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		By: Neda		</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 16 Sep 2025 15:12:02 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Dear Mel,  


is it possible that we are hiding out true potential in this level and now is the time to bring it to the physical world?

Thank you!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Mel,  </p>
<p>is it possible that we are hiding out true potential in this level and now is the time to bring it to the physical world?</p>
<p>Thank you!</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jan 2020 01:52:04 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1228849&quot;&gt;Zoe&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Zoe darling,

please know how welcome you are and how grateful I am for you and our beautiful community members.

Much love from myself and the team and Tiggy!

Mel 🙏💕💛]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1228849">Zoe</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Zoe darling,</p>
<p>please know how welcome you are and how grateful I am for you and our beautiful community members.</p>
<p>Much love from myself and the team and Tiggy!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕💛</p>
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		By: Zoe		</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jan 2020 00:31:28 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[As Always... perfect timing..  spot on ..thankyou Mel for lighting the way....

I&#039;m soooooo grateful 

lots of love and light to you and your team always...

Zoe xxx]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As Always&#8230; perfect timing..  spot on ..thankyou Mel for lighting the way&#8230;.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m soooooo grateful </p>
<p>lots of love and light to you and your team always&#8230;</p>
<p>Zoe xxx</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Feb 2019 08:21:16 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1140390&quot;&gt;Steph Neumann&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Steph,

It is beyond any normal understanding for us when we logically know how terrible these people are, yet it can feel almost impossible to let them go.

Please know Steph that there is something very deeply unconscious - in regard to our ingrained parts - that causes this feeling. It was the same for virtually every single one of us.

To get ‘clean’ and ‘free’ it takes inner work - the finding and releasing ourselves from these parts within us that keep holding us in emotional bondage.

That is what my recovery work is about and I’d love you to learn more.

The starting point is here: www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

I hope that helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1140390">Steph Neumann</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Steph,</p>
<p>It is beyond any normal understanding for us when we logically know how terrible these people are, yet it can feel almost impossible to let them go.</p>
<p>Please know Steph that there is something very deeply unconscious &#8211; in regard to our ingrained parts &#8211; that causes this feeling. It was the same for virtually every single one of us.</p>
<p>To get ‘clean’ and ‘free’ it takes inner work &#8211; the finding and releasing ourselves from these parts within us that keep holding us in emotional bondage.</p>
<p>That is what my recovery work is about and I’d love you to learn more.</p>
<p>The starting point is here: <a href="http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse" rel="nofollow ugc">http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse</a></p>
<p>I hope that helps.</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕❤️</p>
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		By: Steph Neumann		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Steph Neumann]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Feb 2019 14:59:08 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Aloha Melanie,

I am pretty certain that I am in a Narcissistic relationship, I was enlightened by his ex of many moons ago and she has continued to be my rock throughout this whole dysfunctionally immoral relationship.  
I met mine last year, of course after having suffered a massive head injury, there is a possibility of major lack of clarity on my part due to the injury.  When I initially met him I was not impressed and as a matter of fact, completely disgusted and never even wanted to speak to him. Of course this made him pursue me harder. I agreed to friendly dinners strictly platonic, then a close friend of mine landed in ICU on life support and my focus all changed and I was in an emotional state for a time. The vulture swooped in and helped me pick up the pieces and of course devoted himself entirely to me.  He had us married and living happily ever after one week into our relationship!!!
I believe my situation carried on as the usual, loving and caring man, convinces me to move to his home(which his mother left to him), did I mention that he&#039;s 61?  I just turned 50, and I am a very outgoing gal originally from Boston so I am not afraid to stand my ground.  I was making an upward of 10k a month  before my head injury then it dwindled understandably, I needed to figure out how to maintain my life and my family&#039;s life a with this injury, he was there the whole way.  
We moved to his place, turns out he didn&#039;t have electricity and we lived like grizzlies for over six months.  My mother, my 9 year old son and myself.  Turns out the live if my life turned out to be a Meth Addict of 30 years.  Great.  
All in all, my story is pretty much the same as the others that i have read accept for I found out that he was cheating with his ex, an older desperate And very physically unattractive woman that has a few bucks do she was showering him with gifts and money.he asked me to marry him an actually proposed with a ring so were engaged last Feb 13, 2018 he freaking married this woman behind my back in a thrown together backyard wedding on July 29, 2018 while I am at the vet with HIS dog spending my money because the poor dog had a massive ear infection .  I found put after a week, if course while i was at a potential job he decided to throw the wrench out there, needless to say i didn&#039;t get the job.  Anyhoo, I lived with him until November, I did not have the money to go anywhere.  He had sabotaged everything and now he knew where I was. If I went to the store and lingered just looking I would get the third degree as to why I took so long or who was i with??? The store takes 5 minutes to get to so 10 minutes travel time and shopping 10 minutes, who were you with??? Complete insanity.  If there was a line I would lose my bearings, I would start literally flipping out trying to find a way to pay and go in order to avoid an interrogation.  Regardless, I would be back in 30 minutes and he would insist that i was gone for over an hour and tbe argument would carry through to the next day or until he would up and go to that ridiculous woman&#039;s house.  
So I finally got our with my family, he still cones around witb the lies of me being the one that he loves and he made a huge mistake.  That&#039;s hilarious considering she&#039;s moving into his house and he&#039;s still married.  
The only thing that i have been able to maintain is my self esteem.  I am not oblivious to having been a fool but I do know that i am a good woman, I know that i am still very attractive and look great for my age and that I am better than this and too good for this person.  I have morals and was raised witb good stock, I will not allow this guy to take everything from me.  I am taking my life back bit by bit, I have ended it with him over and over only to get a response as usual that i am the one yet here i am living on the other side of town while that woman is still in his house.  I know you will say she is a victim but she is not, she was well aware of me and knew that i lived tbere with my mom and my boy and she pushed the wedding as fast as she could to ensure her place so she is a nasty desperate woman that probably deserves everything coming her way. 
I am damaged, I have zero faith in men at this point and I feel used and decieved.  I am holding my head up and I am trying even though my obstacles are much harder than ever before, I am still trying my very best.  I feel that I am still in love with this monster so he still has that grip on my heart but I need to have a life, a full life not this tidbit crap that i am getting.  I am not the gal that has ever stood for such treatment, why in the hell am I even in this situation???

Mahalo🌺🌺🌺
Steph]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Aloha Melanie,</p>
<p>I am pretty certain that I am in a Narcissistic relationship, I was enlightened by his ex of many moons ago and she has continued to be my rock throughout this whole dysfunctionally immoral relationship.<br />
I met mine last year, of course after having suffered a massive head injury, there is a possibility of major lack of clarity on my part due to the injury.  When I initially met him I was not impressed and as a matter of fact, completely disgusted and never even wanted to speak to him. Of course this made him pursue me harder. I agreed to friendly dinners strictly platonic, then a close friend of mine landed in ICU on life support and my focus all changed and I was in an emotional state for a time. The vulture swooped in and helped me pick up the pieces and of course devoted himself entirely to me.  He had us married and living happily ever after one week into our relationship!!!<br />
I believe my situation carried on as the usual, loving and caring man, convinces me to move to his home(which his mother left to him), did I mention that he&#8217;s 61?  I just turned 50, and I am a very outgoing gal originally from Boston so I am not afraid to stand my ground.  I was making an upward of 10k a month  before my head injury then it dwindled understandably, I needed to figure out how to maintain my life and my family&#8217;s life a with this injury, he was there the whole way.<br />
We moved to his place, turns out he didn&#8217;t have electricity and we lived like grizzlies for over six months.  My mother, my 9 year old son and myself.  Turns out the live if my life turned out to be a Meth Addict of 30 years.  Great.<br />
All in all, my story is pretty much the same as the others that i have read accept for I found out that he was cheating with his ex, an older desperate And very physically unattractive woman that has a few bucks do she was showering him with gifts and money.he asked me to marry him an actually proposed with a ring so were engaged last Feb 13, 2018 he freaking married this woman behind my back in a thrown together backyard wedding on July 29, 2018 while I am at the vet with HIS dog spending my money because the poor dog had a massive ear infection .  I found put after a week, if course while i was at a potential job he decided to throw the wrench out there, needless to say i didn&#8217;t get the job.  Anyhoo, I lived with him until November, I did not have the money to go anywhere.  He had sabotaged everything and now he knew where I was. If I went to the store and lingered just looking I would get the third degree as to why I took so long or who was i with??? The store takes 5 minutes to get to so 10 minutes travel time and shopping 10 minutes, who were you with??? Complete insanity.  If there was a line I would lose my bearings, I would start literally flipping out trying to find a way to pay and go in order to avoid an interrogation.  Regardless, I would be back in 30 minutes and he would insist that i was gone for over an hour and tbe argument would carry through to the next day or until he would up and go to that ridiculous woman&#8217;s house.<br />
So I finally got our with my family, he still cones around witb the lies of me being the one that he loves and he made a huge mistake.  That&#8217;s hilarious considering she&#8217;s moving into his house and he&#8217;s still married.<br />
The only thing that i have been able to maintain is my self esteem.  I am not oblivious to having been a fool but I do know that i am a good woman, I know that i am still very attractive and look great for my age and that I am better than this and too good for this person.  I have morals and was raised witb good stock, I will not allow this guy to take everything from me.  I am taking my life back bit by bit, I have ended it with him over and over only to get a response as usual that i am the one yet here i am living on the other side of town while that woman is still in his house.  I know you will say she is a victim but she is not, she was well aware of me and knew that i lived tbere with my mom and my boy and she pushed the wedding as fast as she could to ensure her place so she is a nasty desperate woman that probably deserves everything coming her way.<br />
I am damaged, I have zero faith in men at this point and I feel used and decieved.  I am holding my head up and I am trying even though my obstacles are much harder than ever before, I am still trying my very best.  I feel that I am still in love with this monster so he still has that grip on my heart but I need to have a life, a full life not this tidbit crap that i am getting.  I am not the gal that has ever stood for such treatment, why in the hell am I even in this situation???</p>
<p>Mahalo🌺🌺🌺<br />
Steph</p>
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		By: Kim Griggs		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Kim Griggs]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jul 2018 02:35:16 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Hello! I am so Happy to have found your website!!
I left my husband 3 months ago because his mother is a Maternal Narcissist, so of course I was abused &#038; tortured by her &#038; he is a Malignant Narcissist &#038; has Psychopathic tendencies. I do realize these 2 are almost one in the same. Fortunately, when I left, I had already started educating myself on the 2 of them. That was the sole reason I left. I moved back home, 3 states away &#038; I&#039;m actually doing rather well, considering it was like they were doing a tag team match on me 24/7. 
I&#039;m writing to you today because I have a very close friend who&#039;s gf is most definitely a Narc. They&#039;ve been together for 3 yrs. She moved into his home that he owns basically, as soon as they started dating, of course, and after she did a rather magnificent display of Love Bombing. I know you&#039;re familiar with this story. He desperately wants her out but, he absolutely can NOT handle the drama &#038; aggression he knows predictably, will ensure. He dreads it to the point that it makes him physically sick to even think about it. She is using him financially. She rarely &#038; I do mean RARELY works &#038; he pays every single bill while she &#038; her family have literally taken over his home to the point he doesn&#039;t even feel comfortable in his own house. I read a brief comment that referenced Gray Stone. Could you please give me as much information on that as possible? I made the suggestion, that since he dreaded her confrontational meltdown, for him to go No Contact immediately. I told him to find another place to stay for a month or so, change his number, write her a letter (&#038; I was willing to help him) specifically laying out in great detail that he is done, she has 30 days to vacate etc etc but he just isn&#039;t there yet because he actually afraid of hurting her. Of course, I&#039;ve tried repeatedly to get him to understand that her words are empty, she has never loved him, therefore the only thing he&#039;s hurting is her comfortable life style &#038; would be terminating her control &#038; abuse. He truly is miserable. Any suggestions on how I can get thru to him. I&#039;d love for him to be able to access your website but that absolutely can&#039;t happen coz she checks his phone on the regular.
Any info would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
Kim Griggs]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hello! I am so Happy to have found your website!!<br />
I left my husband 3 months ago because his mother is a Maternal Narcissist, so of course I was abused &amp; tortured by her &amp; he is a Malignant Narcissist &amp; has Psychopathic tendencies. I do realize these 2 are almost one in the same. Fortunately, when I left, I had already started educating myself on the 2 of them. That was the sole reason I left. I moved back home, 3 states away &amp; I&#8217;m actually doing rather well, considering it was like they were doing a tag team match on me 24/7.<br />
I&#8217;m writing to you today because I have a very close friend who&#8217;s gf is most definitely a Narc. They&#8217;ve been together for 3 yrs. She moved into his home that he owns basically, as soon as they started dating, of course, and after she did a rather magnificent display of Love Bombing. I know you&#8217;re familiar with this story. He desperately wants her out but, he absolutely can NOT handle the drama &amp; aggression he knows predictably, will ensure. He dreads it to the point that it makes him physically sick to even think about it. She is using him financially. She rarely &amp; I do mean RARELY works &amp; he pays every single bill while she &amp; her family have literally taken over his home to the point he doesn&#8217;t even feel comfortable in his own house. I read a brief comment that referenced Gray Stone. Could you please give me as much information on that as possible? I made the suggestion, that since he dreaded her confrontational meltdown, for him to go No Contact immediately. I told him to find another place to stay for a month or so, change his number, write her a letter (&amp; I was willing to help him) specifically laying out in great detail that he is done, she has 30 days to vacate etc etc but he just isn&#8217;t there yet because he actually afraid of hurting her. Of course, I&#8217;ve tried repeatedly to get him to understand that her words are empty, she has never loved him, therefore the only thing he&#8217;s hurting is her comfortable life style &amp; would be terminating her control &amp; abuse. He truly is miserable. Any suggestions on how I can get thru to him. I&#8217;d love for him to be able to access your website but that absolutely can&#8217;t happen coz she checks his phone on the regular.<br />
Any info would be greatly appreciated.<br />
Sincerely,<br />
Kim Griggs</p>
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		By: Terri		</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Jun 2018 14:39:02 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1063917&quot;&gt;Connie&lt;/a&gt;.

OMG!!!!
Reading your story is like reading mine... we got together age 17, married 27 years, he left age 49 with new supply! I&#039;m now 53, 3 kids &#038; im a nurse. Ready for new direction in life, finding courage to face fears of loneliness, abandonment, the unknown &#038; new realities of life. Learning how to let life just happen... patience &#038; faith! Still in a divorce battle though with ongoing emotional/verbal abuse, manipulation. Have had to cut off all contact , lawyers only. 
My heart feels for you &#038; know I feel total empathy for your journey. I admire your strength &#038; movement forward! You definitely are not alone! Many hugs!!!!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1063917">Connie</a>.</p>
<p>OMG!!!!<br />
Reading your story is like reading mine&#8230; we got together age 17, married 27 years, he left age 49 with new supply! I&#8217;m now 53, 3 kids &amp; im a nurse. Ready for new direction in life, finding courage to face fears of loneliness, abandonment, the unknown &amp; new realities of life. Learning how to let life just happen&#8230; patience &amp; faith! Still in a divorce battle though with ongoing emotional/verbal abuse, manipulation. Have had to cut off all contact , lawyers only.<br />
My heart feels for you &amp; know I feel total empathy for your journey. I admire your strength &amp; movement forward! You definitely are not alone! Many hugs!!!!</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 23 Jun 2018 22:23:59 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1067413&quot;&gt;jen&lt;/a&gt;.

That’s so great Jen,

I am so glad you are feeling your power!

Mel 🙏💕❤️]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1067413">jen</a>.</p>
<p>That’s so great Jen,</p>
<p>I am so glad you are feeling your power!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕❤️</p>
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		By: Susana		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Susana]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 23 Jun 2018 16:12:57 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1063925&quot;&gt;Rebecca&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Rebecca!

I am at module 8 and from module 7 was the hardest to continue to heal. After shifting in a day I had nightmares and felt more triggered with everything like noises, too much people around me. So I toke a break for a week because of this and felt bad to continue but after a week I felt worth that I did not continue so naturally was easier to continue than to feel stuck again. After few week is better and easier to continue.If your brain full of too much info just take  break and when you feel just continue. It is not easy but helps you to understand yourself better.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-find-direction-when-you-feel-stuck/#comment-1063925">Rebecca</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Rebecca!</p>
<p>I am at module 8 and from module 7 was the hardest to continue to heal. After shifting in a day I had nightmares and felt more triggered with everything like noises, too much people around me. So I toke a break for a week because of this and felt bad to continue but after a week I felt worth that I did not continue so naturally was easier to continue than to feel stuck again. After few week is better and easier to continue.If your brain full of too much info just take  break and when you feel just continue. It is not easy but helps you to understand yourself better.</p>
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