charge to these young girls. He will barely tell me the truth and then when he sees my reaction he will say I didn’t do it again. That I’m only telling you this because that’s what I want to hear. Has anyone got any suggestions please .]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250539">Antonette</a>.</p>
<p>I think I have experienced this. My partner that I’m still along with . Two years ago I find the dating sites he was on for 3 years at that time. I took his handsets and found lots of dating sites and saw them on his email address aswell. Even though I have seen it with my own eyes he is trying to tell me he was hacked. How can this be. He said that it was probably me that set them all up. Is mine a narc. Or what kind of person would do this. If he was hacked it all would not be on his emails saying administration. And even saved passwords on his phones. They weren’t so much an ordinary dating sites. They were local fxxk sites and sites from Russia. I even got into a couple of his sites and I saw how he got to speak free of charge to these young girls. He will barely tell me the truth and then when he sees my reaction he will say I didn’t do it again. That I’m only telling you this because that’s what I want to hear. Has anyone got any suggestions please .</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Mar 2021 08:56:23 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250559&quot;&gt;Kondwani Chinula&lt;/a&gt;.

Bless Kondwani,

anytime!

Mel 🙏💕💚]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250559">Kondwani Chinula</a>.</p>
<p>Bless Kondwani,</p>
<p>anytime!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕💚</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Mar 2021 08:53:28 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250563&quot;&gt;Christina&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Christina,

It&#039;s my pleasure.

I really want to send you hope, strength, healing and breakthrough for your situation

Mel 🙏💕💚]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250563">Christina</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Christina,</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my pleasure.</p>
<p>I really want to send you hope, strength, healing and breakthrough for your situation</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕💚</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Mar 2021 08:51:07 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250578&quot;&gt;Amy&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Amy,

for any triggered trauma within, including this, I would highly recommend using Module 1 or the Source Healing and Resolution Module.

I hope that this helps!

Mel 🙏💕💚]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/6-ways-a-narcissist-uses-other-people-to-abuse-you/#comment-1250578">Amy</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Amy,</p>
<p>for any triggered trauma within, including this, I would highly recommend using Module 1 or the Source Healing and Resolution Module.</p>
<p>I hope that this helps!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕💚</p>
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