Comments on: 6 Ways To Defend Yourself Against The Narcissist’s Flying Monkeys

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By: Valory jimenez

Valory jimenez — Fri, 31 Mar 2023 10:49:46 +0000

I have a step daughter who did not live with us but saw us all the time. As an child, it was her way or the highway with everything so needless to say we bumped heads a lot because I had a daughter the same age who had to follow our rules.

As an adult, she has two kids from boyfriends. She always chooses her messed up men over her kids and wonders why her kids act up and hate her. She has 4 DUI’s but last year decided to get clean and sober. She went to church with us but publicly told the entire church she had a horrible childhood when she got baptized. I knew better. She was given everything she needed and wanted… and loved by 2 sets of parents but spoiled!
We bought a house that she picked out. We spent $5,000 fixing it up with new paint etc. now it is a pig stye and she says it is a crap house. She resents having to pay in the mortgage, taxes and insurance and thinks we should do that.
We are far from rich and used some of our life savings to help her with cars and to pay off debts.
My husband now has dementia and she is worse in demanding we help her to the point she can’t even put Draino in the sink. I am stressed and at my wits end.
I know that the church knows we are good people and it really only matters what God thinks of us but it hurts after all we have done. Her two kids have lived with us off and on when she was homeless.
Our other daughter is successful with a college degree and a great family that actually wants to spend time with us and not for money. The two girls are like night and day. I know she is a narcissist because she fits every characteristic.
She reals us in by crying and pleading so we give in and then we are trash.
Thanks for your article.

By: Luann

Luann — Tue, 07 Feb 2023 07:47:03 +0000

Hello, wow I am so pleased to see that so much is being done against narcissism! As a small girl I was a victim child victim of another child of victim she was very very sick. He would do horrible things and beat people up all the time the other kids mostly new ones, and boy does she have a lot of flying monkeys. Of course I didn’t know what this was I was just a kid I don’t recall adults around me ever even talking about it never heard the word narcissism until a year ago maybe, anyway he taunted me until I was about 17 and it started in first grade. Well actually I was about 15. And the junior high school kicked her out I think many people were very happy about that. Anyway I have so many stories because as life went on unfortunately I think I have something that attracts them and I think I just realized that I am married to one and my granddaughter is being exposed by her narcissist mother and also my son is suffering a lot from the things that she does. My daughter-in-law is also done some pretty hurtful things to me over the years I was never able to call her out on it or even approach her or say anything because I wanted to be able to see my granddaughter and I knew she was the type to probably keep her from me if I made her angry in any way. My best friend my oldest sister who I pretty much took care of and did everything she wanted also turned out to be an artist I did not know she hit it very well and what she did to me is almost unspeakable. So I’ve got some scars. When I think about all of them enough and what I’ve been through and it hurts because well my sister? Never would have thought she’d hurt me the way she did ever! And my husband I just found out about him recently and well it’s really hurtful for him to be an artist and did the things he did to me hurts a lot. And my baby girl, Caitlin I don’t think she even knows what’s happening she’s only 16. But I can see in her in her personality that there’s something there and her actions also. I think the worst is my son he just after seeing your relationship came to me and told me that he couldn’t take it anymore that she was telling lies about other families other people with her mother and he just couldn’t stand any of it anymore apparently he was probably watching and hearing these things going on the whole time he was raising the children with her looking like a normal family but I knew there was something more going on because she’s evil. So he’s here with me sometimes now trying to break away but she has a firm hold on him I think he might have been a flying monkey for her not to hurt me but he did do some shady stuff I can remember her to me and I remember feeling so sad felt like I lost my son she had an accidental pregnancy yet when he was I don’t know maybe 19 didn’t even have a chance to live so he left me at a very young age I don’t even think he was really an adult yet so I’m afraid that her ways have affected him morally for whole family really and there’s a lot of them that are very strange to me I always thought so we’d have family get togethers and they would just gather in their own little group you know they wouldn’t socialize or be friendly with the other people that were at the party I always thought that was strange and I would always get really weird looks from the women you know like they were sending me messages with her eyes that were mean yeah really kind of mean? Yeah my questioned it but of course there were no answers and I just kind of kept on giving and loving and caring and my happy little self back then. But I don’t know how to get that person back anymore I feel defeated and I’ve lost everyone. There are no flying monkeys around me right now I haven’t had that problem in a long time but what I am doing now is distancing myself from my husband after everything I found out and I don’t know where that’s going to leave me. Also I do have one sister left that is quite normal she moved about 2 hours away I just need to go and see her really miss her anyway thanks for listening I know where you are. Those of you who are dealing with this sort of thing from your family I emphasize with you I know how painful it is. Just think how it was for me as a child for years I was afraid of her so afraid. Man I watched her hurt so many girls so many bad things you did to people so many lies to seat she would turn people against people so easily. Funny my oldest son saw her and a pizza place and she recognized him in asked him to give me her phone number and give her a call so I did mostly out of curiosity it’s it had been years anyway when I called her she invited me to come over just to talk catch up I went over her house surprisingly the beautiful young girl that weighed like a hundred pounds that every boy wanted to date and every girl wanted to have her admiration and love was weighing about 400 lb! She spoke to me about calling all the people that she had hurt as we were kids she wanted to apologize to everyone of them. She told me she got a hold of one of them when she did the girl told her that she ruined her childhood and that she hates her and always willing that she should just go to hell for everything she did. So I don’t think she’s going to get her forgiveness but I do believe that she’s suffering from what she did. God don’t sleep! You know it may take a long time but you know what they say about Karma now we just the victims have to try and heal the best we can.

By: 7 Issues By no means To Say To a Narcissist - Path2Positivity

7 Issues By no means To Say To a Narcissist - Path2Positivity — Sun, 16 Oct 2022 22:58:05 +0000

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By: Nicole McTavish

Nicole McTavish — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 09:21:10 +0000

I have a new twist on the damage that flying monkeys can do. My narc mom went into the hospital one month ago. She had severe pain from undiagnosed cancer. My uncle and one of his daughters flew down immediately and had my mom sign papers to take her car out of her trust and sign it over to one of his daughters. I was upset to find out about this because the car (only one year old) was designated in the trust to be given to me. The flying monkeys did this behind my back. I didn’t find out about it until mom died less than three weeks later. I am talking with attorneys about this and I am going to file a case up to and including litigation to hold my uncle accountable for this devious breach of his responsibilities as a POA and executor. Meanwhile, the flying monkeys (the uncle and several cousins) have been unbelievably nasty to me. When I asked my uncle about this he told me that I have “mental problems” and to “shut up.” In the midst of tremendous loss, trauma, grief, and exhaustion I have been treated as though I am an annoying pest who deserves to have a car stolen from her. I initially responded with anger and verbal assaults but I now realize that the flying monkeys will only use my anger to justify their meanness and theft. I wish I had read this article previously. I will still pursue legal action but now I will also disengage with all of the flying monkeys. I will focus on healing myself.

By: Honestsecy

Honestsecy — Sat, 25 Sep 2021 07:59:54 +0000

Why can’t they just tell the truth about their connections with the narcissist? (because that would be really embarrassing) 🤫

By: Jess Evans

Jess Evans — Tue, 27 Jul 2021 19:45:17 +0000

Hey, this was really really needed. It gave me so much aha-moments and insights and its something that I have already thought about and applied from time to time, yet not fully grasped. I’ve been reading your other articles as well.
I went deeply into my own healing after leaving the narc for the last time (I lost count on how many times I’ve tried doing that). Went no contact, ignored everything, attended my therapy, but fell into the reacting and playing into the drama because he wouldn’t leave me alone. Cut off from my feelings kinda, to survive. Had no support network. No friends, family.
I now realize I used to be in the mindset of “I have to”. I have to defend, I have to change his view, I have to win or I am at fault. I have to read his letters, I need to know. Terrified of what people might say, what he will say.
Not as much anymore. More me, less him.
Its funny that as I was leaving this toxic emotional energy behind more and more, suddenly the police reached out to me, they’ve found my things that I thought I had lost (Credit cards, ID) at his workplace and asked if I wanted to press charges. He’s done other stuff too they found out. So I will be going to court about this. Is this acting from personal emotional power or is it feeding into the drama? Sometimes the line seems blurry. I don’t feel like I’m acting out of anger. Also me and my therapist has discussed to press charges due to him not stopping with the harassment. Two people of authority has talked to him without result. Which approach is the best? How do I know that I am not acting out of a victim mentality?

Thank you thank you thank you.

By: Annette Fabiano

Annette Fabiano — Wed, 21 Jul 2021 00:00:47 +0000

My new neighbor tried to pull a land grab over our property line. I’ve been in my home 30 years and I held my ground with her. I told her NO this is my yard.
Apparently people don’t say NO to her. I knew something was wrong when she stamped her foot and declared “You don’t like me! “. Then the copying and mimicking my clothes, words, and behavior. I spent 30 years in the garment industry working my ass off for ungrateful exploiters of women. This woman is 30 years younger than me and a stay at home mom. She started telling anyone who would listen that I didn’t like her because she’s just as creative and the same as me. I didn’t really care until she ramped up the relational aggression by standing literally in front of my home modeling her little outfits. This went on for weeks, and on into two years. If I worked in my yard she came out in the same colors I was wearing. The heartbreak came when I was working in my yard minding my own business when neighbors across from me and on the other side of me came out and accused me of harassing this young woman and that I deserve to be attacked by them because of terrible things I had done to the little sweety. My heart hurt when I realized they had all betrayed me and gouged me in the back. THANK GOD I was so shocked I couldn’t speak. I literally said nothing. They saw there would be no fight and I walked away. The pain of betrayal was gut wrenching and a couple of days later I received the “famous narc smirk” from the little actress herself when I pulled into the driveway. I have gone no contact and have been in lockdown healing from bleeding ulcers and trying to do the inner work you have guided us to do. I am so grateful for all that you do. I am trying to heal within but still somewhat shaky. My health and wellness are my first priority, and I will continue to distance until I am well enough to go out and be active again. Thank for the gift you share. You are a blessing.