Melanie Tonia Evans

Protecting Your Children From The Narcissist’s Damage

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  I’m always SUPER PASSIONATE about this topic. The reason being is because I SO want our children to heal, and for our world to shift out of narcissistic abuse patterns. I nearly lost my own son due to my and his trauma from narcissistic abuse, so I deeply know the loss, trauma and suffering so many parents have been through or are going through. There is nothing more devastating than watching our children be abused, neglected or manipulated and feeling POWERLESS to stop it. And, when reaching out to authorities for their help discovering, to our dismay and disbelief, that they often turn away and even further abuse us and our children. (more…)

 

I’m always SUPER PASSIONATE about this topic.

The reason being is because I SO want our children to heal, and for our world to shift out of narcissistic abuse patterns.

I nearly lost my own son due to my and his trauma from narcissistic abuse, so I deeply know the loss, trauma and suffering so many parents have been through or are going through.

There is nothing more devastating than watching our children be abused, neglected or manipulated and feeling POWERLESS to stop it. And, when reaching out to authorities for their help discovering, to our dismay and disbelief, that they often turn away and even further abuse us and our children.

Leading The Way For Your Children

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  One of the hardest (if not the hardest) jobs in the world is to be a parent. Where is that handbook!? Certainly, many of us have had our struggles with being parents, and after being narcissistically abused and seeing what this puts our children through, our parenting overwhelm is even more accentuated. How can we heal our children when we are barely surviving ourselves? Why is our selfless desire to make sure they are okay before we attend to ourselves NOT working? (more…)

 

One of the hardest (if not the hardest) jobs in the world is to be a parent.

Where is that handbook!?

Certainly, many of us have had our struggles with being parents, and after being narcissistically abused and seeing what this puts our children through, our parenting overwhelm is even more accentuated.

How can we heal our children when we are barely surviving ourselves?

Why is our selfless desire to make sure they are okay before we attend to ourselves NOT working?

Narcissistic Fathers – Healing Yourself And Protecting Your Children From A Toxic Upbringing

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  The destruction of narcissistic fathers is far-reaching and is a problem that is truly plaguing our world. Many of you may have experienced that, with a narcissistic father, your boundaries weren't able to develop – because you didn’t have any. It is also likely that, no matter what you ever did, it wasn’t enough to earn his love or approval ... and ... when you were in need of care, love or advice, the conversations became all about him, about his problems, blaming you or telling you what you were or weren’t doing to make him happy. (more…)

 

The destruction of narcissistic fathers is far-reaching and is a problem that is truly plaguing our world.

Many of you may have experienced that, with a narcissistic father, your boundaries weren’t able to develop – because you didn’t have any.

It is also likely that, no matter what you ever did, it wasn’t enough to earn his love or approval … and … when you were in need of care, love or advice, the conversations became all about him, about his problems, blaming you or telling you what you were or weren’t doing to make him happy.

A Miracle Story About How Premi Gained Full Custody Of Her Children – Thriver Story #29

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Does Over Valuing Our Children Create Narcissists?

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This topic was going viral through the internet not long ago … with articles such as these: Do parents nurture narcissists by pouring on the praise? and Don't want to raise a narcissist, stop telling your children they're special. And I really think it's important to have a discussion about it. Why? (more…)

This topic was going viral through the internet not long ago … with articles such as these: Do parents nurture narcissists by pouring on the praise? and Don’t want to raise a narcissist, stop telling your children they’re special.

And I really think it’s important to have a discussion about it.

Why?

Healing Our Children By Proxy – Father’s Day Special

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Click the play button below to listen: http://www.mediafire.com/download/5mr13rl59rht4e6/Ian_and_Michael_2.mp3 Or download the show here. I have a really special Father's Show for you ... and within this show I am interviewing a wonderful father. It isn't Father's Day in other parts of the world, but this Sunday in Australia it is. (more…)

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Or download the show here.

I have a really special Father’s Show for you … and within this show I am interviewing a wonderful father.

It isn’t Father’s Day in other parts of the world, but this Sunday in Australia it is.

Parent’s Empowering Themselves For Their Children’s Sake Part 2

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  Last week I wrote what I believe is my most important article ever. That article - Part 1 - was inspired as a result of the difference I see constantly between the Thriver orientation, which occurs when we take the personal responsibility on to heal our own wounds, and the rampant victimsation model which is predominant in most narcissistic / sociopathic abuse communities. Absolutely, I validate the pain of narcissistic abuse for people, especially when children are involved - and I know from personal experience, as well as having been connected with thousands of people going through this anguish how tough it is. I also know that the continual focus on the narcissist, and what he or she is doing, creates total powerlessness and only feeds the narcissist, disables any effectiveness to get well, and is poisoning and traumatising our children - as well as doing NOTHING AT ALL to stop the cycles of abuse and abused being passed...

 

Last week I wrote what I believe is my most important article ever. That article – Part 1 – was inspired as a result of the difference I see constantly between the Thriver orientation, which occurs when we take the personal responsibility on to heal our own wounds, and the rampant victimsation model which is predominant in most narcissistic / sociopathic abuse communities.

Absolutely, I validate the pain of narcissistic abuse for people, especially when children are involved – and I know from personal experience, as well as having been connected with thousands of people going through this anguish how tough it is.

I also know that the continual focus on the narcissist, and what he or she is doing, creates total powerlessness and only feeds the narcissist, disables any effectiveness to get well, and is poisoning and traumatising our children – as well as doing NOTHING AT ALL to stop the cycles of abuse and abused being passed on from generation to generation.

Parent’s Empowering Themselves For Their Children’s Sake

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This article, and its accompanying radio show, is without exception the most important one, to date, that I have ever written. After reading this article, I am appealing to you to PASS IT ON, and share as widely as you can. This article is a two part series which is a passionate project that I believe is so necessary to break the cycles of abused and abuse. (more…)

This article, and its accompanying radio show, is without exception the most important one, to date, that I have ever written.

After reading this article, I am appealing to you to PASS IT ON, and share as widely as you can.

This article is a two part series which is a passionate project that I believe is so necessary to break the cycles of abused and abuse.

How To Help Your Children Who Are Affected By Narcissists

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One of the saddest aspects of narcissistic abuse is our children can suffer. Sadly when narcissists are trying to hurt and discredit their ex-partners in every shape or form, children can be used as ammunition and get caught in the cross-fire. This can leave us dismayed, and in deep disbelief when we view the narcissist as having no conscience when it comes to the treatment of the children. When he or she has no issue with involving them, using them as pawns, and actually enjoys trying to turn the children against the ex-partner. (more…)

One of the saddest aspects of narcissistic abuse is our children can suffer.

Sadly when narcissists are trying to hurt and discredit their ex-partners in every shape or form, children can be used as ammunition and get caught in the cross-fire.

This can leave us dismayed, and in deep disbelief when we view the narcissist as having no conscience when it comes to the treatment of the children. When he or she has no issue with involving them, using them as pawns, and actually enjoys trying to turn the children against the ex-partner.

5 Delightful Ways To Do Self-Care Without Feeling Guilty

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  Self-care can be a struggle. We may tell ourselves that we don’t have time, and… There are things or people in our life that are SO much more important right now. Or maybe self-care is something we have never known how to do for ourselves. This I know, with releasing my own struggle with self-care and assisting so many others get free of their self-denial too, that we can carry DEEP guilt in regard to looking after ourselves. (more…)

 

Self-care can be a struggle.

We may tell ourselves that we don’t have time, and…

There are things or people in our life that are SO much more important right now.

Or maybe self-care is something we have never known how to do for ourselves.

This I know, with releasing my own struggle with self-care and assisting so many others get free of their self-denial too, that we can carry DEEP guilt in regard to looking after ourselves.