So did you leave the narcissist? Or did you come to this conclusion and stay?

that is lovely that this article had such an impact with you….

Ok so what you need to understand is that when you start working on yourself energetically (with NARP) then you start releasing your pain, fear, and less than beliefs about yourself. So the benefits are two fold and intricately interwoven. You are focused on yourself – and cleaning up your insecurities at the same time. We decide to work on ourself Christine when we can clearly see that the old pattern is not working and we are sick and tired or dying being stuck as the Old Self.

When we do start working on ourself we start to healand gain empowerment. As we release the junk out our bodies our brain literally rewires to reflect the ‘new body’ and therefore it gets easier and easier to think and feel healthier – and quickly as a result of doing the inner shifts.

And all the time we are focused on us and the inner work the addiction gets less and less and becomes eventually non-existent.

What other option is there – if we want a better life?

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

So, after having completed the 1-3rd NARP healing modules, here’s the sweetest and most beautiful changes I am seeing in myself. Instead of spending the day beating myself up for still struggling through painful triggers, for still missing him, etc., NOW what I do is to out-loud talk kindly and compassionately to myself.

I’m BLESSING instead of CURSING those painful feelings and re-assuring myself that I’ve come such a long way, that it’s understandable that I’m hurting, that I’m safe now, that I love myself, and many other affirmations.

I’ll tell you…I feel a night and day difference inside. I feel like I am truly on my way.

Hope is being born, and I feel glimpses of joy, fullness and the “old Patti” coming back and the “new Patti” emerging! (I guess they are the same thing!!)

Between your insightful articles and NARP and drawing close to God, I am greatly encouraged.

Thanks again SO much!

Hi Mary Lou,

This state of being ‘in and out’…truly you should be able to shift the deeper pain. Are you using NARP – so that you don’t have to be in repeat with the unhealed parts…? Truly there is an easier way than the way you are trying to heal….

Yes, there are many, many healer types and empaths that are bright neon lights to narcs, and these are the ones that are not anchored in their true deservedness, boundaries and power and are still stuck in deep subconscious self-sacrifice programs (to just touch the tip of the iceberg)…

You are struggling because you are not reachiong the direct inner programs in your subconscious. Once you do the journey opens up to profound breakthroughs, rather then the breakdowns being in repeat…then of course there is no need for exhaustion and continued inner battles…

I hope that makes sense?

These women have not experienced NPD because their journey did not require it. They already had deservedness and boundaries sorted…hence why the lesson was not needed…

It is much easier for these people to hold their light because the subconscious pain bodies are not as heavy, terrorised or eveident…therefore it is much easier for them to focus on being ‘light’ because the cognitive decision is much more easily accepted by the subconscious (which is 95% responsible for our entire life)…

For abused individuals with intense fear, pain and survival inner programs activated – to just be ‘light’ is an idea that the body (subconscious) will adamantly reject – it wants to hang on to the defence mechanisms instead as ‘protection’ (the fear and pain) and hence why we need a tool to go deep into the subconscious to shift out that fear, pain and trauma – and then we can MUCH more easily match up with the direction of ‘the light’.

That is what QFH in NARP does…

Sending much love to you too MAry Lou, and truly for your relief I hope you do take this journey inwards direct to those unhealed parts in your subconscious (NARP locates them and shifts them) – and then you will see…

Mel xo

Amazing thing has started to happen though; I’ve become engulfed by women experiencing the same experiences … at least half dozen in the past 2-3 months; we’ve all become friends. I find I’m able to talk (through your wisdom) with them about our ‘own-ership’ issues of self and the NPD/Empath perfect storm …. it’s so enlightening. Although; I still struggle with being able to wash and cleanse myself of their vibes …. it exhausts me beyond words at times – my reminder of both boundaries and nurturing myself first and always; keeping the strength within before giving it all away.

But Melanie; I have beautiful, powerful women-healer friends who truly believe and experience that they no longer ‘need’ to protect their light and believe our roles are to elevate high enough and maintain that spirit; that we can shine strongly through it all; even the darkest of dark. Do you agree with that? These women have ‘not’ experienced NPD by the way; but are beautiful, light souls.

Sending ever love to you, Ml

Mel thank you for your response, I will take a look.

Naomi x