One of the hardest things about recovering from narcissistic abuse is that we have to reconcile with the fact that we put so much of our time, love and resources into someone who wasn’t even real.
You may be carrying a lot of shame about the fact that your life is now in a far worse state, as a result of the relationship.
And worse yet, you may have lost total faith in yourself for making the decisions you did in the past.
I want you to understand this, right from the onset, often even more than having to forgive the narcissist – we have to forgive ourselves. And the irony is: unless we forgive ourselves we can’t forgive and be released from any of this, and we can’t forgive the process and what happened to us.