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When Is It Safe To Date After Narcissistic Abuse? Part 2

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This is Part Two of this series, and I really hope Part One helped you understand why it is so much healthier to not rush into dating after suffering an abusive relationship – ensuring that we create a healthy relationship with ourselves first. Part One, fundamentally was about self-partnering and mating our own soul, so that we could show up healthily as “love” within the creation of another relationship, rather than attempting to get “love” by seeking another person to grant us ourselves. (more…)

This is Part Two of this series, and I really hope Part One helped you understand why it is so much healthier to not rush into dating after suffering an abusive relationship – ensuring that we create a healthy relationship with ourselves first.

Part One, fundamentally was about self-partnering and mating our own soul, so that we could show up healthily as “love” within the creation of another relationship, rather than attempting to get “love” by seeking another person to grant us ourselves.

When Is It Safe To Date After Narcissistic Abuse? Part 1

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  I get asked this soooo often, and I mean so often! This is what people ask … “Is it time to date yet … because I’m struggling with being attracted to decent men … Why is that?” Or … “I’m comparing everyone to the narc … no-one lights me up like he / she did. Why is this? I’m dating but it’s so painful …. it just makes me miss the narcissist more.” (more…)

 

I get asked this soooo often, and I mean so often!

This is what people ask …

“Is it time to date yet … because I’m struggling with being attracted to decent men … Why is that?”

Or … “I’m comparing everyone to the narc … no-one lights me up like he / she did. Why is this? I’m dating but it’s so painful …. it just makes me miss the narcissist more.”

Is It Possible To Truly Love A Narcissist?

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Being in love with narcissist is one of the most painful things. It starts off with huge highs because there’s usually something that is really attractive. It could be the spirited conversations you have, electric incredible sex, or maybe it’s the way you feel that finally you’ve met someone who “gets you” so completely on so many levels. And often it feels “different” … in that there is much more of a connection than what you experienced with other people. (more…)

Being in love with narcissist is one of the most painful things.

It starts off with huge highs because there’s usually something that is really attractive. It could be the spirited conversations you have, electric incredible sex, or maybe it’s the way you feel that finally you’ve met someone who “gets you” so completely on so many levels.

And often it feels “different” … in that there is much more of a connection than what you experienced with other people.

Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: Coming Home To Our Bodies

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This week I put up a post on Facebook wanting to know what you would like me to write about. There were some wonderful suggestions – thank you so much and I will be using these for future articles! One that stuck out was this request … “How to start really connecting with our bodies. The relationship between our bodies, our higher self, and our egos. Connecting with our bodies and going in through our bodies really is key. What does all of this mean?” I have been recently talking a lot about how “getting in our bodies” is key … and now I think it is really time to focus on this as a deep dive into this topic. I really want to start this off by taking you on a journey of “throughout the ages” ... and no matter what your beliefs, just keep an open mind. (more…)

This week I put up a post on Facebook wanting to know what you would like me to write about. There were some wonderful suggestions – thank you so much and I will be using these for future articles!

One that stuck out was this request …

“How to start really connecting with our bodies. The relationship between our bodies, our higher self, and our egos. Connecting with our bodies and going in through our bodies really is key. What does all of this mean?”

I have been recently talking a lot about how “getting in our bodies” is key … and now I think it is really time to focus on this as a deep dive into this topic.

I really want to start this off by taking you on a journey of “throughout the ages” … and no matter what your beliefs, just keep an open mind.

What I Wish I Had Known Before I Met The Narcissist

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This is article about so much more than recognising red flags. It is also about more than intuition and choices. My greatest hope, in regard to this article, is that you no longer feel like you can or will be taken in by a narcissist for this reason: because a narcissist can dupe anyone. I hope that by reading this article you will be so much clearer on how that is just NOT true. (more…)

This is article about so much more than recognising red flags.

It is also about more than intuition and choices.

My greatest hope, in regard to this article, is that you no longer feel like you can or will be taken in by a narcissist for this reason: because a narcissist can dupe anyone.

I hope that by reading this article you will be so much clearer on how that is just NOT true.

2014 Co-dependency Checkup Part 2

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Well here we are onto Part Two of last week’s article , and I think it is really good timing. Christmas is very close, and this time of year can bring up for many people big stuff. It’s a time when young wounds can be triggered and we may fall back into co-dependent traps. I am constantly inspired by this Community, with so many people becoming authentic and realising that to varying degrees we all carry wounds and fears that have separated us from our true wholeness. I hope, as a result of reading Part One, that you now have compassion for yourself understanding this had so much to do with the way Life was modelled to us. (more…)

Well here we are onto Part Two of last week’s article , and I think it is really good timing. Christmas is very close, and this time of year can bring up for many people big stuff. It’s a time when young wounds can be triggered and we may fall back into co-dependent traps.

I am constantly inspired by this Community, with so many people becoming authentic and realising that to varying degrees we all carry wounds and fears that have separated us from our true wholeness. I hope, as a result of reading Part One, that you now have compassion for yourself understanding this had so much to do with the way Life was modelled to us.

2014 Co-dependency Check Up

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Some of you might remember that last year I created an article called Co-Dependency Checklist – How Far Have You Come? Because it is nearly the end of the year, I thought it would be great to reflect – to see where we are, and what progress we have made throughout the year. As sufferers of narcissistic abuse we have all played out co-dependency ... I used to be horrifically co-dependent! (more…)

Some of you might remember that last year I created an article called Co-Dependency Checklist – How Far Have You Come?

Because it is nearly the end of the year, I thought it would be great to reflect – to see where we are, and what progress we have made throughout the year.

As sufferers of narcissistic abuse we have all played out co-dependency … I used to be horrifically co-dependent!

How To Show Up In Life To Best Support Yourself And Others

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I was reading one of Neale Donald Walsch’s recent books “The Only Thing That Matters”, and he spoke about a story of a man who was lost, walking down a country road, cold and hungry, and he saw a farm house in the distance. As he walked towards it the conversation in his head was going something like this: “It’s late, the farmer will be annoyed about being disturbed. Maybe I shouldn’t bother him, he won’t be receptive.” By the time the man summoned up the courage to knock on the door he was in a high state of anxiety. (more…)

I was reading one of Neale Donald Walsch’s recent books “The Only Thing That Matters”, and he spoke about a story of a man who was lost, walking down a country road, cold and hungry, and he saw a farm house in the distance.

As he walked towards it the conversation in his head was going something like this: “It’s late, the farmer will be annoyed about being disturbed. Maybe I shouldn’t bother him, he won’t be receptive.” By the time the man summoned up the courage to knock on the door he was in a high state of anxiety.

From Being Trapped To Your Personal Freedom – Part 2

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This week’s article is about responding to people’s trapped situations and emotions. Please, let me say my heart goes out to all of you. The loss, depression, anxiety and powerlessness that is symptomatic of being narcissistically abused is awful. The real deal for me to help you is for me to be a generator of the solutions. (more…)

This week’s article is about responding to people’s trapped situations and emotions.

Please, let me say my heart goes out to all of you. The loss, depression, anxiety and powerlessness that is symptomatic of being narcissistically abused is awful.

The real deal for me to help you is for me to be a generator of the solutions.

From Being Trapped To Your Personal Freedom – Part 1

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Today I am writing this article in the most gorgeous cliff top restaurant in Phuket. The view is spectacular, the breeze is cooling, music is playing and I can hear the sea. I have just eaten a wonderful exotic Thai seafood and herb salad. Not so many years ago, being this way in the world felt impossible to me – like I could never, ever feel safe enough, confident enough or powerful enough to visit different countries on my own. (more…)

Today I am writing this article in the most gorgeous cliff top restaurant in Phuket. The view is spectacular, the breeze is cooling, music is playing and I can hear the sea.

I have just eaten a wonderful exotic Thai seafood and herb salad.

Not so many years ago, being this way in the world felt impossible to me – like I could never, ever feel safe enough, confident enough or powerful enough to visit different countries on my own.