Comments on: Holding On To Resentment Makes You Powerless https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 27 Jun 2017 16:33:44 +0000 hourly 1 By: donna https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-889825 Tue, 27 Jun 2017 16:33:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-889825 In reply to Tony.

Hi Tom, I am currently feeling pain and regret from a similar 3 year break up. My partner seems similar to your partner. Maybe they should get together. This kind of person needs prey and someone like them would not be appropriate “prey”. I am in a group called coda so I can understand my dependency on people who are unavailable emotionally to me. I am doing some inner child work too. I don’t have an answer. But I am doing a 12 step program and have a sponsor.
My coda meeting are so helpful, I see that I am not alone. I see the strength and hope from the meeting. I am making new friends.
donna

]]> By: SARA https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-696583 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 02:06:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-696583 Hi Melanie

I’ve done quite a lot of your work and read heaps, but I am still struggling with “resentment” against my ex. We are in the middle of a very nasty settlement at the moment and of course he is up to all the old tricks and lies, which doesn’t help. I just want to move on and start my new life narc-free, but with this resentment and the settlement I feel like I am being pulled right back again.
How can I just let go and stop thinking about everything he did wrong to me, and now trying to take the house and money away from me, I was so sick for most of our married life (even cancer) and now I know it was because of the abuse, but I am on the road to recovery and i want to keep it that way.
I DON’T love him and I DEFINITELY don’t want him in my life ever again!
thanks Sara

]]> By: Sydney https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-56779 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:07:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-56779 Hi Melanie,

I know this is an older blog post but I just found it last night after doing Module 1 again.

It really gave me an “aha” moment when I realized that even though I thought I had forgiven my ex-husband (non-narc) for having an affair, I haven’t “felt” the forgiveness. I then realized that is why I have attracted the relationships I did. The last one was with the Narc and it has proven to be the wake-up call I have needed. I am working hard to evolve and to keep boundaries in place until I know it is safe to give my heart and body to someone who deserves both.

It never fails to amaze me how I find your posts at the right time. It’s all part of the energy. 🙂

Sydney

]]> By: Deb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-15051 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 14:15:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-15051 I remembered my mission when I had my children. I wanted them to have the best life they could have. I believed it then and and I believe in them. I believe it now. I didn’t want them to feel my pain. I knew they would have their own. I didn’t want them to feel like they couldn’t make a decision that wasn’t their own. Controlling and NARC mother, survival that isn,t me

]]> By: Deb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-15050 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 13:47:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-15050 I go to work and the anxiety is palpable I fight it. I will fake it till I make it . I have it right now panic to explain myself, when I know what I do and what I want to do in the future. I told narc I want stop being me. I fight to be me.
I read what I just wrote. This is not me.

Years of NARC abuse. I am not a victim…. I have work to do

]]> By: Deb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-15049 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 13:37:27 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-15049 All the things experiences and love that I have known.And the love I had for me . I didn’t listen to. I hurt me for no reason and I can’t believe I did something that was so against everything I believe in

]]> By: Deb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-15047 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 13:33:09 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-15047 The freedom of knowing what happened and how I allowed it to happen is becoming clearer. My resistance

]]> By: Deb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-15046 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 13:25:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-15046 The abuse will not stop unless you allow it to

]]> By: Deb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/holding-on-to-resentment-makes-you-powerless/#comment-15045 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 13:24:30 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=986#comment-15045 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

it’s all there. I can’t stop crying.

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