Melanie Tonia Evans

How To Forgive Yourself For Falling For A Narcissist: Love After Abuse Series

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  One of the hardest things about recovering from narcissistic abuse is that we have to reconcile with the fact that we put so much of our time, love and resources into someone who wasn’t even real. You may be carrying a lot of shame about the fact that your life is now in a far worse state, as a result of the relationship. And worse yet, you may have lost total faith in yourself for making the decisions you did in the past. I want you to understand this, right from the onset, often even more than having to forgive the narcissist – we have to forgive ourselves. And the irony is: unless we forgive ourselves we can’t forgive and be released from any of this, and we can’t forgive the process and what happened to us. (more…)

 

One of the hardest things about recovering from narcissistic abuse is that we have to reconcile with the fact that we put so much of our time, love and resources into someone who wasn’t even real.

You may be carrying a lot of shame about the fact that your life is now in a far worse state, as a result of the relationship.

And worse yet, you may have lost total faith in yourself for making the decisions you did in the past.

I want you to understand this, right from the onset, often even more than having to forgive the narcissist – we have to forgive ourselves. And the irony is: unless we forgive ourselves we can’t forgive and be released from any of this, and we can’t forgive the process and what happened to us.

How To Trust Again After The Person You Loved Didn’t Love You

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  Our most painful traumas are the ones that hurt our heart. Again and again people agonise, as I did too, with the hardest thing to get over – the realisation that this person did not love you. How can we hope to love again after knowing that the love we were invested in was a lie? How can we even consider opening up and taking the risk with our mind, souls and hearts again? Many people don’t ... they concede it is too risky and too painful and feel that they simply couldn’t survive that level of emotional devastation again. (more…)

 

Our most painful traumas are the ones that hurt our heart.

Again and again people agonise, as I did too, with the hardest thing to get over – the realisation that this person did not love you.

How can we hope to love again after knowing that the love we were invested in was a lie?

How can we even consider opening up and taking the risk with our mind, souls and hearts again?

Many people don’t … they concede it is too risky and too painful and feel that they simply couldn’t survive that level of emotional devastation again.

The Decision That Makes Everything In Your Life Change – Thriver Show #34 Kerry

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  Kerry’s Thriver Show is so inspirational – and it is wonderful that we were able to do this interview on camera. Two years ago Kerry was at the lowest point she could ever remember. Her marriage had ended and her financial state was ruined. And … devastatingly she thought her dreams of being in a loving relationship, conceiving and becoming a mother were over. (more…)

 

Kerry’s Thriver Show is so inspirational – and it is wonderful that we were able to do this interview on camera.

Two years ago Kerry was at the lowest point she could ever remember.

Her marriage had ended and her financial state was ruined.

And … devastatingly she thought her dreams of being in a loving relationship, conceiving and becoming a mother were over.

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 3

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  A few days ago I launched a very special series called The Once Broken and Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life. Within this series we are tackling, in my humble opinion, the most vital 5 Core Human Beliefs that plague mankind. These beliefs are fundamental, and working with them is not glib! Because they ARE the difference between separation and unity and fear and love. These Beliefs are devastating. They keep us out in the cold, fearing that we are defective, unlovable and that life doesn’t support us ... and ... (more…)

 

A few days ago I launched a very special series called The Once Broken and Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life.

Within this series we are tackling, in my humble opinion, the most vital 5 Core Human Beliefs that plague mankind.

These beliefs are fundamental, and working with them is not glib!

Because they ARE the difference between separation and unity and fear and love.

These Beliefs are devastating.

They keep us out in the cold, fearing that we are defective, unlovable and that life doesn’t support us … and …

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 2

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  There is a very sad truth about the human race. It's this .... Despite all the beauty, abundance, love, joy and connection that is there for us to experience, there is something very sinister lurking beneath the surface. Something that we can't see, yet which impacts EVERY area of our life. And it is so deeply lodged within our being and our psyche that it plagues every single human being and humanity as a collective. What am I talking about? (more…)

 

There is a very sad truth about the human race.

It’s this ….

Despite all the beauty, abundance, love, joy and connection that is there for us to experience, there is something very sinister lurking beneath the surface.

Something that we can’t see, yet which impacts EVERY area of our life.

And it is so deeply lodged within our being and our psyche that it plagues every single human being and humanity as a collective.

What am I talking about?

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 1

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I LOVE granting you information that I KNOW can help you beyond measure … This is one of those exciting times … which can take the Thriver Model to an even greater level of radiance and effectiveness. Helping you to anchor into and live fundamental Thriver Emotional Truths … the ESSENTIAL commodities that can and do make every area of your Life work. The incredible benefits of Thriving after narcissistic abuse are this … (more…)

I LOVE granting you information that I KNOW can help you beyond measure …

This is one of those exciting times … which can take the Thriver Model to an even greater level of radiance and effectiveness.

Helping you to anchor into and live fundamental Thriver Emotional Truths … the ESSENTIAL commodities that can and do make every area of your Life work.

The incredible benefits of Thriving after narcissistic abuse are this …

How To Restore Your Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse

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  I asked the Community this week, what people would like me to write about in this week’s upcoming blog article. The most common request people asked about was, “How can I trust again?” … It’s a great topic, and I’m really going to enjoy talking about that with you. So here goes …. (more…)

 

I asked the Community this week, what people would like me to write about in this week’s upcoming blog article.

The most common request people asked about was, “How can I trust again?” …

It’s a great topic, and I’m really going to enjoy talking about that with you.

So here goes ….

The First Ever NARP Couple! [Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse #28 Mike And Catsby]

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When Is It Safe To Date After Narcissistic Abuse? Part 2

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This is Part Two of this series, and I really hope Part One helped you understand why it is so much healthier to not rush into dating after suffering an abusive relationship – ensuring that we create a healthy relationship with ourselves first. Part One, fundamentally was about self-partnering and mating our own soul, so that we could show up healthily as “love” within the creation of another relationship, rather than attempting to get “love” by seeking another person to grant us ourselves. (more…)

This is Part Two of this series, and I really hope Part One helped you understand why it is so much healthier to not rush into dating after suffering an abusive relationship – ensuring that we create a healthy relationship with ourselves first.

Part One, fundamentally was about self-partnering and mating our own soul, so that we could show up healthily as “love” within the creation of another relationship, rather than attempting to get “love” by seeking another person to grant us ourselves.

When Is It Safe To Date After Narcissistic Abuse? Part 1

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  I get asked this soooo often, and I mean so often! This is what people ask … “Is it time to date yet … because I’m struggling with being attracted to decent men … Why is that?” Or … “I’m comparing everyone to the narc … no-one lights me up like he / she did. Why is this? I’m dating but it’s so painful …. it just makes me miss the narcissist more.” (more…)

 

I get asked this soooo often, and I mean so often!

This is what people ask …

“Is it time to date yet … because I’m struggling with being attracted to decent men … Why is that?”

Or … “I’m comparing everyone to the narc … no-one lights me up like he / she did. Why is this? I’m dating but it’s so painful …. it just makes me miss the narcissist more.”