Comments on: ECHO: Empowered Code For Healthy Outreach

By: Boris Nesic

Boris Nesic — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 07:16:52 +0000

Having echo explained this way I feel there is a more manageable sequence to recognizing the overwhelming cluster and fluster of these powerful and addictive emotions. The emotions themselves are either completely frustrating as in most of the time, to having another extreme where somebody might out of genuine concern ask me about where I am at with it when I sound okay and they are attempting to help me put my issues to bed once and for all, but then I slip straight into a stress response when my body recognizes that I haven’t yet found the answer to it.
I’ve only had a reprieve from recent stress, I haven’t solved anything.
A compartmentalizing of these emotions, and a giving away of my sole need to fight my stress response and knowing that I have a support community onhand that is worth honoring as my community has an opportunity to grow alongside me. I see massive potential in that.

By: MaryAnn

MaryAnn — Sun, 28 May 2023 16:13:35 +0000

I think the ECHO way leaves me feeling more empowered. That’s because I am exercising my internal locus of control and not giving it away to anyone else. I agree that blaming the narc is so understandable in the beginning. Once I began to focus on me and what I could do for myself, my locus of control went from external (directed at him) to internal (directed at me and how I could take care of myself). Much more powerful…besides, I am the only one over whom I have agency. Focus on my healing and not the narc’s transgressions. ECHO language leads us to this. Thanks so much!

By: KAS

KAS — Sun, 24 Jul 2022 17:57:06 +0000

I just joined this forum and the NARP today, after years of trying to figure out how I ended up in a 7 year abusive relationship with a narcissist (who I have gone no contact with for a year now, despite his attempts to Hoover again). On a side note: this toxic relationship was actually a gift from God… It made me realize that I’ve been dealing with narcissistic people for a long time, and bringing him into my life was the start of a better “me”.

For nearly 2 years, I’ve watched probably hundreds of videos from 4-5 wonderful life coaches explaining narcissistic abuse, and while I learned A LOT, none of them gave me the “feeling” that I wanted to work through this with their program’s and I stayed stuck with the rumination and confusion etc. Then your videos suddenly started showing up a couple of weeks ago and I thought, “I’m going to watch her videos… maybe she has something insightful… what do I have to lose at this point”! So, I watched a few of your videos (and read some articles you shared), but listened to one particular healing video you initially shared and I was drawn in and thought “this is it”. You gave me the “AHA” moment I needed. I really felt a powerful shift after that and knew I had to work with your program. Everything you communicated just resonated! I’m so grateful to have found you and this forum and I look forward to this journey of inner work, balance and peace (for all of us), as I begin NARP♥️ THANK YOU

By: Margit

Margit — Mon, 13 Jun 2022 12:14:41 +0000

This feels like a well balan Ed and grounded way of sharing. We need to first have trust within ourselves to express what is going on..to really SEE the reality of the abuse, and deceptions we experience. Like you say, until we name it and claim it we cannot release it. I also love the idea of asking for help. So often we feel alone in our journey, but my understanding is that this forum is meant to be. A welcoming safe place.

By: Shelley

Shelley — Tue, 19 Apr 2022 07:52:57 +0000

Hi Mel and others,
After sixty-five odd (and I mean on the outside as well as uneven and unsteady) at last I see the reason and the why to go in and confront these feelings from the damaging relationships I have had since early childhood. Now, rather than be hurt and run away or even worse believe what they indicated about me, I have hope that I will find a purpose I can sustain. I can see now how and what to work on for a worthwhile change. Previously I had tried objectifying how I felt and it worked to stabilise for a bit but without a rationale to build from (and knowledgeable support) I soon slipped back into cut and run or the raw reaction and emotional damage which just fed narcissistic behaviours of my perpetrators.
Thank you for this very exciting pathway and for explaining the why so carefully.
I know it won’t be easy but knowing why and how will be fuel to continue.
Amazing how I came across this so randomly. Gratitude.

By: Natalie Thriver

Natalie Thriver — Sat, 05 Feb 2022 01:57:52 +0000

This feels a much calmer way of addressing situations, it feels like it would step me towards the life I want to live, rather than whirling around the pity pool of victimisation which I have been doing. The whirling pool, just wastes my time and sucks me back into projecting the perception that I am what he says I am to others – that’s what I need to break free of and this will help.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 05 May 2021 22:54:40 +0000

In reply to Alicia G.

Hi Alicia,

Please know that the recorded sessions will be just as powerful for you!

Absolutely we will help you stay connected and hear you and hold you.

You are doing great already!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 05 May 2021 22:52:39 +0000

In reply to Deanne Travis.

Hi Deanna,

that is wonderful that you have come so far!

My deepest condolences for the loss of your Mother, and this is great that you are going to join the Forum.

Please know how welcome you are.

Much Love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Alicia G

Alicia G — Tue, 04 May 2021 09:32:34 +0000

In reply to Chanel. Chanel, I hope you have healed and are living a fabulous life filled with love & community!! In case you are still around this community... your story, while very different than mine, I related deeply. It touched my heart & made me cry. I send you love & hugs through the ether. 💜