You realized it was the stress of your narc that created those issues and all along you were probably blaming your autoimmune. I too have recently come to this realization. I’m here if you ever want to talk.

TRO (Temporary Restraining Order due to financial, Mental, verbal abuse) No contact is the way to go.

PS I was fortunate to file divorce papers, TRI, and move out before pandemic!

Wow. Same here. 25 year marriage. Almost exactly what you just wrote.

I live in Minnesota. My child is almost 18. I could find nobody to help us. My ex was out of control. He made the last 10 years of my sons life and mine hell. I was excluded from everything. You need a womans advocate from a shelter like Tubman or whatever womans shelter you have in your state. The parental alienation doesn’t stop. The using your children to get at you doesn’t stop. Find a womans advocate. They will jump down the judges throat for not protecting you and your children.

Hi Debbie,

My strongest suggestion to you is to be strong, empowered and loving for your girls.

It is so important that they don’t take on how ‘wrong’ this is, and realise that no matter what his behavior is, this is not because of who they are.

My strongest suggestion always, to parents of children being co-parented with narcissists, is to deeply heal yourself and lead the way. You can’t stop what he is doing, but you can be the most powerful, whole and healed force available for your children, and this is how they will fare in this.

Where you go and how you feel about all of this, is where they will follow you.

I hope that this helps make sense.

Mel 🙏💕💛

Hi Eric,

I am so sorry that you are suffering this. Please google my name + parallel parenting as well as ‘our children and ‘court and custody’.

I hope that these resources can help you.

Mel 🙏💕💛