Melanie Tonia Evans

What Is Narcissistic Abuse Really Telling Us?

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  When we are in a relationship which is unconscious, the relationship doesn’t improve. Because the essential commodities of mutuality, trust, respect, integrity and harmony aren’t present, and what this means is the integrity of the entire relationship is under strain and threat. If you’ve been in an unconscious relationship you will relate to this: The same issues are unresolved and come up over and over again. Arguments begin, then gather more and more frequently and deliver even more devastating impact. And the longer this goes on the more you can hear a voice in your head telling you “Something isn’t right!” (more…)

 

When we are in a relationship which is unconscious, the relationship doesn’t improve.

Because the essential commodities of mutuality, trust, respect, integrity and harmony aren’t present, and what this means is the integrity of the entire relationship is under strain and threat.

If you’ve been in an unconscious relationship you will relate to this:

The same issues are unresolved and come up over and over again.

Arguments begin, then gather more and more frequently and deliver even more devastating impact.

And the longer this goes on the more you can hear a voice in your head telling you “Something isn’t right!”

The Narcissist – Soulmate, Twin Flame Or Cellmate?

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  I have been looking forward to writing this article ... really looking forward to it … because so many people, as well as spiritual teachers, have different theories on this. And the confusion definitely spills over into the questions people have in regard to narcissists … Are narcissists Soul Mates that we were meant to get it right with, but just couldn’t ... or are they Twin Flames; deeply impactful souls called forth to surface and purge our darker pieces that they reflect, so that we can evolve? Or, are they a hideous and terrible mistake of humanity that we just happened to get tangled up with, and found it so difficult to separate from? (more…)

 

I have been looking forward to writing this article … really looking forward to it … because so many people, as well as spiritual teachers, have different theories on this.

And the confusion definitely spills over into the questions people have in regard to narcissists …

Are narcissists Soul Mates that we were meant to get it right with, but just couldn’t … or are they Twin Flames; deeply impactful souls called forth to surface and purge our darker pieces that they reflect, so that we can evolve?

Or, are they a hideous and terrible mistake of humanity that we just happened to get tangled up with, and found it so difficult to separate from?

How To Trust Your Inner Guidance System

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  The following is such a fascinating question … When is my intuition warning correct and when it is wrong? And it’s a really valid question, because we know that the human experience can be fraught with fear. We all experience triggers of fear going off within us, and many people who are into personal development and consciousness (as so many of you in this Community are) may question what these triggers really mean. In other words, … When am I being warned about something, or is this an overreaction because of a trauma that has been triggered within me? (more…)

 

The following is such a fascinating question …

When is my intuition warning correct and when it is wrong?

And it’s a really valid question, because we know that the human experience can be fraught with fear.

We all experience triggers of fear going off within us, and many people who are into personal development and consciousness (as so many of you in this Community are) may question what these triggers really mean.

In other words, … When am I being warned about something, or is this an overreaction because of a trauma that has been triggered within me?

How To Set Boundaries With A Narcissist If You Can’t Go No Contact Part 2

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  In Part One of this series, we investigated many of the energetic truths regarding how to operate in the vicinity of narcissists who we can’t go No Contact with. And how our goal is to detach, grant them no narcissistic supply and grow up those parts of ourselves that used to get triggered and hooked into their shenanigans; understanding that when we stop granting energy, the narcissist must put their energy onto obtaining narcissistic supply from a much easier source. In Part Two, my desire is to illustrate some fundamental differences between a) People who are still hooked in through unhealed parts, b) Those who are working with Grey Rock, but are still hooked in through unhealed parts and c) People who are firmly dedicated to working at evolving themselves, and have placed their personal evolution and showing up authentically as their most important life mission. (more…)

 

In Part One of this series, we investigated many of the energetic truths regarding how to operate in the vicinity of narcissists who we can’t go No Contact with.

And how our goal is to detach, grant them no narcissistic supply and grow up those parts of ourselves that used to get triggered and hooked into their shenanigans; understanding that when we stop granting energy, the narcissist must put their energy onto obtaining narcissistic supply from a much easier source.

In Part Two, my desire is to illustrate some fundamental differences between a) People who are still hooked in through unhealed parts, b) Those who are working with Grey Rock, but are still hooked in through unhealed parts and c) People who are firmly dedicated to working at evolving themselves, and have placed their personal evolution and showing up authentically as their most important life mission.

Evolutionary Trends For 2017 And Why It’s Time!

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  What a year 2016 has been and I don’t think any of us can believe how fast it has gone. Doesn’t it just feel like a few short months ago it was last year’s Christmas? Each year is slipping away faster and faster. This brings me to the first of two points that I would love to investigate with you in this article. Time. The other topic I wish to discuss with you is a theme that I have seen come up over and over again – with women I know, women in personal healings and also consistently throughout the Community. (more…)

 

What a year 2016 has been and I don’t think any of us can believe how fast it has gone.

Doesn’t it just feel like a few short months ago it was last year’s Christmas?

Each year is slipping away faster and faster.

This brings me to the first of two points that I would love to investigate with you in this article.

Time.

The other topic I wish to discuss with you is a theme that I have seen come up over and over again – with women I know, women in personal healings and also consistently throughout the Community.

The Difference Between Judgement and Discernment

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  As we grow and become more involved in our own personal-development, we may battle with understanding how to deal with those things we feel passionately opposed to. The following are common confusions ... When is negative emotions ours to deal with and not ours to deal with? When it is okay to know our own minds and rights and be in opposition to something? How can we be effective in our missions and causes to make our own life and the world a better place? (more…)

 

As we grow and become more involved in our own personal-development, we may battle with understanding how to deal with those things we feel passionately opposed to.

The following are common confusions …

When is negative emotions ours to deal with and not ours to deal with?

When it is okay to know our own minds and rights and be in opposition to something?

How can we be effective in our missions and causes to make our own life and the world a better place?

How Do We Decide To Heal?

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  It can be a huge thing to "decide" to commit to our own healing. We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated. Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long. But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing? I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode. (more…)

 

It can be a huge thing to “decide” to commit to our own healing.

We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated.

Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long.

But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing?

I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode.

Shifts Happen – Overcoming Ego Blocks

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  Our ego blocks can be incredibly formidable. When we are constantly getting "the voices in our head" and the feelings that derail us from working on ourselves. They can confuse our healing process, and even prevent it. This was Mette’s plight, and she had been trying everything she could to get past it. I was only too happy to help her with this issue, because I knew it would not only provide a breakthrough for her, it would also unlock the solution for so many others suffering from the same problem. If you have been struggling with ego blocks that have been preventing your healing, then this Shifts Happen episode is a really important one to watch and participate it! (more…)

 

Our ego blocks can be incredibly formidable.

When we are constantly getting “the voices in our head” and the feelings that derail us from working on ourselves.

They can confuse our healing process, and even prevent it.

This was Mette’s plight, and she had been trying everything she could to get past it.

I was only too happy to help her with this issue, because I knew it would not only provide a breakthrough for her, it would also unlock the solution for so many others suffering from the same problem.

If you have been struggling with ego blocks that have been preventing your healing, then this Shifts Happen episode is a really important one to watch and participate it!

Why Don’t People Heal From Narcissistic Abuse

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  Why don’t people commonly heal from Narcissistic Abuse? Why are people usually only managing their symptoms rather than healing their trauma which is causing the symptoms? Wouldn’t it make so much more sense to do that? Is it possible? These are all questions that I grant you the Quantum answers to in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

Why don’t people commonly heal from Narcissistic Abuse?

Why are people usually only managing their symptoms rather than healing their trauma which is causing the symptoms?

Wouldn’t it make so much more sense to do that?

Is it possible?

These are all questions that I grant you the Quantum answers to in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

Why Do Narcissists Go After Lightworkers

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So many people who are Lightworkers have been narcissistically abused. An ASTOUNDING amount of people. Why is this the case? Is it because narcissist’s need “Light’ to exist, or is there a BIGGER truth going on? A truth that makes so much sense (as well as lends incredible power) regarding what Lightworkers REALLY came here to do. Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode! (more…)

So many people who are Lightworkers have been narcissistically abused.

An ASTOUNDING amount of people.

Why is this the case?

Is it because narcissist’s need “Light’ to exist, or is there a BIGGER truth going on?

A truth that makes so much sense (as well as lends incredible power) regarding what Lightworkers REALLY came here to do.

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode!