Hi Kirsten,

Are you on Gold NARP and in the NARP members forum?

There are so many resources, pointers and incredible support and training that you can find in there!

I hope this helps

Mel 🙏💕💚

Also for example

today I have HUGE things working on (not here for narc) —- then went for walk, 1 trigger came up (I noticed it, big one) then later another trigger came up (noticed that, too), and later ANOTHER trigger (noticed that, too) —- I have SOOO many things to work on it can be hard to know which ones to do first and in what order

(I not here bc of narc relationship but for over-all healing)

I try to do best I can in terms of choosing —- using inner guidance

But sometimes it’s like: wow! 3 different old wounds PLUS already have stuff working on (several things) —–

Kirsten

(formerly KKWL)

Hello Mel!!

Your answer to the question REALLY helped —- the: what if something else pops up? Bc that happens to me as well and then I get REALLY confused and overwhelmed about which one to do. I also sometimes have multiple things come up and I just say: well, add it to the bunch!! heal what we can

I would LOVE LOVE LOVE it if you could pls make a post or a sticky where you answer questions like this from people! it would be SO helpful. I can learn from things other people ask and vice versa —- would just really love to read YOUR response(s) since you are the ultimate source of this healing mod!!!!! Would be great to have that in post, if you would?

Kirsten

(formerly KKWL)

Melanie I reason ate with everything you said, apparently my doctor has me on medication for bio polar which my mom had I stopped alcohol and drugs many years ago I have never really tackled the inside stuff till now since I met you and am so grateful you have come into my life. I am in the narp gold program and I know there is lots of work but I also have ulcerative colitis and ruematoid arthritis now from all the stress I have put myself through so I am more than willing to break this experience. My daughter and granddaughter have not healed either, they have been traumatized by my unsealed wounds and they make poor choices because of there unsealed wounds it’s a complete mess. I am no longer going along with what they want and they are angry. It’s okay I must heal me. I can’t save them❤️

Hi Lauretta,

You are very welcome.

Sending you blessings and beautiful healing.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

Hi Suzy,

I’m totally happy to answer this.

There are many narcissists ‘doing’ spiritual journeys.

The truth is behaviour don’t change until internal levels of trauma and belief systems change.

How we know with anyone if they are durably healing and taking 100 percent responsibility for their inner wounds is to give their declarations of this a prod.

Can they fully and humbly talk about their intention to atone change and make amends without diversion, blaming and defences …. durably?

If not don’t believe it.

A ‘spiritual journey’ or even ‘spiritual participation’ is absolutely no substitute for doing the real inner work.

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️