Comments on: How To Finally Cut The Cord With A Narcissist And Go Free https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Mon, 17 Jan 2022 08:32:13 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1262742 Mon, 17 Jan 2022 08:32:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1262742 In reply to Marie Weeks.

Hi Marie,

if you email my lovely team at support@melanietoniaevans.com one of them will help you.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Karen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1262611 Sat, 15 Jan 2022 15:25:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1262611 In reply to Marie Weeks.

Marie, If you email Melanie’s lovely Support Team at support@melanietoniaevans.com they will be very happy to help you. xxxx

]]> By: Marie Weeks https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1262562 Fri, 14 Jan 2022 15:27:00 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1262562 I have been following your work for a long time but never actually started the process. I want to enroll but my name was submitted in the past and I am not able to join this week. Can you please help me?

]]> By: Grateful https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1261955 Tue, 11 Jan 2022 14:42:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1261955 Here is a thought from someone who grew up with parents that I suspect behaved a lot like narcissists:

The first question is not so much β€œWhy did this happen to me?” as β€œWhat happened to me?”. There is no β€œbefore” to compare with, no β€œbaseline normal”. And asking your parents is not going to produce any useful answers, obviously.
What is the difference between normal disciplining and abuse, under the circumstances? What is the normal level of confusion in a child over their parents’ apparently contradicting rules and behaviours? Which beliefs from childhood are normal and which are not, again considering the circumstances? Unless the abuse/neglect was clear, it’s hard to tell because you were a developing child at the time. And you can only let go once you know what to let go of.

Then comes the inner emotional work.

In practice (I totally agree), walking away from narcissists is the only sustainable long term solution. And accepting some degree of confusion about what happened is part of that.

Thank you, Melanie, your input really helps on my journey.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1261937 Tue, 11 Jan 2022 08:25:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1261937 In reply to Ellen.

Hi Ellen,

please know how welcome you are.

It is so true about the revenge part – I love the two holes analogy!

That’s great that you are healing and letting go!

Much love to you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1261936 Tue, 11 Jan 2022 08:19:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1261936 In reply to Carrie.

Hi Carrie,

that is so great that for you and your children that you took your power back!

Well done!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1261935 Tue, 11 Jan 2022 08:19:05 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1261935 In reply to Iris.

Iris my darling,

That is a powerful choice of self-love to you! Well done.

It is painful, big and all pervasive what is occurring.

Everything you have said is 100% truth.

The truth I know, and I know you know, and feel is that the old systems, the old false idols, the outer props that replaced soul and source are going to crack and fall. (They already are.)

Just as the shattered “reality” of what we believed we were going to live with a narcissist crumbles into dust.

From the ashes will come something much greater, and we are all here (when awake) to participate in this midwifeing of heaven in to and on to Earth.

It has to be this way.

Bring on the Light, Truth and New Realities!

I hope too that as soon as Australia is no longer locked up that I can come to Florida and see you.

All my love to you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1261934 Tue, 11 Jan 2022 08:12:21 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1261934 In reply to Bec.

Hi Bec,

please know the answer is by healing these emerging traumas (which are completely normal and understandable)within you.

Then truly you will be completely benign to all of this and free to be yourself.

NARP is the key to getting this achieved http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-finally-cut-the-cord-with-a-narcissist-and-go-free/#comment-1261933 Tue, 11 Jan 2022 08:09:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10490#comment-1261933 In reply to Patience Kukundakwe.

Many blessings to you Patience!

You are doing great!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

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