Comments on: How Narcissists Draw You In By Identifying Your Gaps

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By: Daniel Graham

Daniel Graham — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 13:01:16 +0000

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By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 05 Oct 2020 06:53:16 +0000

In reply to BreeL.

Hi Bree,

I love that you have let go and are looking after you!

Bravo!

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: BreeL

BreeL — Sun, 04 Oct 2020 17:18:24 +0000

Hi Melanie, I have a family member who has smeared me to another family member and now the two of them are trying to wreak havoc on my life. It’s all been a lot to try to process, it’s impossible to understand, or to make any sense of. This narcissist has rewritten history, is in full blown victim mode, has the other family member feeling sorry for them, siding with them and taking me to task for the things the narcissist is accusing me of. This narcissist seems to have forgotten that I know the truth! I initially tried to tell them the truth, set the record straight, but quickly realized, they weren’t interested in the truth, they were Hell bent on getting even, making me pay. I realized I was inadvertantly feeding them supply, by being so distraught over the entire situation, and letting it consume me…for at least 3 years I tried to figure this out and make some sense of it….it was literally killing me! The narcissist would get this smug grin on their face, that took everything I had, not to claw off! It was infuriating! They thoroughly enjoyed watching me suffer, all the while never telling me what the issue was! Fast forward to today, and working through my traumas, gaps, weak spots and false messages I’ve told myself since childhood, now…no matter what they throw at me, I no longer care, or try to defend myself, they can believe whatever they want, smear me to whomever they want. It just doesn’t matter, I feel nothing…I’ve become immune to them attempting to hurt me, on any level! Without any explanation whatsoever on my part, I’ve cut them both out of my life! Now the stress from trying to figure this out, tip toeing/walking on egg shells around them, or trying to please them, is completely gone…I no longer care what they think, why they are doing this, just that the reality is, they are. I won’t be participating, reacting or giving them the time of day, nor feeding them any supply or ammunition! Anyone else they recruit as flying monkey’s, will be met with the same fate. Since making myself a priority and knowing my worth, my health and self esteem is vastly improving. I’m sad for them that they have to be like this, and that this was the only, yet necessary way to reclaim/save myself, my life and my happiness. It is what it is, and I let them go with peace, love and wish them the best, but also realize they can no longer have any part in my life….peace at last!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 01 Oct 2020 09:15:51 +0000

In reply to Horizon.

It’s my pleasure Horizon,

many blessings to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Horizon

Horizon — Wed, 30 Sep 2020 21:58:21 +0000

BOUNDRY BEAST!!! Thank you Melanie!

By: VALERIE

VALERIE — Thu, 08 Aug 2019 07:52:28 +0000

BoUnDrY BeAsT !!! Man I started my journey 7 years ago, I went no contact , a narc mom and damaged family from all her abuse to my Dad and 5 siblings. I had no idea there was a real name for this. After 7 years I was stuck not making any real progress and had been seriously believing that this is where I would remain till the end. But not any more, Your videos and writings have opened up my world and it feels good to know that I am no longer alone and I truly understand and know how to heal. I am so grateful and feeling good inside. Val

By: VALERIE

VALERIE — Thu, 08 Aug 2019 07:47:46 +0000

BoUnDrY BeAsTs !!!! Man I started my journey 7 years ago, I went no contact , a narc mom and damaged family from all her abuse to my Dad and 5 siblings. I had no idea there was a real name for this. After 7 years I was stuck not making any real progress and had been seriously believing that this is where I would remain till the end. But not any more, Your videos and writings have opened up my world and it feels good to know that I am no longer alone and I truly understand and know how to heal. I am so grateful and feeling good inside. Val

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 02 May 2019 23:55:15 +0000

In reply to Tracey Mander.

Hi Tracey,

You poor thing my heart goes out to you.

It is awful the terrible feeling of aftershock, addiction to the narcissist and struggling to hold No Contact.

Tracey the best way through this time is to turn inwards and fully devote to being there for you with the structured inner work.

This helps to settle the feelings of powerlessness, helplessness and addiction as well as the terrifying feelings of survival programs in our emotions that are triggered when in No Contact.

Please know how many of us went through this!

The most powerful tool is my NARP Program http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp and to learn more about it and what it can do for you my free workshop grants this: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

As a NARP member you have access to the NARP Forum where you get incredible support regarding your recovery from myself, and skilled moderators, who have all done this journey before you
http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

I hope this information helps and I’m sending you strength, healing and breakthrough.

Mel 🙏💕❤️