Comments on: Authentic And Narcissistic Relationships – What Is The Difference?

By: SH

SH — Sun, 07 Jun 2020 23:17:32 +0000

Thank you for this article. I find myself wanting videos with vignettes of how this plays out. I learn so much from looking at a particular situation in real time and real life (well, even staged approximations of real life), and I generalize the principles from that.

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By: Penny Henain

Penny Henain — Sat, 04 May 2013 09:05:55 +0000

I don’t know where to begin, I’m so scared!! I wish I found this earlier.. We are divorced and he still has a firm hold and stupid me thinks ” if I could do” ” if I could be ” just to win him back.. Omg… I can’t believe others suffer the same stories as me.. I can’t talk to anyone cause everyone believes he is so great, even the police believed him on an incident once cause I was the crazy one screaming whilst dr evil kept calm…
I think ill be single forever cause I’m scared of all men being like that..

By: Luis

Luis — Thu, 25 Apr 2013 23:53:10 +0000

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By: Valerie Wedel

Valerie Wedel — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 23:15:51 +0000

TBF: Something will be a wake up call for you; when you realize your survival is at stake, or perhaps your children’s survival… When that moment comes you will find the strength to leave! Remember the job you describe? Take your paycheck and walk away! Theta healing is incredibly powerful to access those hidden time bombs in one’s own psyche that cause suffering.

Melanie, THank you!!!

Blessings to you-

Val

By: AG

AG — Sat, 13 Apr 2013 21:39:59 +0000

I am in the process of being discarded by my narcissist husband of 14 years. I never understood what was happening to me until he was gone. I am awaiting the vengeful behavior…it’s already started a bit because he has completely abandoned our children. This is a wake up call that I need to examine many things about myself. I believe that I was raised by a father who is not necessarily a full blown narcissist but has narcissist tendencies. I am in no rush to find love…beyond within myself. I have been so unhappy for so long and my husband always expressed frustration with me for being unhappy and that he wished I would “be happy.” I realize now it was HIM who was desperately unhappy and needed to drag me down with him. It’s hard to believe this is the man I married and (attempted to) love for so long. Oh well…let me own healing and journey begin. He was an overt narcissist and VERY skilled at manipulation. My whole family was taken in by his charm, wit and “golden boy” persona. Scary. Thanks. Any thoughts would be great.

By: Liza

Liza — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 22:44:15 +0000

hello everyone…..my situation is just INSANE….if someone had told me this story, id think theyre lying to me…..im gonna try to make it short for you all…..well, i met this man while on vacation on a greek island which is where hes from…when i came back home (im from toronto,canada) he contacted me on facebook for about a year but i never really paid that much attention until one day we struck up a full conversation….over the next couple weeks wed talk on facebook or text message and i thought God had sent me the most perfect man in the entire world….we started talking on the phone and i was completely falling for everything he was telling me….to the point where he asked me to move to greece to be with him….he actually booked a ticket, came to canada to meet my mother and we went back together….
when we got there i relized he had rented a brand new apartment for us and just from that something was telling me in my gut that somethings not right….about 2 days into being there the ‘other side” of him came out….ignored my calls, was gone all day and sometimes not coming home at night…..i was feeling soooo lonely and insecure that i was leeching on to him, and the more i did the more hed treat me horribly….about 2 weeks into being there he told me his ex girlfriend who was still obsessed with him was pregnant…i was losing my mind….he kept telling me he loved me but he had to be in touch with her to make sure “the baby” was ok…..(i forgot to mention that this man has 3 kids with a prior relationship that he neglects but tries to impregnate EVERY girl hes with…..anyways it was hell for 2 months until one day after a huge fight his ex came to our house and told me they were together the whole time i was there and he was keeping me around to get money out of me (and yes, iwas giving him money and buying everything for the house)….i lost my mind but found the courage to leave the same day and come home….stupid me kept contacting him while i was home evn tho he was being cruel to me most of the time but still giving me a little hope……even after his ex messaged me on facebook that the whole “pregnancy” story they were telling me while i was there was his idea to get rid of me but felt sorry for me to just tell me to leave straight out….he figured once i found out she was pregnant id leave on my own….
a month after i left greece he finally called and said he made a HUGE mistake….that he was only seeing her while i was there cause she had tried to kill herself and he felt sorry for her…but he no longer was attracted to her and he would cut all ties with her if id give him another chance….
im trying to make this short so ill just say that i did…i went back to greece and meanwhile he was sooooo good to me the whole time i was there something felt soooo wrong….i just couldnt fel the same about him…i felt and still feel sorry for him…..i stayed 2 months and i left one night while he was out….now that im home i cant help but feel soooo sad and sorry for him….he calls me and messages me that hell sell everything he has to come here and be with me…that im his life and he cant function without me , and even tho i dont want to be with him because ill never trust him, im going along with all this just to make him feel better……someone please help me…this whole situation is causing me sooooo much stress and anxiety…..
he didnt feel sorry for me while i was there all alone while he knew my mom was going through chemo, but im feeling sorry for him like a big idiot…..
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!!

By: carolyn

carolyn — Fri, 05 Apr 2013 11:54:27 +0000

Having been through the agony of narc abuse and come out the the other side thanks to NARP, I can honestly say that Melanie´s methods work like no other. My life is transformed and I have now met a wonderful authentic man to share an authentic relationship with.. and it is as Melanie says!I remember one of her comments when I was in the blackness of despair… that I would break through… and that when I did I would not recognise myself…. well I don´t. I look in the mirror and see a new person.. smiling, happy, sparkling… the real me. I am now working on the next level of self empowerment through Melanie´s journalling course….and it´s wonderful!!

By: Judy

Judy — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 02:36:12 +0000

I have had a somewhat different experience I’d like to share. My husband was one of these. It became apparent shortly after we married. I stayed with him 31 years. When I learned after the first five he wasn’t going to change, I altered the way I related to him. I became very direct about his behavior, as one would do with a child. When he lied and fabricated grandiose schemes, I would remind him that if he continued to do that, this, (whatever catastrophe resulted) would happen. It got to where he admitted that I was usually right. Of course in his devaluing phases he would accuse me of causing the bad things to happen to him, as if I could somehow see into the future and manipulate it to punish him. I loved him in spite of his disorder and feel it’s a shame these kind of people are written off as untouchable. If there is physical abuse and life-threatening behavior then yes, get away. But for most, people like my husband are only maddening, frustrating, pains in the butt. Where is the empathy for these who are so damaged?
My man died this past February. In many ways I’m relieved that I can finally relax. I can fix the things he’s ruined and they will stay fixed now. But I also miss him. We both knew what he was, he just couldn’t stand to admit it. I chose to love him and I have no regrets. He was a human being first, and therefore had value. This is how i choose to live my life and no, I do not presume everyone should do this. At his funeral service I celebrated his life with the many others who shared him with me. I can honestly say I am doing fine today.