Comments on: How To Stop Seeking Validation From Others https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 12 Jul 2023 07:24:45 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1238297 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:25:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1238297 In reply to Nancy.

Hi Nancy,

you are so welcome lovely lady and I’m glad this helped.

Much love to you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Nancy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1238251 Sun, 07 Jun 2020 13:14:54 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1238251 Melanie, thanks for confirming just what has caused this in my life repeatedly. I did at times feel invisible growing up. Everything you said hit home. Wow wow wow! I am going to watch this again and copy the transcript. This has lifted the heaviness from my heart. THIS IS MY ISSUE and has always been. I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS! ❀️
Thanks for your inspiring work and education!

]]> By: Amy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1212091 Mon, 14 Oct 2019 01:27:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1212091 Yes- this the first time I really feel understood
regarding this approval seeking dynamic
This is what I need to heal. To dissolve the fear into love.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1207844 Mon, 23 Sep 2019 00:35:49 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1207844 In reply to April Derome.

Hi April,

This is great you are doing so well.

Absolutely all sorts of body sensations can happen in shifts, including what you describe.

If you do have any concerns, then oI would suggest medically to go check this out.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’›

]]> By: April Derome https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1207807 Sun, 22 Sep 2019 15:34:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1207807 Hi Melanie. I am in awe at the life I am living now. Never thought it possible for me to feel so much love. It Has been a long time since I’ve felt any real emotions that weren’t muffled and distant. My narc brought me to the point of no where else to go and you guided me the rest of the way. I am forever grateful. I have one question though. My shifts are never dramatic, but they are always profound. I get heart palpitation or flutters sometimes with the shifts. Have you heard of this from anyone else? I’m a very healthy person.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1129570 Wed, 16 Jan 2019 00:01:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1129570 In reply to Desiree Hartt.

Yes it is tough Desiree,

Detach as much as you can and get settled and separate.

That’s the only way.

Don’t feed it with any energy, it only makes it worse.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β€οΈ

]]> By: Desiree Hartt https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1129363 Tue, 15 Jan 2019 09:55:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1129363 Thank you Mel, I thought as much. I was hoping for a small reprieve as I am living in the same house as my abuser until we can reach financial settlement. It’s really tough!

]]> By: Desiree Hartt https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1129362 Tue, 15 Jan 2019 09:54:24 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1129362 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Thank you Mel, I thought as much. I was hoping for a small reprieve as I am living in the same house as my abuser until we can reach financial settlement. It’s really tough!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-from-others/#comment-1129195 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 22:33:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6413#comment-1129195 In reply to Desiree Hartt.

Hi Desiree,

There is only one way to stop an argument with a narcissist.

Detach and refuse to participate – period. Any energy you grant it fuels them and the argument.

There is no other solution, and ultimately a life without abuse means not being with this person.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β€οΈ

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