Comments on: How To Break The Trauma Bond To A Narcissist And Go Free https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Thu, 07 Oct 2021 05:42:23 +0000 hourly 1 By: Ondine https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1256886 Thu, 07 Oct 2021 05:42:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1256886 Hi Mel,
I have realized that every time I had a feeling that my mother couldn’t accept (and there were many, as my father was abusing me) she would punish me emotionally. Fast forward and I have ended 40 years of emotional abuse with a “benevolent” narc by moving far away. I now realize that he easily controlled me simply by making me feel–whether angry, hurt, dissonant, whatever– whereupon my rational, thinking brain would completely shut down, I’d become very confused, and he would proceed to tell me what to do–his way. Such subtle, tangled webs of dysfunction!

]]> By: Adele https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1256359 Fri, 24 Sep 2021 08:36:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1256359 How are the trauma bonds formed? By the NARC provoking emotional reactions ?

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1252396 Mon, 17 May 2021 06:26:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1252396 In reply to Kellee Marie Morris.

Hi Kellee,

you have expressed all of this so succinctly and wisely.

Truly the words of someone doing the deep inner work and emerging as who you are without trauma – as your True Self.

I love your courage and spirit and keep shining your True Light!

Oddles of love to you too! Thank you for yours!

Mel ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿฆ‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1252395 Mon, 17 May 2021 06:24:06 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1252395 In reply to Stephanie.

Hi Stephanie,

I am so pleased you are being free, and that you are going to pass this on to your next generations.

So much love to you and yours

Mel ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿฆ‹

]]> By: Kellee Marie Morris https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1252353 Sat, 15 May 2021 00:26:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1252353 This one so summed it all up Melanie. I have been slowly working the NARP program but listen to as many vids as I can bring myself to. I also go to ACA twice weekly. The imposter syndrome which seems to have come from being programmed by narcissists who were my primary everything, (parents) made it so everything you say about narcissists…well I find myself first checking myself to make sure the narcissi isnโ€™t truly me. what you said in this episode, really sheds light on why this is and made me feel quite chuffed that I am loving that precious child and even though it can be awkward, even though the boundaries do not bring any afore attached dependant people pleasing rewards…I just feel as though and know actually, that my true self is emerging. Let it be known to allow that the true self emerging, can bring about what feels like emergencies! Difference is, today I am encouraged to put me first and the attachments to the familiar addiction of the programmed abuse I unwittingly would seek out …same script, different players, ad nauseum ๐Ÿคฎ ๐Ÿ’”… well, no more and I thank you with everything my true self is for your fierce and precise teachings to shift us out of the patterns which created easy inroads for repeat performances. Life is different today, itโ€™s eerie sometimes as the true self is new and doesnโ€™t know the ropes of relationships in a healthy dynamic but, keeping the relationship focus inward with expert teaching and quantum medicine… well this is the deliverance . The abuse was a shackle, a prison, an addiction to that which would repeat self destruction just because it was familiar and my only reference to be real at all! Tragic yet the greatest step by patient step transforming back to being. i hold you in great respect. Thank you so deeply Melanie Tonia Evanโ€™s. What your have lived, synthesised , articulated, practiced and now teach is the get out of jail free card for anyone who is tired of being there.

all the live in the world ๐ŸŒŽ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿฆ‹๐ŸŒˆ

]]> By: Stephanie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1252352 Sat, 15 May 2021 00:13:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1252352 Mel NARP has healed my entire life. Not only am I now free of the narcissist but I really couldn’t care less if he tried to come back around… because what IS he gonna do?! He has no power over me any more. I really don’t care. The irony is, as soon as I reached the point of not caring, he disappeared. I will continue working on myself forever though, because through NARP, I discovered that I had been very sick my whole life but I was oblivious to it, even though others had told me I wasn’t well. The feeling of freedom that comes from healing is priceless and like magic, life has shifted to reflect back to me exactly what I now feel inside. NARP is something I will teach my children and grandchildren.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1252337 Fri, 14 May 2021 09:04:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1252337 In reply to Rebecca.

Hi Rebecca,

somatic healing relates to working on the subconscious inner programs. Yes that is exactly what NARP and QFH do.

To learn more about QFH and work closely with NARP, the best place is for you to join in on the NARP Member’s forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

All things NARP are in there!

Mel ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿฆ‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1252336 Fri, 14 May 2021 09:02:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1252336 In reply to Jim.

Hi Jim,

please know how welcome you are!

Mel ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿฆ‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-trauma-bond-to-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1252335 Fri, 14 May 2021 09:02:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9249#comment-1252335 In reply to Vicki Wharton.

Hi Vicki,

I am so pleased that NARP has helped you.

I would suggest doing healing on your triggered emotions regarding your child, and then from a place of calm and solidness within (which I know is not easy!) you can then work with proxy healings on your daughter to help her profoundly.

This is very powerful.

I would suggest coming into the NARP Member’s area http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member to get support and assistance with this.

I hope that this helps.

Much love to you both

Mel ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿฆ‹

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