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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2022 07:16:59 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274301&quot;&gt;Neda&lt;/a&gt;.

It&#039;s my pleasure Neda!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
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<p>It&#8217;s my pleasure Neda!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Neda		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Neda]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Sep 2022 14:49:55 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274127&quot;&gt;Melanie Tonia Evans&lt;/a&gt;.

Thank you, Mel 🧡 your words mean a lot 🧡 🦋]]></description>
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<p>Thank you, Mel 🧡 your words mean a lot 🧡 🦋</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 24 Sep 2022 08:49:06 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274101&quot;&gt;Neda&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Neda,

past lives truly are responsible for so much, and can feel so &quot;big&quot;. I totally understand!

Please know Neda the past life component in NARP is extremely powerful, it is in every shift that you do.

My highest suggestion of the tool to heal past life trauma is NARP, I personally have never found any process anywhere near as powerful.

It is simply done by using the Source Healing and Resolution Module in NARP and targeting &quot;that&quot; (the exact trauma that you have named) and following the process.

You can process large past trauma alone, and / or if you wish you can come into the NARP Member&#039;s Forum for the coaching and support to release this trauma once and for all

www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

I hope that this helps and please know you have got this - and we have got you.

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274101">Neda</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Neda,</p>
<p>past lives truly are responsible for so much, and can feel so &#8220;big&#8221;. I totally understand!</p>
<p>Please know Neda the past life component in NARP is extremely powerful, it is in every shift that you do.</p>
<p>My highest suggestion of the tool to heal past life trauma is NARP, I personally have never found any process anywhere near as powerful.</p>
<p>It is simply done by using the Source Healing and Resolution Module in NARP and targeting &#8220;that&#8221; (the exact trauma that you have named) and following the process.</p>
<p>You can process large past trauma alone, and / or if you wish you can come into the NARP Member&#8217;s Forum for the coaching and support to release this trauma once and for all</p>
<p><a href="http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member" rel="nofollow ugc">http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member</a></p>
<p>I hope that this helps and please know you have got this &#8211; and we have got you.</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Michael David		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Michael David]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2022 23:37:31 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Basically, narcissists are pimps. The employ the same tactics pimps use to anyone they figure they can exploit for whatever use they need them for.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Basically, narcissists are pimps. The employ the same tactics pimps use to anyone they figure they can exploit for whatever use they need them for.</p>
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		By: Matteo		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Matteo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2022 16:37:30 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I grew up in this way. It is so true!.  so painful and Orribile all my live.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I grew up in this way. It is so true!.  so painful and Orribile all my live.</p>
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		By: Neda		</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2022 08:58:39 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274090&quot;&gt;Melanie Tonia Evans&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi dear, Mel 💛 You are always here for us. For the last couple of years, I&#039;ve been working a lot - I&#039;ve been using QFH, other shadow work practices, therapy. The difference is huge. I shifted a lot and changed my life. I started searching for all the things I wanted from relationships in myself. They changed, people in my life changed.  But there is something deep inside of me that is still lingering.
I had astrology sessions recently and both astrologist confirmed that in past life I had some not processed experiences that are reflecting this one. In one of the sessions my unconscious mind answered that I haven&#039;t died in the past, but my soul did. Maybe as a result of all the inner work, few weeks ago a massive trigger started coming up. I also had a visualisations, out of body experience - I saw myself being kidnapped in past life. People tried to killed me, but they didn&#039;t. My fear and lust for life were bigger, I felt it. I felt I wanted to live more than I wanted to die, I was scared of it and this saved my life. They left me alone near some lake. I was devastated. It felt like I was being different, not like the mass. I had an opinion. Just like now. This is why they wanted to kill me. I was with a paper bag on my head. When they left me, the devastation turned out to apathy and fear of life. This devastation, loneliness and apathy, I have been carrying since young age (30 now) and had no idea why. After abusive relationships they got much worse. The thing is I started processing the trigger and symbolic memories but it was like chocking and being not able to breathe. It traumatized me - the processing. I was not alone and I obviously felt safe to process it that way, but its still inside. I am afraid to do it alone. I feel like this was true in my past lives and it explains my inability to start being my true self and connect wit the world. People seem unreal to me. I imagine that if I let myself truly live, they won&#039;t be there, I will IMAGINE their existence and this brings me back to the terror of inner prison. I have no other fears, just this one - what if I imagine people? What if I am the only one in the whole universe, even in I am god. It is so not rational and at the same time so unbearable fear. And part if me believes it is not just fear. How can I know what&#039;s outside of me? Maybe time has come for the big wound to be healed. But I can&#039;t do it alone. What do you think - is there a healing for such a terror? I know you&#039;ve been doing a past life regression for yourself. What do you recommend me? I feel really alone with this.  I trust you and your answer will be much appreciated ❤️❤️❤️ lots of 💕💕💕 bye bye. Thank you, Mel, for all the things you are doing for US! 💞]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274090">Melanie Tonia Evans</a>.</p>
<p>Hi dear, Mel 💛 You are always here for us. For the last couple of years, I&#8217;ve been working a lot &#8211; I&#8217;ve been using QFH, other shadow work practices, therapy. The difference is huge. I shifted a lot and changed my life. I started searching for all the things I wanted from relationships in myself. They changed, people in my life changed.  But there is something deep inside of me that is still lingering.<br />
I had astrology sessions recently and both astrologist confirmed that in past life I had some not processed experiences that are reflecting this one. In one of the sessions my unconscious mind answered that I haven&#8217;t died in the past, but my soul did. Maybe as a result of all the inner work, few weeks ago a massive trigger started coming up. I also had a visualisations, out of body experience &#8211; I saw myself being kidnapped in past life. People tried to killed me, but they didn&#8217;t. My fear and lust for life were bigger, I felt it. I felt I wanted to live more than I wanted to die, I was scared of it and this saved my life. They left me alone near some lake. I was devastated. It felt like I was being different, not like the mass. I had an opinion. Just like now. This is why they wanted to kill me. I was with a paper bag on my head. When they left me, the devastation turned out to apathy and fear of life. This devastation, loneliness and apathy, I have been carrying since young age (30 now) and had no idea why. After abusive relationships they got much worse. The thing is I started processing the trigger and symbolic memories but it was like chocking and being not able to breathe. It traumatized me &#8211; the processing. I was not alone and I obviously felt safe to process it that way, but its still inside. I am afraid to do it alone. I feel like this was true in my past lives and it explains my inability to start being my true self and connect wit the world. People seem unreal to me. I imagine that if I let myself truly live, they won&#8217;t be there, I will IMAGINE their existence and this brings me back to the terror of inner prison. I have no other fears, just this one &#8211; what if I imagine people? What if I am the only one in the whole universe, even in I am god. It is so not rational and at the same time so unbearable fear. And part if me believes it is not just fear. How can I know what&#8217;s outside of me? Maybe time has come for the big wound to be healed. But I can&#8217;t do it alone. What do you think &#8211; is there a healing for such a terror? I know you&#8217;ve been doing a past life regression for yourself. What do you recommend me? I feel really alone with this.  I trust you and your answer will be much appreciated ❤️❤️❤️ lots of 💕💕💕 bye bye. Thank you, Mel, for all the things you are doing for US! 💞</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2022 04:43:33 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274089&quot;&gt;Waking Up&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Waking Up,

I&#039;m so pleased that this spoke to you and gave you hope!

Please know WU, that Quantum Freedom Healing will totally revolutionise your healing journey.

With complete confidence I can&#039;t recommend it enough to you

www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Sending you love, healing and blessings

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274089">Waking Up</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Waking Up,</p>
<p>I&#8217;m so pleased that this spoke to you and gave you hope!</p>
<p>Please know WU, that Quantum Freedom Healing will totally revolutionise your healing journey.</p>
<p>With complete confidence I can&#8217;t recommend it enough to you</p>
<p><a href="http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp" rel="nofollow ugc">http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp</a></p>
<p>Sending you love, healing and blessings</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Waking Up		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Waking Up]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Sep 2022 04:27:29 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[OMG! Melanie this is just what I needed to read as I am going round and round in my head reliving things from more than 20 years ago which lead up to my narc experience with two sociopaths and everything you said in this post is exactly how it started.  I can see how my flimsy boundaries allowed this to be but my childhood was the landscape to create such an experience having a severely mentally ill mother and sociopathic sister and grandmother after my father died.  Prior to that I was the target of extreme racial bullying throughout school life so put that into the mix and you have mount everest as my body of trauma up to my adulthood.  I am going to check out of your work this has got to be better than 5 years of extensive therapy and every other new age solution up to this point.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>OMG! Melanie this is just what I needed to read as I am going round and round in my head reliving things from more than 20 years ago which lead up to my narc experience with two sociopaths and everything you said in this post is exactly how it started.  I can see how my flimsy boundaries allowed this to be but my childhood was the landscape to create such an experience having a severely mentally ill mother and sociopathic sister and grandmother after my father died.  Prior to that I was the target of extreme racial bullying throughout school life so put that into the mix and you have mount everest as my body of trauma up to my adulthood.  I am going to check out of your work this has got to be better than 5 years of extensive therapy and every other new age solution up to this point.</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
		<link>https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274084</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Sep 2022 21:18:32 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274051&quot;&gt;Peter&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Peter,

I&#039;m so pleased my work is helping you keep strong and clear.

Thank you again for your brilliant and thoughtful share.

Much Love to you.

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/8-ways-narcissists-make-you-lose-yourself-and-bond-to-them/#comment-1274051">Peter</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Peter,</p>
<p>I&#8217;m so pleased my work is helping you keep strong and clear.</p>
<p>Thank you again for your brilliant and thoughtful share.</p>
<p>Much Love to you.</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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