Comments on: How To Inspire Commitment and Love In Your Relationship

By: Paula

Paula — Fri, 06 Jan 2017 20:45:03 +0000

Hi Melanie,
I am new to your site. I am currently in a terribly turbulent relationship with a man who I know in my heart has narcissistic personality disorder. Everything you describe is him- right from the day he was born, his previous relationships with exes, his family, his parents, his children to his relationship with me. I have been doing research and known for a while what he is and have been trying unsuccessfully to break away with him, and not understanding why he keeps winning me over with his love bombing when I know I’m my head what is going on. To make matters harder I have a gorgeous 6 month old daughter with him that he professes and appears to love very much (I fear she has become a trophy child for him). Just what I have read from you today is helping me immensely. I can sort of see what is happening now with my belief systems, just struggling to put it all together. My earlier relationships were all very dysfunctional with the wrong men, completely unsuited for me. Then I met my ex husband at age 18, with whom I have 2 children. This man was the perfect man. The perfect husband, perfect father, I trusted him 100% completely and he treated me like a queen. It was the perfect relationship full of trust and commitment. I was married to him for 8 years but was always unhappy without knowing why. I became less and less attracted to him, which I felt was entirely physical. In the end I cheated on him and left him (breaking up my gorgeous family) for my current emotionally abusive narcissist (and father to my baby). I could never understand how or why I did this, when I had the perfect life and my children are my world. How could I give up my family, perfect life and loving husband for such an evil man??? I feel like my life is spiraling out of control and finding it very difficult to deal.

By: Pat

Pat — Sat, 29 Oct 2016 04:50:53 +0000

In reply to Jane. I also was unable to break the seal no matter which name I used. I tried at least six names.I am an empath . Perhaps that's why .

By: michael

michael — Fri, 28 Oct 2016 13:33:14 +0000

I have to say that reading your material has been wonderful for me as a man because mostly they are not specificly gender assigned. That is, until I read this article. I understand you were responding to specific letters but I still find it disturbing as I try to apply this technique to myself when it is geared towards women as if men are more likely to be narcissistic. That said, I do appreciate the rest of the articles I have read from you and feel blessed to have found such a resource.

By: Cris

Cris — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 20:40:32 +0000

In reply to Jelena Ristic. The test had no impact on me with false statements like my name is Paul (my real name is Cris). I couldn't break through my dominant thumb and index finger.

By: Carol

Carol — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 18:41:53 +0000

In reply to Jelena Ristic. sadly disappointed as I had the exact same experience with the muscle test - absolutely true or false made no difference

By: tracybelter

tracybelter — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 08:36:09 +0000

How do i get access to muscle testing?

By: Satina Cooper

Satina Cooper — Wed, 10 Feb 2016 09:58:10 +0000

Yes the muscle testing was helpful and interesting.

QUESTION: How firmly are you meant to pull the fingers thru?

I only got 2 yes’s and I wasn’t sure if my finger were getting tired holding them so tightly together or I was pulling to hard. Or that’s just how it works. One of my yes’s was right near the end and the other at the beginning.

By: Jelena Ristic

Jelena Ristic — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 13:40:10 +0000

The muscle test had no affect on me at all. I found it useless. No matter what false things I said or thought,i was capable of keeping the circle closed.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 16 Dec 2015 02:40:51 +0000

Here’s my issue with this. I DID this. I shut down a few guys like this, before I met this one. I went slow. We hung out as friends, Slowly dated, did not engage in sex until we where together a while. Did not move in together right away. I watched for signs. I waited. I honored myself. Yet he seems to match this. I know he has addiction issues. I can’t delude myself he will ever change. I work with him. 100% no contact is not possible. I do my best to hold up my boundaries best I can. He absolutely projected on me, I called him out on it when it was happening before I understand any of this. I walked away telling him I wanted to be healthy with him, not like this. I was smeared, lied about stolen from. Yes he falls under all of this. So how did this guy get through my radar of men that are bad for me? I just don’t understand. I have healed lots of things. I have worked on my patterns. I worked on self love all these things. I am so confused how he could have ripped in here like this? I’m in more agony from this than I have felt in any abusive aspects I have encountered.