Melanie Tonia Evans

Is There A Right Way To Leave A Narcissist?

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  I really wanted to write this article, even though I had done two previous articles on this topic ... because lately so many people have been asking about this. And I can only hope and pray this is because more people are realising that this is what they need to do – if they are going to generate a happy and healthy life free from abuse. So it was my greatest desire in this article to create a compendium of information to help empower you to not only leave the narcissist but also deal with the aftermath of doing so – emotionally and practically. (more…)

 

I really wanted to write this article, even though I had done two previous articles on this topic … because lately so many people have been asking about this.

And I can only hope and pray this is because more people are realising that this is what they need to do – if they are going to generate a happy and healthy life free from abuse.

So it was my greatest desire in this article to create a compendium of information to help empower you to not only leave the narcissist but also deal with the aftermath of doing so – emotionally and practically.

Interview with Nicolle Edward – Founder of Rize Up Australia

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This week I did an interview with Nicolle Edward, the CEO and Founder of Rize Up Australia. Rize Up is a community driven organisation dedicated to educating, empowering and ending domestic and family violence. We all know that domestic and intimate partner violence sadly is epidemic. Recently in Australia there was a shocking week with two women murdered in broad daylight, and also a child and a grandparent murdered. These issues are all over the world, and Rize Up is taking a stand by rallying community resources to assist women who need to flee, in order to be safe and re-start their lives. (more…)

This week I did an interview with Nicolle Edward, the CEO and Founder of Rize Up Australia.

Rize Up is a community driven organisation dedicated to educating, empowering and ending domestic and family violence.

We all know that domestic and intimate partner violence sadly is epidemic. Recently in Australia there was a shocking week with two women murdered in broad daylight, and also a child and a grandparent murdered.

These issues are all over the world, and Rize Up is taking a stand by rallying community resources to assist women who need to flee, in order to be safe and re-start their lives.

How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 2

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There really is no wonder that divorcing a narcissist takes the level of trauma of divorce to an unprecedented level – when we consider things such as: the cruel discards and replacing with new partners, new partners attacking you as well as the narcissist, battling over custody and property and the financial losses that generally happen as a result of the relationship, and whilst dealing with legal systems and narcissists in general. I want to discuss each of these points one at a time. (more…)

There really is no wonder that divorcing a narcissist takes the level of trauma of divorce to an unprecedented level – when we consider things such as: the cruel discards and replacing with new partners, new partners attacking you as well as the narcissistbattling over custody and property and the financial losses that generally happen as a result of the relationship, and whilst dealing with legal systems and narcissists in general.

I want to discuss each of these points one at a time.

How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 1

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This first article is Part One of a two part series I think we would all agree that divorce is one of the most excruciating things anyone can go through. Psychologists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe in 1967 created a list of the top 43 most stressful life events. Divorce rated the second most stressful, only capped by death of a spouse. That describes a normal divorce. But what about divorcing a narcissist? (more…)

This first article is Part One of a two part series

I think we would all agree that divorce is one of the most excruciating things anyone can go through.

Psychologists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe in 1967 created a list of the top 43 most stressful life events. Divorce rated the second most stressful, only capped by death of a spouse.

That describes a normal divorce.

But what about divorcing a narcissist?

Domestic Abuse Cycles, Safety Planning And Support Services With Fiona

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This show is a very important one for the New Life Community. It is an interview with a lady who works on ‘the front line' with domestic violence, and it is fantastic that we can receive her knowledge and advice today. I know personally how involved my work is with people who have been abused, but truly I can’t even begin to imagine what it must be to see the real life results of abuse in the flesh day after day, and have to deal with the trauma of what goes on. This lady in my eyes is incredible, and it is such a privileged to have her on my show. (more…)

This show is a very important one for the New Life Community. It is an interview with a lady who works on ‘the front line’ with domestic violence, and it is fantastic that we can receive her knowledge and advice today.

I know personally how involved my work is with people who have been abused, but truly I can’t even begin to imagine what it must be to see the real life results of abuse in the flesh day after day, and have to deal with the trauma of what goes on.

This lady in my eyes is incredible, and it is such a privileged to have her on my show.

3 Important Points You Must Understand Before Attempting To Leave A Narcissist

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Leaving a narcissist is never easy… To the outside world it would seem obvious that you should just ‘get out’…. but as we all know when it comes to the leaving part - and even after you go - you may really struggle with the decision. When deciding to leave a narcissist you are likely experiencing a myriad of emotions. Fear, regret, guilt, ‘what if’s’, and ‘maybe he or she could change’. You may still be holding on to the hope that this relationship could turn into everything you wish it was meant to be. (more…)

Leaving a narcissist is never easy…

To the outside world it would seem obvious that you should just ‘get out’…. but as we all know when it comes to the leaving part – and even after you go – you may really struggle with the decision.

When deciding to leave a narcissist you are likely experiencing a myriad of emotions. Fear, regret, guilt, ‘what if’s’, and ‘maybe he or she could change’.

You may still be holding on to the hope that this relationship could turn into everything you wish it was meant to be.

How To Leave The Narcissist With Your Emotions Intact

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If you have tried to break away from a narcissistic relationship you know that it is excruciatingly difficult. Just when you think you’re finally ready and determined to leave, or simply know that you have to get away, the narcissist turns your emotions upside down with guilt, intimidation or fear tactics, or looks you in the eyes and tell you the exactly the words you have been waiting to hear. “I love you, I’ll change, and I will do anything to save us! I love you more than life itself!” (more…)

If you have tried to break away from a narcissistic relationship you know that it is excruciatingly difficult.

Just when you think you’re finally ready and determined to leave, or simply know that you have to get away, the narcissist turns your emotions upside down with guilt, intimidation or fear tactics, or looks you in the eyes and tell you the exactly the words you have been waiting to hear.

“I love you, I’ll change, and I will do anything to save us! I love you more than life itself!”

How to Overcome The Pathological Lies Of The Narcissist And Win The Divorce, Settlement And Custody Battles

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One thing is certain with narcissists; when you separate from them, and still have legal, property or custody to sort out … They will pathologically lie. As such, you can expect fabricated stories, twisted facts and downright dirty tactics. The narcissist is very capable of telling solicitors, police and courthouses exactly whatever lies he or she wants to, in order to try to punish you, get the upper hand and win, project blame, create smear campaigns, play the victim as if he or she has been vilified (especially when things aren’t going well for him or her), and of course disregard any personal accountability for his or her unacceptable behaviour. (more…)

One thing is certain with narcissists; when you separate from them, and still have legal, property or custody to sort out …

They will pathologically lie.

As such, you can expect fabricated stories, twisted facts and downright dirty tactics.

The narcissist is very capable of telling solicitors, police and courthouses exactly whatever lies he or she wants to, in order to try to punish you, get the upper hand and win, project blame, create smear campaigns, play the victim as if he or she has been vilified (especially when things aren’t going well for him or her), and of course disregard any personal accountability for his or her unacceptable behaviour.