As always blessings to you, you’re definitely a light worker and making the world a better place

Is it possible for a NARC to be one in relationship with me, and a codependent with another partner? My ex-boyfriend and I lasted only three months before I bailed. My ex-boyfriend and his former partner are still a couple in every way but name after knowing each other for ten years, and I saw with my own eyes how much my ex-NARC worships, idolises and remains hyper-focused on HIS ex and his ex’s every need. It’s remarkable to watch and also quite saddening for me. Thank you.

Hi Jasmin,

I remember feeling exactly that – that it would just be easier to die..

But it really depends what you believe in – and if you believe the soul is immortal – then even if you did kill yourself – the is still no avoiding self – you would still be stuck with the wounds.

That’s why I decided death wasn’t an option – only healing was.

We do go to secluded islands anyway – isolating from life and conjoining with other self-avoiders – namely narcissists.

It’s not so much we are bothering others- it is that we are being ‘fed’ on…

Your not a mis-fit – you are just separated from the Real You – and that is why it hurts..

I promise you with all my heart it is so worth it to put in the effort to close the gap and come home to your True Self…and what else is there to do?

Mel xo

Hi David,

the truth of the matter is I had more to go…I was narced again…this time by an altrustic narcissist which did throw me for a while. Fortunately I worked it out and have been able to assist the community in much more profound and indepth realisations this year – as a result of that experience.

I am single and have worked harder at what still needed to be healed…and for all of us (as individuals) that can be varying amounts..We are all individual beings with different DNA, different upbringings and different amounts of pain / fear bodies that require healing.

Yes David the only way is forward – and to be whole and complete firstly within ourself and take that with us into life and a future relationship.

After a great deal of extra work on me I am loving this stage now…and feel very confident re the ‘right person’ appearing in my future life – as a match for who I am becoming myself..

It is never too late to really clean up our wounds and heal (and really no other option)…there are many people in the community who have moved on to great relationships, after doing the inner work.

Have you got NARP?

Mel xo