Melanie Tonia Evans

The Right Time To Start Dating Again – Love After Narcissistic Abuse

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  The question on so many people’s lips, in this community, is: “How do I know when I am ready to date again?” After narcissistic abuse, naturally, you may feel terrified about putting yourself out there – and why wouldn’t you? There is no way KNOWN any of us ever want to run the risk of being with another narcissist. Even after doing a lot of inner work, you may not be 100% sure that you are ready … or maybe you are not sure HOW to get ready. And … maybe it’s years since you dated, or maybe you never even really dated and don’t know how to do it successfully. (I certainly didn’t until I learnt how to!) (more…)

 

The question on so many people’s lips, in this community, is: “How do I know when I am ready to date again?”

After narcissistic abuse, naturally, you may feel terrified about putting yourself out there – and why wouldn’t you? There is no way KNOWN any of us ever want to run the risk of being with another narcissist.

Even after doing a lot of inner work, you may not be 100% sure that you are ready … or maybe you are not sure HOW to get ready.

And … maybe it’s years since you dated, or maybe you never even really dated and don’t know how to do it successfully. (I certainly didn’t until I learnt how to!)

Love After Narcissistic Abuse – How To Stop Attracting Toxic People

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  First off I want to wish you a happy Valentine's day. And I know, many of you may be doing it tough ... this day can be a very painful one in this community. (Big hugs to you if that is the case.) And that is what today's Thriver TV episode is all about ... breaking through so that NEXT Valentine's Day (if this one isn't already) will be beautiful and amazing for you. I really love this topic for Valentine’s day – its big, it's juicy and it's life-changing. (more…)

 

First off I want to wish you a happy Valentine’s day.

And I know, many of you may be doing it tough … this day can be a very painful one in this community.

(Big hugs to you if that is the case.)

And that is what today’s Thriver TV episode is all about … breaking through so that NEXT Valentine’s Day (if this one isn’t already) will be beautiful and amazing for you.

I really love this topic for Valentine’s day – its big, it’s juicy and it’s life-changing.

The 4 Steps to Opening Your Heart After Narcissistic Abuse

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  I know you may be struggling to keep your heart open to love again after narcissistic abuse, and it’s totally understandable, because there is nothing quite like the devastation that this level of abuse inflicts on our heart … And it’s natural for our mind and body to try and protect us. However, you may feel frustrated because you would like to connect with others and fearlessly build new relationships, and even possibly fall in love again. Maybe, because your heart has been hurt so much, you couldn't possibly contemplate purposeful dating, even though there have been no love opportunities enter your life. (more…)

 

I know you may be struggling to keep your heart open to love again after narcissistic abuse, and it’s totally understandable, because there is nothing quite like the devastation that this level of abuse inflicts on our heart …

And it’s natural for our mind and body to try and protect us.

However, you may feel frustrated because you would like to connect with others and fearlessly build new relationships, and even possibly fall in love again.

Maybe, because your heart has been hurt so much, you couldn’t possibly contemplate purposeful dating, even though there have been no love opportunities enter your life.

How To Forgive Yourself For Falling For A Narcissist: Love After Abuse Series

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  One of the hardest things about recovering from narcissistic abuse is that we have to reconcile with the fact that we put so much of our time, love and resources into someone who wasn’t even real. You may be carrying a lot of shame about the fact that your life is now in a far worse state, as a result of the relationship. And worse yet, you may have lost total faith in yourself for making the decisions you did in the past. I want you to understand this, right from the onset, often even more than having to forgive the narcissist – we have to forgive ourselves. And the irony is: unless we forgive ourselves we can’t forgive and be released from any of this, and we can’t forgive the process and what happened to us. (more…)

 

One of the hardest things about recovering from narcissistic abuse is that we have to reconcile with the fact that we put so much of our time, love and resources into someone who wasn’t even real.

You may be carrying a lot of shame about the fact that your life is now in a far worse state, as a result of the relationship.

And worse yet, you may have lost total faith in yourself for making the decisions you did in the past.

I want you to understand this, right from the onset, often even more than having to forgive the narcissist – we have to forgive ourselves. And the irony is: unless we forgive ourselves we can’t forgive and be released from any of this, and we can’t forgive the process and what happened to us.

How To Trust Again After The Person You Loved Didn’t Love You

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  Our most painful traumas are the ones that hurt our heart. Again and again people agonise, as I did too, with the hardest thing to get over – the realisation that this person did not love you. How can we hope to love again after knowing that the love we were invested in was a lie? How can we even consider opening up and taking the risk with our mind, souls and hearts again? Many people don’t ... they concede it is too risky and too painful and feel that they simply couldn’t survive that level of emotional devastation again. (more…)

 

Our most painful traumas are the ones that hurt our heart.

Again and again people agonise, as I did too, with the hardest thing to get over – the realisation that this person did not love you.

How can we hope to love again after knowing that the love we were invested in was a lie?

How can we even consider opening up and taking the risk with our mind, souls and hearts again?

Many people don’t … they concede it is too risky and too painful and feel that they simply couldn’t survive that level of emotional devastation again.

The Decision That Makes Everything In Your Life Change – Thriver Show #34 Kerry

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  Kerry’s Thriver Show is so inspirational – and it is wonderful that we were able to do this interview on camera. Two years ago Kerry was at the lowest point she could ever remember. Her marriage had ended and her financial state was ruined. And … devastatingly she thought her dreams of being in a loving relationship, conceiving and becoming a mother were over. (more…)

 

Kerry’s Thriver Show is so inspirational – and it is wonderful that we were able to do this interview on camera.

Two years ago Kerry was at the lowest point she could ever remember.

Her marriage had ended and her financial state was ruined.

And … devastatingly she thought her dreams of being in a loving relationship, conceiving and becoming a mother were over.

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 3

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  A few days ago I launched a very special series called The Once Broken and Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life. Within this series we are tackling, in my humble opinion, the most vital 5 Core Human Beliefs that plague mankind. These beliefs are fundamental, and working with them is not glib! Because they ARE the difference between separation and unity and fear and love. These Beliefs are devastating. They keep us out in the cold, fearing that we are defective, unlovable and that life doesn’t support us ... and ... (more…)

 

A few days ago I launched a very special series called The Once Broken and Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life.

Within this series we are tackling, in my humble opinion, the most vital 5 Core Human Beliefs that plague mankind.

These beliefs are fundamental, and working with them is not glib!

Because they ARE the difference between separation and unity and fear and love.

These Beliefs are devastating.

They keep us out in the cold, fearing that we are defective, unlovable and that life doesn’t support us … and …

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 2

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  There is a very sad truth about the human race. It's this .... Despite all the beauty, abundance, love, joy and connection that is there for us to experience, there is something very sinister lurking beneath the surface. Something that we can't see, yet which impacts EVERY area of our life. And it is so deeply lodged within our being and our psyche that it plagues every single human being and humanity as a collective. What am I talking about? (more…)

 

There is a very sad truth about the human race.

It’s this ….

Despite all the beauty, abundance, love, joy and connection that is there for us to experience, there is something very sinister lurking beneath the surface.

Something that we can’t see, yet which impacts EVERY area of our life.

And it is so deeply lodged within our being and our psyche that it plagues every single human being and humanity as a collective.

What am I talking about?

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 1

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I LOVE granting you information that I KNOW can help you beyond measure … This is one of those exciting times … which can take the Thriver Model to an even greater level of radiance and effectiveness. Helping you to anchor into and live fundamental Thriver Emotional Truths … the ESSENTIAL commodities that can and do make every area of your Life work. The incredible benefits of Thriving after narcissistic abuse are this … (more…)

I LOVE granting you information that I KNOW can help you beyond measure …

This is one of those exciting times … which can take the Thriver Model to an even greater level of radiance and effectiveness.

Helping you to anchor into and live fundamental Thriver Emotional Truths … the ESSENTIAL commodities that can and do make every area of your Life work.

The incredible benefits of Thriving after narcissistic abuse are this …

How To Restore Your Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse

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  I asked the Community this week, what people would like me to write about in this week’s upcoming blog article. The most common request people asked about was, “How can I trust again?” … It’s a great topic, and I’m really going to enjoy talking about that with you. So here goes …. (more…)

 

I asked the Community this week, what people would like me to write about in this week’s upcoming blog article.

The most common request people asked about was, “How can I trust again?” …

It’s a great topic, and I’m really going to enjoy talking about that with you.

So here goes ….