Melanie Tonia Evans

How To Expose A Narcissist Without Looking Like The Crazy One

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  How to expose a narcissist without looking like the crazy one, is what so many people want to do, yet find incredibly difficult to do. Of course, it is beyond traumatising when narcissists lie, manipulate, smear, take zero responsibility for pathological behaviour, and you get blamed for all the problems. This is why I wanted to write this article so that you could know ‘how to expose a narcissist' the right way. Be very clear with working out ‘how to expose a narcissist' that you are not dealing with a rational, decent person. The narcissist is never wrong, has zero remorse, care or consideration for others, and is always blaming someone else. If you are in close proximity and things fall apart, of course, you are going to be smeared, and the narcissist will twist and turn information to make them look like the great person and you the terrible one. (more…)

 

How to expose a narcissist without looking like the crazy one, is what so many people want to do, yet find incredibly difficult to do. Of course, it is beyond traumatising when narcissists lie, manipulate, smear, take zero responsibility for pathological behaviour, and you get blamed for all the problems.

This is why I wanted to write this article so that you could know ‘how to expose a narcissist’ the right way.

Be very clear with working out ‘how to expose a narcissist’ that you are not dealing with a rational, decent person. The narcissist is never wrong, has zero remorse, care or consideration for others, and is always blaming someone else. If you are in close proximity and things fall apart, of course, you are going to be smeared, and the narcissist will twist and turn information to make them look like the great person and you the terrible one.

How To Identify A Pathological Lying Narcissist

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Have you ever been in a situation with someone where you have no idea whether you are being told the truth or not? Have you experienced events and circumstances that leave you feeling dubious as to whether or not you can trust them? Or have you received point blank evidence that this person is a liar? The truth is this: we can’t have a safe and healthy relationship with a pathological liar because trust, faith and belief are smashed. There is a very pertinent saying – that when we become a detective in our relationship that things are very wrong. (more…)

 

Have you ever been in a situation with someone where you have no idea whether you are being told the truth or not?

Have you experienced events and circumstances that leave you feeling dubious as to whether or not you can trust them?

Or have you received point blank evidence that this person is a liar?

The truth is this: we can’t have a safe and healthy relationship with a pathological liar because trust, faith and belief are smashed.

There is a very pertinent saying – that when we become a detective in our relationship that things are very wrong.

6 Things To Look Out For During Court Battles With A Narcissist

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  Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face. Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing. You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart. This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them. (more…)

 

Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face.

Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing.

You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart.

This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them.

Why Narcissists Cheat And How They Get Away With It

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  The sordid and terrible truth is that most narcissists cheat. They simply don’t possess the moral code to care about and respect others … it is all firmly about them. And, they have the ability to barefaced lie, grandstand their version of their integrity and infidelity and gaslight you horrifically into believing you have serious paranoia issues, and it’s your own stuff ththeat is causing you to doubt them. Additionally, even if caught out, the narcissist can still play dirty tricks, like come up with new evidence to discredit what you know, make it your fault, or even discard you saying they were leaving you anyway. How do we get released from this toxic torment? How can we know whether a person has the susceptibility to behave like this or not? (more…)

 

The sordid and terrible truth is that most narcissists cheat. They simply don’t possess the moral code to care about and respect others … it is all firmly about them.

And, they have the ability to barefaced lie, grandstand their version of their integrity and infidelity and gaslight you horrifically into believing you have serious paranoia issues, and it’s your own stuff ththeat is causing you to doubt them.

Additionally, even if caught out, the narcissist can still play dirty tricks, like come up with new evidence to discredit what you know, make it your fault, or even discard you saying they were leaving you anyway.

How do we get released from this toxic torment? How can we know whether a person has the susceptibility to behave like this or not?

How To Spot A Spiritual Narcissist

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Spiritual narcissism is one of the most confusing, insidious and dangerous types of narcissistic abuse. Gosh, even I fell for it twice! Narcissists gravitate towards areas where A-grade narcissistic supply is easy to obtain; frighteningly, many of them realise how being in a position of authority, via spirituality or religion, is the perfect way to be above reproach and have a free ticket to mine people for acclaim, attention, and resources. Even if you haven't encountered a spiritual narcissist before, they can be incredibly difficult to read, as well as incredibly alluring. And naturally, this can be a big trap after your first narcissistic abuse experience, when you want to seek out people who are more spiritually connected and conscious. (more…)

 

Spiritual narcissism is one of the most confusing, insidious and dangerous types of narcissistic abuse.

Gosh, even I fell for it twice!

Narcissists gravitate towards areas where A-grade narcissistic supply is easy to obtain; frighteningly, many of them realise how being in a position of authority, via spirituality or religion, is the perfect way to be above reproach and have a free ticket to mine people for acclaim, attention, and resources.

Even if you haven’t encountered a spiritual narcissist before, they can be incredibly difficult to read, as well as incredibly alluring.

And naturally, this can be a big trap after your first narcissistic abuse experience, when you want to seek out people who are more spiritually connected and conscious.

Narcissist Or Addict… Can They Ever Change?

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  I know how painful it is to be caught up in someone’s addictions – suffering the anguish of the invalidation of your needs, safety, love requirements and security – as well as seeing this person destroying themselves and others. Of course, you hope that you can help them overcome the addiction, so that you and they can be happy and have a fulfilling relationship – whether it be your lover, spouse, child, relative or friend. But how do we even know if this person is capable of ‘becoming decent’ even if they lose their addiction? And why is it, in trying to help this person, often we just get sicker and sicker and they don’t stop doing the things that are ripping our life, as well as theirs, apart? In today’s Thriver TV episode we take a deep dive into this very important question – ‘Is there any hope for this addict, or are they a narcissist how can’t...

 

I know how painful it is to be caught up in someone’s addictions – suffering the anguish of the invalidation of your needs, safety, love requirements and security – as well as seeing this person destroying themselves and others.

Of course, you hope that you can help them overcome the addiction, so that you and they can be happy and have a fulfilling relationship – whether it be your lover, spouse, child, relative or friend.

But how do we even know if this person is capable of ‘becoming decent’ even if they lose their addiction?

And why is it, in trying to help this person, often we just get sicker and sicker and they don’t stop doing the things that are ripping our life, as well as theirs, apart?

In today’s Thriver TV episode we take a deep dive into this very important question – ‘Is there any hope for this addict, or are they a narcissist how can’t be healthy – addictions or not?’

Why Do Narcissists Vanish And Do They Ever Come Back?

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know how devastating it is to have someone vanish from your life without warning. Without any explanation, you are left agonising over what might have been the reason for them to just get up and disappear from your life. Before being able to break free from my terrible relationship with narcissist number 2, who was constantly 'leaving me', these were questions I used to constantly ask myself ... Why is he suddenly declaring 'we have to break up' when only a day earlier he professed that he can't live without me? Is he having an affair or trying to hide something he doesn’t want me to know about? (more…)

 

I know how devastating it is to have someone vanish from your life without warning.

Without any explanation, you are left agonising over what might have been the reason for them to just get up and disappear from your life.

Before being able to break free from my terrible relationship with narcissist number 2, who was constantly ‘leaving me’, these were questions I used to constantly ask myself …

Why is he suddenly declaring ‘we have to break up’ when only a day earlier he professed that he can’t live without me?

Is he having an affair or trying to hide something he doesn’t want me to know about?

How To Inoculate Yourself Against Somatic Narcissists

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  You may not realise it but somatic narcissists trigger your DNA chemically in a significant way. Unconsciously, women are innately drawn to the strong hunter-gatherer with broad shoulders, just as men are attracted to women with superior procreation potential. And when a somatic narcissist uses irresistible good looks to their advantage, coupled with excessive charm … it’s very easy to go weak at the knees! Somatic narcissists are dangerous because although they may not seem as “evil” as their cerebral counterparts, they have a very real ability to suck your energy, resources, and livelihood dry with their excessive entitlement and constant need for attention. (more…)

 

You may not realise it but somatic narcissists trigger your DNA chemically in a significant way.

Unconsciously, women are innately drawn to the strong hunter-gatherer with broad shoulders, just as men are attracted to women with superior procreation potential.

And when a somatic narcissist uses irresistible good looks to their advantage, coupled with excessive charm … it’s very easy to go weak at the knees!

Somatic narcissists are dangerous because although they may not seem as “evil” as their cerebral counterparts, they have a very real ability to suck your energy, resources, and livelihood dry with their excessive entitlement and constant need for attention.

5 Steps To Dealing With Narcissists In Difficult Situations

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Trying to deal with a narcissist, challenges every fiber of your Being. If you've tried to manage a narcissist in a difficult situation, you know you're triggered beyond the point of ridiculous - struggling to be heard and unable to create sense out of the madness. All whilst the narcissist dances around you tearing up your efforts, emotions, and sanity. By this stage, you've tragically discovered the normal rules of human engagement don’t apply – rather it's all about the narcissist doing whatever is necessary for them to get their own way. So how CAN you deal with someone who has NO INTENTION of complying, playing team or doing the right thing? (more…)

 

Trying to deal with a narcissist, challenges every fiber of your Being.

If you’ve tried to manage a narcissist in a difficult situation, you know you’re triggered beyond the point of ridiculous – struggling to be heard and unable to create sense out of the madness.

All whilst the narcissist dances around you tearing up your efforts, emotions, and sanity.

By this stage, you’ve tragically discovered the normal rules of human engagement don’t apply – rather it’s all about the narcissist doing whatever is necessary for them to get their own way.

So how CAN you deal with someone who has NO INTENTION of complying, playing team or doing the right thing?

What Is The Fate Of A Narcissist?

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it. Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources ... and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed. Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things. Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed? Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts? (more…)

 

I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it.

Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources … and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed.

Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things.

Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed?

Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts?