Melanie Tonia Evans

What It Means To Be An Evolutionary Mother

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  I’d love to extend out my love to you this Mother’s Day. I know that today can have some very mixed and even intensely painful feelings depending on your current situation. My heart goes out to those of you who have suffered the terrible trauma of parental alienation from your daughters and sons and those of you who have a narcissistic daughter or son. And of course, there are those of you who have a narcissistic mother. Today, I want to share with you my beliefs about how as Mothers we can heal and grow and become Evolutionary Mothers, helping teach our daughters and sons, through our own healing and examples, how to become whole and healthy and generate relationships of mutuality, respect, and genuine love and kindness. (more…)

 

I’d love to extend out my love to you this Mother’s Day. I know that today can have some very mixed and even intensely painful feelings depending on your current situation.

My heart goes out to those of you who have suffered the terrible trauma of parental alienation from your daughters and sons and those of you who have a narcissistic daughter or son.

And of course, there are those of you who have a narcissistic mother.

Today, I want to share with you my beliefs about how as Mothers we can heal and grow and become Evolutionary Mothers, helping teach our daughters and sons, through our own healing and examples, how to become whole and healthy and generate relationships of mutuality, respect, and genuine love and kindness.

What To Do When You’re Alienated From Your Child

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  I really wanted to do an episode on this oh so painful topic, because I know tragically many of you are suffering alienation from your children, because of the narcissist in your life. This person may be a spouse, an ex-partner, a family member or really any narcissist at all. Maybe your children have become cold towards you and closer to the narcissist. Or, possibly things have escalated to the point where you are receiving your children's silence or disapproval – accusing you of being and doing things that aren’t even true. Maybe you don’t even have a reason for why your child is pulling away, and know untrue things must have been said. (more…)

 

I really wanted to do an episode on this oh so painful topic, because I know tragically many of you are suffering alienation from your children, because of the narcissist in your life.

This person may be a spouse, an ex-partner, a family member or really any narcissist at all.

Maybe your children have become cold towards you and closer to the narcissist.

Or, possibly things have escalated to the point where you are receiving your children’s silence or disapproval – accusing you of being and doing things that aren’t even true.

Maybe you don’t even have a reason for why your child is pulling away, and know untrue things must have been said.

Parallel Parenting – The Evolutionary Way To Co-Parent With A Narcissist

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  If you are currently co-parenting with a narcissist, my heart goes out to you. I read countless stories every day from people in this community who are experiencing the daily frustrations, twist and turns, insanity and gut-wrenching nastiness that goes with trying to co-parent with a narcissist. You may constantly be worried about how your children are being treated, including if the narcissist is poisoning them against you, or WORSE ... if they are turning your child into a narcissist. And it can be beyond horrible for your children caught in the middle, seeing your distress and pain and witnessing the conflicts between their parents. (more…)

 

If you are currently co-parenting with a narcissist, my heart goes out to you.

I read countless stories every day from people in this community who are experiencing the daily frustrations, twist and turns, insanity and gut-wrenching nastiness that goes with trying to co-parent with a narcissist.

You may constantly be worried about how your children are being treated, including if the narcissist is poisoning them against you, or WORSE … if they are turning your child into a narcissist.

And it can be beyond horrible for your children caught in the middle, seeing your distress and pain and witnessing the conflicts between their parents.

Narcissistic Fathers – Healing Yourself And Protecting Your Children From A Toxic Upbringing

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  The destruction of narcissistic fathers is far-reaching and is a problem that is truly plaguing our world. Many of you may have experienced that, with a narcissistic father, your boundaries weren't able to develop – because you didn’t have any. It is also likely that, no matter what you ever did, it wasn’t enough to earn his love or approval ... and ... when you were in need of care, love or advice, the conversations became all about him, about his problems, blaming you or telling you what you were or weren’t doing to make him happy. (more…)

 

The destruction of narcissistic fathers is far-reaching and is a problem that is truly plaguing our world.

Many of you may have experienced that, with a narcissistic father, your boundaries weren’t able to develop – because you didn’t have any.

It is also likely that, no matter what you ever did, it wasn’t enough to earn his love or approval … and … when you were in need of care, love or advice, the conversations became all about him, about his problems, blaming you or telling you what you were or weren’t doing to make him happy.

Shifts Happen: Healing The Traumas Closest To Our Hearts – Our Children #2

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  I can't tell you how excited I am for today's Shifts Happen Episode! If you caught last week's episode, you would have seen how Devon and I did a Quanta Freedom Healing together - in relation to her trauma regarding her son's anxieties. The following is so vital about this 2-part series ... As I stated last week, this is the topic within Narcissistic Abuse Recovery that I am the MOST passionate about. I am motivated beyond measure to find a way for us, as adults, to lead the way - to create a template of Inner wellbeing and health, Unity Consciousness, soul and emotional intelligence and personal power for our children. (more…)

 

I can’t tell you how excited I am for today’s Shifts Happen Episode!

If you caught last week’s episode, you would have seen how Devon and I did a Quanta Freedom Healing together – in relation to her trauma regarding her son’s anxieties.

The following is so vital about this 2-part series … As I stated last week, this is the topic within Narcissistic Abuse Recovery that I am the MOST passionate about.

I am motivated beyond measure to find a way for us, as adults, to lead the way – to create a template of Inner wellbeing and health, Unity Consciousness, soul and emotional intelligence and personal power for our children.

What To Do If Your Child Has Narcissistic Tendencies

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  If you are currently agonising over this fear or potential reality I want you to know my heart goes out to you. We all know that ultimately we can divorce a partner, break business ties with people, and even walk away from family members – but WHAT do we do when dealing with the trauma and drama of our own narcissistic child? There definitely are people in the Community who have had no option but to go No Contact with their narcissistic children, however for some of you there may be hope ... that the rifts, behaviour and issues can heal. The following are the pivotal questions that so many parents in this Community ask … (more…)

 

If you are currently agonising over this fear or potential reality I want you to know my heart goes out to you.

We all know that ultimately we can divorce a partner, break business ties with people, and even walk away from family members – but WHAT do we do when dealing with the trauma and drama of our own narcissistic child?

There definitely are people in the Community who have had no option but to go No Contact with their narcissistic children, however for some of you there may be hope … that the rifts, behaviour and issues can heal.

The following are the pivotal questions that so many parents in this Community ask …

How To Co-Parent With A Narcissist – The Foundation

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  I get asked this all the time … and I really want to do quite a few episodes on this topic for Thriver TV, because I am totally passionate about helping heal our children and our future generations. I know that many of you in this Community are dealing with all sorts of fear and pain regarding your children – such as co-parenting with a narcissist, and / or seeing the effects on your sons and daughters after you being involved with a narcissist – whether the narcissist was their parent or not. And as parents, we would do anything for our children, we would even lay down our lives for them. But maybe we haven’t realised that the ways we have been lecturing and prescribing whilst distressed and triggered has not been helping them at all. (more…)

 

I get asked this all the time … and I really want to do quite a few episodes on this topic for Thriver TV, because I am totally passionate about helping heal our children and our future generations.

I know that many of you in this Community are dealing with all sorts of fear and pain regarding your children – such as co-parenting with a narcissist, and / or seeing the effects on your sons and daughters after you being involved with a narcissist – whether the narcissist was their parent or not.

And as parents, we would do anything for our children, we would even lay down our lives for them. But maybe we haven’t realised that the ways we have been lecturing and prescribing whilst distressed and triggered has not been helping them at all.

A Miracle Story About How Premi Gained Full Custody Of Her Children – Thriver Story #29

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How We Become Better Parents As We Heal

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The reason I really wanted to explore this topic in an article is because I am very passionate about our children and future generations. I so believe the shift in consciousness on our planet needs to start with us, as the caretakers of our children and their future children’s emotional evolution. So many parents try to fix and help their children deal with narcissistic abuse, but don’t realise that operating from a tormented, agonised emotional state truly makes matters worse. It grants the narcissist more bullets to shoot you with and incites them to use your children as weapons of war. (more…)

The reason I really wanted to explore this topic in an article is because I am very passionate about our children and future generations. I so believe the shift in consciousness on our planet needs to start with us, as the caretakers of our children and their future children’s emotional evolution.

So many parents try to fix and help their children deal with narcissistic abuse, but don’t realise that operating from a tormented, agonised emotional state truly makes matters worse. It grants the narcissist more bullets to shoot you with and incites them to use your children as weapons of war.

Interview with Nicolle Edward – Founder of Rize Up Australia

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This week I did an interview with Nicolle Edward, the CEO and Founder of Rize Up Australia. Rize Up is a community driven organisation dedicated to educating, empowering and ending domestic and family violence. We all know that domestic and intimate partner violence sadly is epidemic. Recently in Australia there was a shocking week with two women murdered in broad daylight, and also a child and a grandparent murdered. These issues are all over the world, and Rize Up is taking a stand by rallying community resources to assist women who need to flee, in order to be safe and re-start their lives. (more…)

This week I did an interview with Nicolle Edward, the CEO and Founder of Rize Up Australia.

Rize Up is a community driven organisation dedicated to educating, empowering and ending domestic and family violence.

We all know that domestic and intimate partner violence sadly is epidemic. Recently in Australia there was a shocking week with two women murdered in broad daylight, and also a child and a grandparent murdered.

These issues are all over the world, and Rize Up is taking a stand by rallying community resources to assist women who need to flee, in order to be safe and re-start their lives.