Melanie Tonia Evans

Emotional Blackmail – The Devastating Weapon A Narcissist Uses To Betray You

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  Today's episode is about a tragic situation you may have, or may still be dealing with, as a result of getting involved with a narcissist ... When they turn the tables and use your sensitive information against you. At first we did not realize that a narcissist is like the CIA building a dossier of information on us. We simply thought their attentiveness and attention was about genuine affection ... but the truth is it was about something much more sinister. (more…)

 

Today’s episode is about a tragic situation you may have, or may still be dealing with, as a result of getting involved with a narcissist …

When they turn the tables and use your sensitive information against you.

At first we did not realize that a narcissist is like the CIA building a dossier of information on us.

We simply thought their attentiveness and attention was about genuine affection … but the truth is it was about something much more sinister.

What To Do When A Narcissist Swiftly Replaces You And Flaunts Their New Supply

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  Is there any more soul crushing and punishing thing in our life than to be replaced with another love partner? Possibly not. And how horrifying is it to see the evidence of the narcissist and their new lover plastered all over social media enjoying a wonderful loved up time, whilst we can barely get out of bed, let alone function normally. If we have been discarded and replaced in a heartbeat, and the narcissist is cruelly rubbing our nose in it, the trauma may be so horrific that we feel like we want to literally die. (more…)

 

Is there any more soul crushing and punishing thing in our life than to be replaced with another love partner?

Possibly not.

And how horrifying is it to see the evidence of the narcissist and their new lover plastered all over social media enjoying a wonderful loved up time, whilst we can barely get out of bed, let alone function normally.

If we have been discarded and replaced in a heartbeat, and the narcissist is cruelly rubbing our nose in it, the trauma may be so horrific that we feel like we want to literally die.

What To Do When The Narcissist Infiltrates Your Dreams

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  One of the most disturbing things about narcissistic abuse is that it often comes after you, even as you sleep. Just when you think you can get some relief from the aching torment of your waking life, the trauma insidiously finds its way into your dreams. Giving you nightmares. And they are horrible ones ... filled with big emotional content, charges and trauma. What do they mean? In this episode I want to share with you what they mean, as well as how to heal yourself to a level where you simply will not experience these awful narcissistic dreams anymore. (more…)

 

One of the most disturbing things about narcissistic abuse is that it often comes after you, even as you sleep.

Just when you think you can get some relief from the aching torment of your waking life, the trauma insidiously finds its way into your dreams.

Giving you nightmares.

And they are horrible ones … filled with big emotional content, charges and trauma.

What do they mean?

In this episode I want to share with you what they mean, as well as how to heal yourself to a level where you simply will not experience these awful narcissistic dreams anymore.

How I Healed From Adrenal Malfunction After Being Told It Was Incurable

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  Adrenal malfunction is serious and it is a chronic problem for so many people in this Community. It’s the common by-product of the horrific impact of narcissistic abuse – when our stress hormones go into overdrive trying to cope with the crazy-making, the unsafe twists, turns and stunts that narcissists do, as well as the malicious, unthinkable trauma they bring into our lives and to the people who we love. When our adrenals no longer function as they should, our ability to switch of fight or flee is severely compromised and the symptoms are debilitating to say the least. They include such things as hair loss, appetite problems, sleeping disorders, premature aging, the risk of heart attack or stroke, and many other dis-eases due to a stressed immune system – including cancer. (more…)

 

Adrenal malfunction is serious and it is a chronic problem for so many people in this Community.

It’s the common by-product of the horrific impact of narcissistic abuse – when our stress hormones go into overdrive trying to cope with the crazy-making, the unsafe twists, turns and stunts that narcissists do, as well as the malicious, unthinkable trauma they bring into our lives and to the people who we love.

When our adrenals no longer function as they should, our ability to switch of fight or flee is severely compromised and the symptoms are debilitating to say the least.

They include such things as hair loss, appetite problems, sleeping disorders, premature aging, the risk of heart attack or stroke, and many other dis-eases due to a stressed immune system – including cancer.

Conquering The Terror Of Being With Another Narcissist

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  It is very healthy, normal and human to want to love and be loved – and one of the grandest ways we can experience this is through intimate love relationships. Yet, after having our hearts, souls and life smashed by narcissists, we may concede it is safer to go without love at this level than ever run the risk of being abused again. Or … maybe we are trying to find love, yet are continually experiencing connections with men and women, which are disappointing, painful or even downright scary! I totally GET IT … That is exactly how I used to feel as well after being narcissistically abused. Initially, I was alone for three and half years, because any time I tried to date, the only people who were coming into my orbit were seriously disordered and unsuitable … and I felt even more traumatised as a result of trying. (more…)

 

It is very healthy, normal and human to want to love and be loved – and one of the grandest ways we can experience this is through intimate love relationships.

Yet, after having our hearts, souls and life smashed by narcissists, we may concede it is safer to go without love at this level than ever run the risk of being abused again.

Or … maybe we are trying to find love, yet are continually experiencing connections with men and women, which are disappointing, painful or even downright scary!

I totally GET IT … That is exactly how I used to feel as well after being narcissistically abused.

Initially, I was alone for three and half years, because any time I tried to date, the only people who were coming into my orbit were seriously disordered and unsuitable … and I felt even more traumatised as a result of trying.

How To Break The Psychic Connection With A Narcissist

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  I truly believe the hardest bond to break with a narcissist is the one we can’t see … The psychic tie. So many people report this – the terrible feeling like the narcissist still lives on inside of them – the abusive voice in their head, the reoccurring nightmares … and the feeling like the narcissist is coursing through their veins like shards of ice, or a foul black ink. When we are living with this psychic infiltration we feel polluted. We feel like we may NEVER get free of this feeling. And it is so hard to exist with it … because our Life-force is being sucked out of us no matter what we do to block, cut off or escape the connection. (more…)

 

I truly believe the hardest bond to break with a narcissist is the one we can’t see …

The psychic tie.

So many people report this – the terrible feeling like the narcissist still lives on inside of them – the abusive voice in their head, the reoccurring nightmares … and the feeling like the narcissist is coursing through their veins like shards of ice, or a foul black ink.

When we are living with this psychic infiltration we feel polluted.

We feel like we may NEVER get free of this feeling.

And it is so hard to exist with it … because our Life-force is being sucked out of us no matter what we do to block, cut off or escape the connection.

What To Do If You Feel Like You’re Too Old To Recover From Abuse

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  This is one of the most painful questions people ask … It is so understandable, after being narcissistically abused, to think that you have thrown the best years of your life away … and that it’s now too late to create a great life. And let’s face it – it’s very unlikely that you have ended a relationship in a supported state, where you are healthy, happy and buoyantly able to move forward. In fact, the exact opposite is usually true – you’ve lost a lot, and especially your confidence and faith in Life and yourself. You may have been set back years – emotionally, mentally, physically and financially. And of course it feels like the dreams that you had worked hard to accomplish have been thwarted! (more…)

 

This is one of the most painful questions people ask …

It is so understandable, after being narcissistically abused, to think that you have thrown the best years of your life away … and that it’s now too late to create a great life.

And let’s face it – it’s very unlikely that you have ended a relationship in a supported state, where you are healthy, happy and buoyantly able to move forward.

In fact, the exact opposite is usually true – you’ve lost a lot, and especially your confidence and faith in Life and yourself.

You may have been set back years – emotionally, mentally, physically and financially.

And of course it feels like the dreams that you had worked hard to accomplish have been thwarted!

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 2

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  Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists. All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated. The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist. And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings. (more…)

 

Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists.

All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated.

The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist.

And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings.

What Happens When We Assign The Narcissist As Our God?

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  The narcissist seems all powerful. He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad. And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist. You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation. So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them? Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

The narcissist seems all powerful.

He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad.

And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist.

You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation.

So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them?

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

Why Breaking No Contact Doesn’t Mean You Are Back To Square One

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  Breaking No Contact after days, weeks or even months of battling the urge to …. can feel so self-defeating. It feels like everything we went through was to no avail. It feels like we have to start all over again – because we are back to square one. But are we REALLY? In this week’s Thriver Tv episode, you will learn how this is in fact the exact opposite … (more…)

 

Breaking No Contact after days, weeks or even months of battling the urge to …. can feel so self-defeating.

It feels like everything we went through was to no avail.

It feels like we have to start all over again – because we are back to square one.

But are we REALLY?

In this week’s Thriver Tv episode, you will learn how this is in fact the exact opposite …