Melanie Tonia Evans

Can You Be An Empath Without Being A Target For Narcissists?

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  I am proud of caring about other people – and I know you are too. But do we, as a result of having been abused, have to toughen up, guard our heart, stop being giving and trusting and shut down to ourselves, life and others in order to be safe? The great news is I don’t believe we have to … and in today’s Thriver TV episode I am going to take you through a step-by-step journey today, to show you how you can be an awesome, beautiful, giving person AND be safe …. not just from narcissists, but also safeguarded against being taken for granted by anyone ever again. Today’s episode is all about being a beautiful, kind-hearted person who will never get taken down by a narcissist again – The Quantum Way. (more…)

 

I am proud of caring about other people – and I know you are too.

But do we, as a result of having been abused, have to toughen up, guard our heart, stop being giving and trusting and shut down to ourselves, life and others in order to be safe?

The great news is I don’t believe we have to … and in today’s Thriver TV episode I am going to take you through a step-by-step journey today, to show you how you can be an awesome, beautiful, giving person AND be safe …. not just from narcissists, but also safeguarded against being taken for granted by anyone ever again.

Today’s episode is all about being a beautiful, kind-hearted person who will never get taken down by a narcissist again – The Quantum Way.

My Favourite Way To Set Boundaries That Stick

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  Setting boundaries can be incredibly confusing and sometimes even terrifying. What if you’re unclear about your personal rights? Or, are susceptible to being talked out of them? How on earth do you get people to respect your boundaries – even if you can identify them and express them? Is it possible to lay boundaries, not get sucked into arguments about them, and just have them stick? (more…)

 

Setting boundaries can be incredibly confusing and sometimes even terrifying.

What if you’re unclear about your personal rights?

Or, are susceptible to being talked out of them?

How on earth do you get people to respect your boundaries – even if you can identify them and express them?

Is it possible to lay boundaries, not get sucked into arguments about them, and just have them stick?

What Separates A Co-Dependent From A Narcissist?

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  What is great about our Thriver Community, and makes it so unique and empowering, is that we get it – we seek to understand what has unconsciously led us into painful and abusive relationships. This, finally, releases us from powerlessness and victimisation, and puts us firmly in the driver seat of our life. Because we can now claim and heal our internal traumas to free ourselves from abuse and abuse symptoms. However, when we realise that our unhealed wounds have led us into relationships with narcissists, we may wonder whether our levels of unconsciousness are healable, or even if they may have caused us to become narcissistic in nature. (more…)

 

What is great about our Thriver Community, and makes it so unique and empowering, is that we get it – we seek to understand what has unconsciously led us into painful and abusive relationships.

This, finally, releases us from powerlessness and victimisation, and puts us firmly in the driver seat of our life. Because we can now claim and heal our internal traumas to free ourselves from abuse and abuse symptoms.

However, when we realise that our unhealed wounds have led us into relationships with narcissists, we may wonder whether our levels of unconsciousness are healable, or even if they may have caused us to become narcissistic in nature.

Asserting Your Needs In Relationships – Healthy vs Co-dependent

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  There is a very fine line after narcissistic abuse, when we start wanting and entering new relationships. I believe for many of us who have done the work to heal our Inner Being … ... we may be literally terrified of being co-dependent again! We know the horror and the terror – that was literally life-threatening – when we were enmeshed to a narcissist and had powerlessly relinquished virtually all the rights of our life to them. And maybe, you are STILL struggling to not feel dependent on and entangled with someone who is presently hurting you. (more…)

 

There is a very fine line after narcissistic abuse, when we start wanting and entering new relationships.

I believe for many of us who have done the work to heal our Inner Being …

… we may be literally terrified of being co-dependent again!

We know the horror and the terror – that was literally life-threatening – when we were enmeshed to a narcissist and had powerlessly relinquished virtually all the rights of our life to them.

And maybe, you are STILL struggling to not feel dependent on and entangled with someone who is presently hurting you.

Boundaries – How To Have Difficult Conversations Without Fear Of Retaliation

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  Today is a delicate conversation and a very necessary one. It is about all the reasons why we hand power away. WHY we don’t put our best foot forward. WHY we get tongue-tied and don’t know HOW to say what we need to … And how all of this is a deadly recipe for getting abused in a narcissistic relationship. But not just that … It is also the total reason we don’t get our needs met, get taken advantage of by other people and get emptied out to the point where we feel unappreciated, unloved and unsupported. (more…)

 

Today is a delicate conversation and a very necessary one.

It is about all the reasons why we hand power away.

WHY we don’t put our best foot forward.

WHY we get tongue-tied and don’t know HOW to say what we need to …

And how all of this is a deadly recipe for getting abused in a narcissistic relationship.

But not just that … It is also the total reason we don’t get our needs met, get taken advantage of by other people and get emptied out to the point where we feel unappreciated, unloved and unsupported.

Empaths – How To Stop Being A Narcissist’s Snack

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  It is well known amongst Abuse Communities that people who are empaths can be very susceptible to being in relationships with narcissists. It is also noted that spiritual people, caretakers, or individuals in human service industries … for some reason, seem to be high on the narcissist’s snack list. Empaths are sensitive, caring souls who sense other people’s pain and try to make a difference. Narcissists are self-absorbed, self-involved people who create pain for people while they make themselves the number one fixture. It makes sense that these opposites would attract and that Empaths provide the perfect opportunity for narcissists to “take”.  (more…)

 

It is well known amongst Abuse Communities that people who are empaths can be very susceptible to being in relationships with narcissists.

It is also noted that spiritual people, caretakers, or individuals in human service industries … for some reason, seem to be high on the narcissist’s snack list.

Empaths are sensitive, caring souls who sense other people’s pain and try to make a difference.

Narcissists are self-absorbed, self-involved people who create pain for people while they make themselves the number one fixture.

It makes sense that these opposites would attract and that Empaths provide the perfect opportunity for narcissists to “take”. 

Should You Tell A Narcissist Who They Really Are?

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  It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do. And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense. All the pieces add up.  And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life. All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore. And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are. (more…)

 

It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do.

And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense.

All the pieces add up.

 And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life.

All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore.

And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are.

The 5 Stages Of Forgiveness

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  A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article. "Forgiveness" is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term. It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic. The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted. And there are many people who may have believed they have "forgiven" – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being. I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life … (more…)

 

A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article.

“Forgiveness” is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term.

It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic.

The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted.

And there are many people who may have believed they have “forgiven” – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being.

I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life …

Why Do Narcissists Go After Lightworkers

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So many people who are Lightworkers have been narcissistically abused. An ASTOUNDING amount of people. Why is this the case? Is it because narcissist’s need “Light’ to exist, or is there a BIGGER truth going on? A truth that makes so much sense (as well as lends incredible power) regarding what Lightworkers REALLY came here to do. Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode! (more…)

So many people who are Lightworkers have been narcissistically abused.

An ASTOUNDING amount of people.

Why is this the case?

Is it because narcissist’s need “Light’ to exist, or is there a BIGGER truth going on?

A truth that makes so much sense (as well as lends incredible power) regarding what Lightworkers REALLY came here to do.

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode!

What Is Self-Partnering?

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  Recently I was asked via ThriverTv comments to explain what self-partnering is. It is a term I use a lot, as the foundation of healing from narcissistic abuse. It would seem that this term is self-explanatory – but is it really? And why would it be when we have not been living in a world that has explained, encouraged or taught self-partnering? (more…)

 

Recently I was asked via ThriverTv comments to explain what self-partnering is. It is a term I use a lot, as the foundation of healing from narcissistic abuse.

It would seem that this term is self-explanatory – but is it really?

And why would it be when we have not been living in a world that has explained, encouraged or taught self-partnering?