Melanie Tonia Evans

4 Shocking Ways Narcissists Bleed You Financially

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  Sooo many people in this community have been taken down financially by narcissists – myself included. And it’s terrible … because you may have lost everything you’ve worked your entire life for, to someone who you know manipulated, connived, lied to you and was in the relationship ONLY for their own selfish benefit. It’s devastating and it's beyond cruel. How can we stop this happening to us now? And, how can we shore ourselves up so that this will never happen to us again? (more…)

 

Sooo many people in this community have been taken down financially by narcissists – myself included.

And it’s terrible … because you may have lost everything you’ve worked your entire life for, to someone who you know manipulated, connived, lied to you and was in the relationship ONLY for their own selfish benefit.

It’s devastating and it’s beyond cruel.

How can we stop this happening to us now?

And, how can we shore ourselves up so that this will never happen to us again?

How To Break Free From Toxic People In Your Life

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Have you ever felt the absolute confusion, angst, anger, despair and pain of trying to leave a toxic person behind? You may say, ‘I know they are NO good for me!” Are you still confused as to why, despite what this person has done, that you still feel in love with them? Or maybe … you don’t even like this person and believe their behaviour and values are terrible, yet it feels like they have permeated your being and occupy way too much space in your head. How you get them OUT? How do you get the SPACE and RELIEF in your thoughts and emotions to restart your wellbeing and your life? (more…)

Have you ever felt the absolute confusion, angst, anger, despair and pain of trying to leave a toxic person behind?

You may say, ‘I know they are NO good for me!”

Are you still confused as to why, despite what this person has done, that you still feel in love with them?

Or maybe … you don’t even like this person and believe their behaviour and values are terrible, yet it feels like they have permeated your being and occupy way too much space in your head.

How you get them OUT?

How do you get the SPACE and RELIEF in your thoughts and emotions to restart your wellbeing and your life?

6 Things To Look Out For During Court Battles With A Narcissist

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  Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face. Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing. You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart. This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them. (more…)

 

Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face.

Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing.

You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart.

This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them.

How To Survive A Devastating Break Up With A Narcissist

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  We all know what it is like … We are reeling, and can barely breathe … let alone get up, get on with it, recover and re-start our life. Trying to survive a breakup with a pathological abuser – meaning get away, stay away and heal after being in a relationship is one of the toughest things we will ever do. Why? Because we are hooked in and deeply traumatised. We feel helpless because of trauma-bonding and survival programs activated within us, that make us believe we can’t live without this person. (more…)

 

We all know what it is like …

We are reeling, and can barely breathe … let alone get up, get on with it, recover and re-start our life.

Trying to survive a breakup with a pathological abuser – meaning get away, stay away and heal after being in a relationship is one of the toughest things we will ever do.

Why?

Because we are hooked in and deeply traumatised.

We feel helpless because of trauma-bonding and survival programs activated within us, that make us believe we can’t live without this person.

6 Steps To Regaining Your Health After Narcissistic Abuse

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  It today’s article I want to share with you the 6 steps I took to regain my health after narcissistic abuse, and how to apply them in your life in order for you to achieve a full Thriver Recovery too. Please note these steps are applicable after we have created No Contact (or strict Modified Contact). Because the truth is: if you are still in contact and can’t break away, or at the very least powerfully detach in order to focus on yourself and heal, then you are continually being abused and violated. All the energy you will be expending trying to survive (or obsessing about what is happened) is draining your life-force, meaning it is not available to love and heal yourself back to wholeness. If you haven't yet signed up to my Free 16-day Recovery Course you can do so now and receive my How To Do No Contact eBook for free, as well as many other...

 

It today’s article I want to share with you the 6 steps I took to regain my health after narcissistic abuse, and how to apply them in your life in order for you to achieve a full Thriver Recovery too.

Please note these steps are applicable after we have created No Contact (or strict Modified Contact). Because the truth is: if you are still in contact and can’t break away, or at the very least powerfully detach in order to focus on yourself and heal, then you are continually being abused and violated. All the energy you will be expending trying to survive (or obsessing about what is happened) is draining your life-force, meaning it is not available to love and heal yourself back to wholeness.

If you haven’t yet signed up to my Free 16-day Recovery Course you can do so now and receive my How To Do No Contact eBook for free, as well as many other helpful resources.

The Stalking Narcissist – Will They Ever Leave You Alone?

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  Being stalked is horrible. If you are going through this right now, it is likely that you feel high levels of anxiety, and it's really difficult for you to settle into getting on with your life. What is this person doing when they are stalking you? Are they gathering information on social media to use against you? Are they following you to try to perform a ‘hoover’ on you? Do they want to threaten ... or even hurt you? (more…)

 

Being stalked is horrible.

If you are going through this right now, it is likely that you feel high levels of anxiety, and it’s really difficult for you to settle into getting on with your life.

What is this person doing when they are stalking you?

Are they gathering information on social media to use against you?

Are they following you to try to perform a ‘hoover’ on you?

Do they want to threaten … or even hurt you?

Are You In Bed With A Narcissist?

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  Have you had the experience of feeling like you are in too far with a narcissist? Possibly … you feel like you have completely LOST yourself … and even suspect that your heart, mind and soul has been taken over by this person. Goodness ... narcissist number 2 in my life, with an intense stare, would say this to me: "I own your heart!” It sent shivers up my spine! (I know I’d run a million miles from anyone who ever said that again!) The very fact that you in this community, means you know what it is like to be ‘in bed with a narcissist’. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are trapped into having sex with them (even though of course that can be part of it.) (more…)

 

Have you had the experience of feeling like you are in too far with a narcissist?

Possibly … you feel like you have completely LOST yourself … and even suspect that your heart, mind and soul has been taken over by this person.

Goodness … narcissist number 2 in my life, with an intense stare, would say this to me: “I own your heart!”

It sent shivers up my spine! (I know I’d run a million miles from anyone who ever said that again!)

The very fact that you in this community, means you know what it is like to be ‘in bed with a narcissist’. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are trapped into having sex with them (even though of course that can be part of it.)

How To Break The Narcissist’s Conditioning – Part 2

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  In Part 2 of this series, I am going to take you through the process of how to lovingly and effectively self-partner, locate your inner traumas and release them with a mini Quanta Freedom Healing session. One of the things I dearly love about this healing process is that it is unconditional.  You don’t need to know how it works for it to work, and you don’t even need to believe that it works for it to work. This process is completely loving and all-inclusive, meaning that if you are open to receive it, you will. Also, there is no time and space restriction in the Quantum World, everything just is, and is happening now. This healing as a recording is just as powerful as if you were sitting with me and this was happening live. (more…)

 

In Part 2 of this series, I am going to take you through the process of how to lovingly and effectively self-partner, locate your inner traumas and release them with a mini Quanta Freedom Healing session.

One of the things I dearly love about this healing process is that it is unconditional.  You don’t need to know how it works for it to work, and you don’t even need to believe that it works for it to work. This process is completely loving and all-inclusive, meaning that if you are open to receive it, you will.

Also, there is no time and space restriction in the Quantum World, everything just is, and is happening now. This healing as a recording is just as powerful as if you were sitting with me and this was happening live.

How To Break The Narcissist’s Conditioning – Part 1

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  If you've been through a relationship with a narcissist or toxic person there's no doubt you have had the experience of becoming someone you don't know anymore. After spending months, years or even decades with your rights, feelings, and thoughts being suppressed, you have no choice but to submerge your identity, dreams, and goals and become whatever you need to be in order to survive. Which is usually a severely diminished person who has shut off their own life-force. And … even after getting out of the narcissistic relationship, as a result of finally leaving or because you have eventually been discarded for good, you are likely to still feel like you are stuck in a cage of painful feelings and fears. (more…)

 

If you’ve been through a relationship with a narcissist or toxic person there’s no doubt you have had the experience of becoming someone you don’t know anymore.

After spending months, years or even decades with your rights, feelings, and thoughts being suppressed, you have no choice but to submerge your identity, dreams, and goals and become whatever you need to be in order to survive.

Which is usually a severely diminished person who has shut off their own life-force.

And … even after getting out of the narcissistic relationship, as a result of finally leaving or because you have eventually been discarded for good, you are likely to still feel like you are stuck in a cage of painful feelings and fears.

When The Narcissist Makes You Out To Be The Crazy One

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  If you've been in a narcissistic relationship it's very likely you've heard the following words... Look at you, you are crazy!’ You need professional help! Everyone else can see it but you! The thing is, when you a wrapped up in a toxic relationship you are LOSING your mind. You do feel despair, rage, confusion and panic … regularly. You are triggered into feelings and reactions that you didn’t even know you were capable of. (more…)

 

If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship it’s very likely you’ve heard the following words…

Look at you, you are crazy!’

You need professional help!

Everyone else can see it but you!

The thing is, when you a wrapped up in a toxic relationship you are LOSING your mind. You do feel despair, rage, confusion and panic … regularly.

You are triggered into feelings and reactions that you didn’t even know you were capable of.