So very sad and heartbreaking. I feel for you. I am still in marriage to covert narcissist for 31 years. I have married off 5 children so far. I have 4 more to go (20, 19, 16 and 7). I have 9 grandchildren. The children are absolutely wonderful! I feel like I was living in a fog. There was so much cognitive dissonance… The clarity and understanding that I have now is truly a blessing! The financial abuse was crippling. That is why I am still married but living in separate rooms for 2 1/2 years so far.

Hi Ruby,

My heart goes out to you. It is so painful, until sweetheart we turn within and heal the parts of ourselves that we need to.

My information alone is a supplement, it’s not the necessary inner work. That journey starts here: http://www.melanietoniaevams.com/freewebinar

I hope with all my heart that you discover the inner trauma release work that Quanta Freedom Healing can do for you.

All my love and support.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

HiMelanie,
my wife usually says I am a narcissist, and she is a victim. I proposed her many times to go to therapy, to work out this problem, but your version of being a victim suits her better, because she has not responsibility in her acts. As a victim, you don´t have to work in yourself, you can avoid communication, close e mails, close whatssap, follow your recommendations to close contact and you do not take responsibility of your acts. The border line between victim and narcissism is very narrow, The so called system narcissist victim is very narrow. They look almost the same. I think the main task is to work in wounds from childhood and life, that are triggers in relationships.
They are very hard to work, but not impossible. They are very painful, sometime that painful that it takes a long time to see them and to be able emotionally to work them. The role playing in relationship can switch from narcissist to victim and from victim to narcissist, it is human to have weakness, so accountability is not easy when you teach people to call themselves victims. You can flush pain to the universe, it is self indulgent, but pain stays and need a real work on it. It needs the understanding of processes that you experienced in life. First you have to bring this pain from nowhere, and then process it, digest it. The magic of flushing it, is a very nice trick, but in reality you have to flush your own self. Autosuggestion is a great trick to clean yourself, but actually this has short legs because the cleaning of injures have more deep roots than a simple magic flush into the universe. I find you very clever in your technic, my I need more deep and depth processes. I tried your NARP but I think is really weak in some points because I dont believe in magics. I have been working with past life methods, with other methods, but actually localizing pain, localizing the real problem (which is very hard) takes times it is not an act of magic, you are right that we have to reconnect, but reconnection is a very personal process and is related to the believes people have.

Hi Joanne,

truly it is about doing the inner work on the subconscious wounds we need to heal. Have you started working with NARP – it is the way to not only stop and heal the ruinating but evolve beyond this pattern for real https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Mel xo

Hi Liza,

Awww I am so pleased you understand that.

Bless! You are so welcome Liza 🙂

Mel xo

Hi Andy,

please know absolutely this does happen to men as well as women, and there is no shame in that.

I’d love you to come into my free webinar – I think it will explain a lot as well as start to give you relief and peace.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Mel xo