Comments on: Are You Trauma Bonded To A Narcissist? https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 29 Aug 2021 02:41:12 +0000 hourly 1 By: Denver Arborist https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255776 Sun, 29 Aug 2021 02:41:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255776 The repetitive compulsive disorder and infantile regression is exactly how I was with him. I had no idea. It’s not love. I still can’t get him out of my head. The obsession is so powerful and I can’t believe I stooped to this.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255670 Mon, 23 Aug 2021 05:29:07 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255670 In reply to Marci.

Hi Marci,

it’s wonderful that you have come so far.

Your children will follow!

Blessings to all of you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255669 Mon, 23 Aug 2021 05:27:54 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255669 In reply to Marlene D. Silva.

Hi Marlene,

please know how welcome you are!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Marci https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255635 Sat, 21 Aug 2021 12:43:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255635 It’s been 18 months since I walked away from my 28 year marriage with my youngest daughter. I waited too long for sure, but because of your resources, I worked on myself FIRST through NARP, set up an apartment with food and furniture, got a lawyer and got my financials all in order. I didn’t want to risk any chance of getting sucked back in after I went through all that trouble.
I was All IN on your teaching that the divorce could be fair and the hovering short lived if I was detached, had limited contact and was emotional strong during this time.
It truly was amazing! The insane and crazy communication/behavior was intense, pleading and begging, leveraging the house and the kids, the constant showing up at the apartment and driving by early and late proved the apartment necessary. I didn’t respond, just communicated through my lawyer and he agreed to a divorce agreement in 3 mo, divorced 3 mo later and he was married 4 mo after that to someone other that’s the mistress I knew about!
Now I have my own new house, my career is going great and he doesn’t bother me.
My kids are still struggling, but getting there, they can’t divorce him.

]]> By: Marlene D. Silva https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255629 Sat, 21 Aug 2021 05:18:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255629 just want to say thanks again

]]> By: Marlene D. Silva https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255628 Sat, 21 Aug 2021 02:23:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255628 Hi Ms. Melanie, I been receiving email from you since four years ago and I just want to express my appreciation and gratitude for all your emails. They helped me a lot through my journey to recovery from my narcissistic relationship with my ex-husband. Thou I may not actively participating in your seminar and workshop, all the emails I received from you are more than enough to help me confront my personal challenges and struggles to recovery. I decided to end our relationship last 2014 not fully aware that i will have a very tough time putting myself together. I been married to this man for three decades and we have six children. I never knew that I will have the courage to let go of him considering the number of years that we were together. All I knew then was to end the marriage immediately because I was already showing signs of depression , physical fatigue, moreso, I was thinking of ending my life. All the trauma bonding syndrome you discussed here were all true to me . When I separated from my husband, I was totally devastated and I continuously blame myself for ending the relationship. It was only when I got into your email that I realised what I been through and it was not my fault. I began to have a better understanding of what happened to my married life. I am thankful for sharing us all your insights about narcissistic relationship. You open our eyes to the reality that such kind of people exists and they always go after to those people who are easy prey and vulnerable. Again, I want to express my gratitude to you for changing my life.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255606 Fri, 20 Aug 2021 04:49:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255606 In reply to Joni Scully.

Thank you Joni,

much love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255605 Fri, 20 Aug 2021 04:49:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255605 In reply to Inez.

It’s my pleasure Inez,

sending you love and healing.

Shift it out, sweetheart. In the eye of the trauma you are only shifts away from spectacular inner liberation.

So much love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/are-you-trauma-bonded-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1255604 Fri, 20 Aug 2021 04:48:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9779#comment-1255604 In reply to Carrie Keating.

You are so welcome Carrie!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

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