I have a tormenting question: if someone loves his parents and does everything for them, claims to have loved a women that left him years ago. But can not attach to someone now.He can still be a narcisist or is he just traumatized? He fits in a lot of the patterns you described during your videos.
Thank you! In my country we do not have recovery experts, wish i could get to met you!

Hi Kim,

I so do understand those urges!

Truly Kim when our young or powerless past life survival programs are triggered, it can be beyond painful and powerfully hooks us in.

The inner work is the answer to get out of this. This is the first step that can help you so much: https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

I’ve literally felt like I could crawl on my hands and knees and beg him to come back into the relationship just to temporarily ease the pain.

This is just when the divorce is only a stone’s throw away. It is definitely my pain-body or internal narcissist trying to hold onto it’s existence! And…. almost as if he can sense it, the hoovering comes in at the same time making it oh so tempting.

I did manage to hold modified contact but it’s been the toughest thing ever.

Hi Andii,

I am so pleased for you that you are feeling strong and moving forward.

It’s also wonderful that you have true people in your life standing with you. That is so important.

I love that you are reclaiming your spirit and your life.

Power to you Dear Lady.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

I hear that his life’s work is to destroy me. Ha ha ha! at 63 hes gonna need a lot more time and strength to conquer this one.

I have no family, most of my friends have gone because he;s revealed very personal things to them. Those that love me, trust me and know me are still here and that’s what matters.

He’s still pulling the strings using other people to fulfil his objectives and that is to grind me into the ground until I am no more or at least that’s what he thinks.

Everyday is easier. Every scenario that you have commented on I have gone through it. He hates me with a passion yet even after 8 months of leaving and shutting down every social media link, he still finds a way to send me subliminal messages via the unsuspecting flying monkey recruit and I am stamping them out one by one.

Just want to say a big thank you for the work you have been doing to help people like me recover from Narc abuse.

Hi Anonymous,

That is great that you are going forward and I wish you much power and breakthrough!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

That was great! Hi Melanie.

Thank you I’m working on internalising
new healthy trajectories for my progress. Its tough yet I trudge on in between dealing with the divorce and financial graveyard. For each of the negative trauma based statements at the end of this video, I shouted a positive one so as not for my subconscious to be at the end left with negative statements about me!! That may sound silly but it makes me feel good inside. My inner journey has just begun…I’m not going backwards. Because of the info from your program, I’m living forward. Thank you.

Oh gosh Broken,

I am so so sorry you have been through so much.

Have you reached out in your community for help with available resources?

Do you have a support network?

What area are you from, so that maybe someone else on the blog can help meet you and grant you some suggestions?

Also please check out my free resources that can help you turn inwards to heal.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Sending you love, strength and healing.

Mel 🙏💕❤️