That’s great Heather,

you have got this

Mel 🙏💞🦋

I know what “abuse” is, and this kind of it remains insidious, because of how covert and hidden it remains and how much denial the narc and those who surround narcs support such denial. I know how (somewhat better, not with perfection) narcs are attracted to people who either do not know of their existence, have a spirit of generosity, are highly empathic, or are all of the above. And I know that people who “lie & don’t have any integrity” who might come into my life get exactly the same form of “palm in the face, cold shoulder, you’re not gonna happen to me” that narcs and other abusers do, because THEY ARE THE SAME SORT OF PEOPLE!

The same kinds of abusive behavior Mel and others here characterize as “narcissistic” are the same kinds of treatment you can expect from those who “lie & don’t have any integrity.” You might as well lump them into the same category of “I do not let vampires like you across the threshold of my door,” because the results of doing so are (sadly) so similar. Lying to someone is a form of abuse. Not having integrity is a big red flag. Pay attention to these behaviors by others and you will be guided to seek, put and keep the BEST kind of people in your life: those who do not abuse, lie to those around them and lack in integrity.

This is a life-long process of learning. It is not easy. It can be something we must gently remind others around us about (as I do in a friendly, helpful way here and now), as we must be vigilant to guard our emotional well-being. I wish you the very best.

Thank you Mel, yes I am working with NARP just confirms my hunch it was underneath the trauma that was attracting the narcs to begin with. I will keep plodding along.

Hi Heather,

It does come down to the inner work … and we would love to help you reprogram your subconscious with Quanta Freedm Healing, with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp Are you working with NARP? If so have you reached out to the NARP Communiity Forum, where we can help you with this http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member This training and guidance comes free for life with your Gold NARP Membership

I hope this can help Heather.

Mel 🙏💞🦋