Comments on: Happy Easter Message And Some Important Updates

By: Constance

Constance — Sat, 08 Apr 2017 22:07:02 +0000

Melanie
You are definitely on the right track for you! When you want to go out an get your own dinner (pheasant, chukar, quail), write to me. My hobby throughout my life has been training retrievers for field competition and now I training my first pointing dog…and together this fall, all on our own, we got pheasants for Xmas gifts to give and a pheasant dinner for us…talk about creating a life and a meal!

I am doing your Silver package NARP program. I am an internationally known figure in my field whose personal life has been run by my own demons which symptomatically presented itself with the four major relationships with men. I have never felt the sense of self empowerment I am beginning to realize since I found your program. Therapy is a good start, but the understanding of impulses are not intellectually felt, only logically acknowledged and the logical meandering (analysis paralysis to borrow your phrase) doesn’t stop the craving for self punishment through finding unfixable partners, nor for getting ones true needs met. Your work is ground breaking. It goes to addressing the true source of the problem. I have spent a painful week on MOD 1…layers of pain finally abated that had nothing to do with the past relationships with others, but my true relationship with myself. Thank you. God speed you forward to many more rewarding years in your lovely new nature abode which I know is nurturing you within from the beauty without you have surrounded yourself with.

By: Jennifer waller

Jennifer waller — Wed, 25 Sep 2013 03:59:49 +0000

Dear Melanie,
Your website has literally saved me from myself. between therapy and reading your website and publications, i have begun to heal from a recent narcissitic abusive relationship. I can identify with everything you have written and I am working on healing myself and keeping the focus on me. It is truly odd though how focused and obsessed i am with the N that was in my life. we only dated 3.5 months but it felt like years and the memories are extremely vivid. it still boggles my mind as to why my memories are so vivid and emotional. However, i am making great strides toward recovery. Thank you so much for all that you do for those of us who wish to end this cycle in our lives. This was not the first N that I have dated. In fact its what I seem to attract. But he will be the last, I assure you.
Jen

By: NARC-ABUSED

NARC-ABUSED — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 16:55:33 +0000

Dear Mel
Service to humanity is service to god. And god helps those who help themselves. Thank you for both!!!

By: sushmita

sushmita — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 11:45:30 +0000

Dearest Mel

I had no idea that the word Narcissist even existed – more so a human being who could have this type of behaviour and very well described as having NPD. I was in this environment a long time ago and had to get out of the situation gradually. Having known you in this way has made me gain my power back in a huge way. Please know that you are extremely important in my life from now and into the future. By just reading AND applying what you have to say have turned my pain into POWER! Love your home and animals. Remain beautiful, much love xxx

By: No more self denial.

No more self denial. — Sat, 07 Apr 2012 23:03:50 +0000

You look gorgeous! And what a wonderful place and way to live! 🙂 All the best!

By: Michele

Michele — Sat, 07 Apr 2012 00:15:03 +0000

Well, this has really been an interesting day! I have been with a narcissist for almost 15 years now. The abuse has been horrific. It has taken sooo long for me to open my eyes to what has really been happening in my life. When I met “Wayne” I didn’t realize the real person that he was. He blew into my life (at the time I was married), gave me all of the attention that I was lacking, and won my heart. I left my husband to be with him, not knowing what I was really in for. I didn’t know that he was an alcholic, or a gambler. I was madly in love and after being with him for 3 years, I wanted so badly to marry him. That’s when he started changing. He would drive over an hour to my house, pick a fight and take off. Everything that I did was wrong. After finding out that he was cheating, I backed off. That’s when he left her and bought me a wonderful ring, and begged me to marry him. Stupid me. When I read your post about being with people who brought you down every holiday, I really could relate. Every year, from September (his birthday month) through Christmas, it has been HELL living with him. I have begun to hate holidays and my December birthday because of him. I have tried so many times to get rid of him, and he ALWAYS comes back! Last year, I tried to divorce him. He called the police and lied to them and they arrested me because he physically hurt himself (a scratch) and lied and said that I did it. Well, because the police have been to my home so many times before, they got sick of it and believed him and arrested ME! Then, a few weeks later, he set me up again! And asked me to meet him. Well, then he called police and said that I was harassing him. Because there was a protective order, I was arrested AGAIN! Well, he hired an attorney for me, claiming he felt bad and was sorry. Stupid me, I believed him and let him back in the house and stopped the divorce because he said everything that I wanted to hear. That was last year. Well, tonight I threw him out again. And the same thing. Police were involved. Thank goodness no arrest this time. But, I am truly done. I have lost so much along the way. Working two jobs and going to college while he has laid around since 2008. I enjoy my peaceful time too much. In between break-ups I had reconnected with an old boyfriend who meant the world to me. We were soulmates and best friends. Because we valued our friendship, we never got together seriously. I lost him to cancer this past December. It opened my eyes and how I wish I could have just one day with him. I chose this horrible person, who has treated me with such disrespect, and lost my best friend. This has made me stronger in my battle to get away from my husband. And today, I said a little prayer. While at a bookstore today, I said to my friend, “Please send me a sign by showing me a book about Narcissism, so that I know this will be the end of it.” Well, no sign at the bookstore, but I just got home, turned on the computer, and saw you. He always had a funny sense of humor like that. Thank you for helping me through this by sharing your stories. Without you, I would have never know that the problem really wasn’t me.

By: Marlene

Marlene — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 20:30:10 +0000

Hi Mel Many thanks for your inspiration – I look forward to the help and change I so seriously need as I commence this journey. Happy Easter
Marlene

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 17:12:39 +0000

Mel,
Wow your home is so beautiful and peaceful- thank you so much for sharing your photos and info on how you live day to day. Thank you for the help you have given me over the last year. You are truly an inspiration. Happy Easter!!!!
Jasmine

By: lyn nielsen

lyn nielsen — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 16:39:40 +0000

Mel,
thanks for sharing a part of your life. I like the ideas of creating your own food and being off the grid! I am an old farm boy so I have lived that way growing up. I have tried to get back to that spot a number of times, It is hard to get there, You doing it, shows what you are made of!!! : )
I have been sidetracked many times with my NPD wife, who I love dearly but cannot fix, trying to get to where you are.
I am forever grateful, to you, for the encouragement you have given me.

He lives!
Easter blessings

Lyn