Comments on: How Do You Change A Toxic Person?

By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 30 Dec 2022 02:13:11 +0000

In reply to Nicole. That's exactly how I feel. I have been drained of energy, being pulled down below the soul level I want to remain at, but now it's all clear thanks to wonderful authors and healers like Melanie, like Dr Ramani and others. Melanie is right, it helps when we get familiar with quantum science, which I have been reading about for a few years now. I hope more and more of us heal asap.

By: WannaBeMe

WannaBeMe — Mon, 31 Oct 2022 10:32:49 +0000

This describes the daily rubbish of life with a narc, first my mum, now my partner. I tried to live their way, after all I thought that’s what i had to do, my Mum said at every opportunity how mean, selfish and nasty I was, with no time, empathy, warmth or feeling for anyone, that i must give a little more, be less fussy, do more. I just became angrier and angrier. I now constantly lecture, explain, prescribe…because i could never get thru and now i know, you can’t!!! Now I need learn to undo my default way of being which is to over explain, lecture,make everything a story, not be your self etc. i find b4 i know it I’m explaining to a young child (who is naturally demanding), how did I become so messed up?!?! Years with narc’s, everything you’ve described and talked about has been said to me about me by my mother and partner – every single thing and the word salad. This post nails it to a T re narc’s

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 17 Oct 2022 04:13:11 +0000

In reply to Rosemarie.

Hi Rosemarie,

it takes great courage to choose your own soul and integrity.

This is not only the best thing for you – it also is for her.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Rosemarie

Rosemarie — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 20:00:40 +0000

This article came at an ideal time .I am going through this with my daughter and finally getting tbe strength to stand up in my truth and love.
You are right what is happening in my relationship with her feels yucky to my inner being .I feel violated by the lack of care and kindness and I know I deserve better.

So I will stand and bear the holocaust that is before me rather than sacrifice one moment of my peace .

Love always

Rosemarie

By: Vigdis Perez

Vigdis Perez — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 14:26:02 +0000

I have learned so much so far. I was almost completely destroyed when I found this recovery program. It’s been a slow process, but I have started to get my own voice back slowly but surely. I am always and forever thankful for this program. For me it has been a literal lifesaver.

By: Steve

Steve — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 14:12:14 +0000

In reply to Susan.

Hello Susan, I’m also sixty five and have been living with narcissists all of my life. First my mother and then girlfriends and finally my first and only wife of twenty one years. I’ve lost most every bit of confidence I have developed, for long periods of time. I do have loving brothers and a sister who are now involved and doing a great job helping me to move on with my life. They have helped me retain a lawyer and I’ve filed for divorce. Currently, I’m in my downstairs bedroom waiting for the mail carrier to deliver the paperwork to her. This, and one loss in particular (my time with my grandson) have me fighting off depression. I’m working hard at taking care of myself physically and I’m in the best shape of my adult life. But mentally I’m on a road of straightaways and valleys.
My tolerance for the narcissistic behavior is also low and perhaps non-existent but taking care of myself emotionally is my current challenge. I’m writing this response in hopes that it shakes me from the tree I’ve climbed (metaphorically) and helps me plant my feet on the ground to continue the process I’ve made thus far. I congratulate you on your healthy independence.
I need to clean up the backyard from recent wind and rain, continue my job search, and on the advice of council find a professional to talk to. The latter being to show the judge my efforts to heal. I don’t like it but they’re not my rules. Only the advice of the legal system.
I hope you are thriving. 🙂
Steve

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 06:56:24 +0000

In reply to Therese.

Hi Therese,

I love the words and wisdom that you wrote!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Therese

Therese — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 06:22:00 +0000

Thanks++++ Melanie, “word salad” is so appropriate for what I heard yesterday, and many other times too. Love that you said they’re always single because they don’t do team. Also if I’m choosing less than my standards then I’m choosing that person’s life practice instead of mine. These clearly stated pieces of wisdom are so powerful and helpful, they give me strength in setting my direction.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 05:24:10 +0000

In reply to Nicole.

Hi Nicole,

Im so pleased that this has helped!

Sending you love and breakthroughs!

Mel 🙏💞🦋