He never calls the mother of his teenage daughters by her name which I always found strange. Her name is “my ex”. I always thought it was strange that when he was 32 he knocked her up and she was only 22. I’d think a 32 year old man would know better. Poor girl. He said she cheated on him multiple times yet they went on to have another daughter. I feel bad for her and I’m not sure why. There’s more to that story.

In between girlfriends he was a hobo sexual (just learned that word) staying at different friends houses. He was living in a hotel when I met him. Hello?! Should have been a red flag.

I noticed he never used a credit card and asked him straight up if he was bankrupt. The answer was yes. We were looking at buying a house together. Not sure how that was gonna work.

When we broke up he blamed me for losing work, missing sporting events and spending time with his daughters which is simply not true. He is a liar and always over exaggerates.

We met online and within a week we both disabled our online accounts. We had such a strong instant connection and talked via text and phone all day and night for a month. From day one he talked about how easy it would be for him to move to my city and how easy it would be to obtain work here. We lived 1.5 hours away so we were long distance for 4 months of our relationship and lived together for less than 1 month. In the first few months we saw each other less than ten times but we already created great memories and lots of laughs. He was always very busy with work which is why he missed time with his daughters and sporting events. I never knew when he was coming or going, staying or leaving. His schedule was all over the place and I never complained. He complained about it all the time and made it appear as though I was the one complaining. He put all the pressure on himself and then made it appear that it was me putting pressure on him. I never once complained about his work schedule and/or him not making enough time for me. That was all pressure he put on himself.

Before I even met him in person he told me he loved me, we were soulmates, he’d never met anyone like me, I was beautiful, I was the most real person he’d ever met and he loved that I was strong and sucessful and confident, all things he wanted in a woman. He promised me he was going to treat me like I deserve and give me a beautiful life. He promised me all this before I even met him. I was flattered. I fell for it. 3 months later he lands an amazing work opportunity in my city and he moved into my place. 1 day after he was here I wanted him to leave and never come back. I disliked him very much. He couldn’t communicate about anything, even the simplest things. He was always defensive about everything. Anytime I tried to express my feelings about something he did to upset me he ignored my feelings and told me I worried too much and needed to relax and to just let things happen. He never took responsibility for his actions always putting the blame on me and treating me like I was crazy. He always talked about how he was such a positive person but he is the complete opposite. He was always complaining about everything and blaming everyone else.

He has a biological twin brother which he hasn’t spoken to in years and blames it all on his brother. He gets very defensive whenever the topic comes up. His brother has nothing to do with his family. His whole family is a bit different. I actually dreaded meeting them to be honest. Anytime he called home it always sounded so chaotic and hectic at his parents house, yelling and not focusing on the conversation, repeating things over and over again. His parents lived with his younger sister 36 yrs old and her husband who was 10 years younger than her and their little girl. His younger sister went to Portugal and married a complete stranger 10 years younger than her and brought him to Canada. Just so old school. Although we shared the same culture which is one of the things I really liked about this guy, we grew up so differently. He grew up very old school and had a lot of those characteristics which were major turn offs for me.

One time when we were long distance I told him how much I missed him and he told me to go find a local guy instead. He had a hot mouth and would shoot it off all the time. This really hurt my feelings.

He used to buy me flowers every time he came down to see me and have roses sent to my work. Then it all stopped after he moved in. We were having dinner on a rooftop paito one day on a beautiful summer day and talking about romance and I said how I loved it and was a sucker for it, hinting that I was missing it and he said, “men can’t be too romantic or they look like pussies”

The week before he was scheduled to move in I started to feel extremely anxious and stressed out to the max. Subconsciously I knew it was a bad idea but he had gone out and secured an amazing opportunity for his business and we’d talked about living a life together and him moving here so everything was falling into place, right??? I thought I loved him. I was swept away. He flattered me. After one day living together I already wanted him to leave. I knew I wouldn’t ever even be friends with this person. He thought he was smarter and better than anyone at everything. He didn’t like to be challenged and he didn’t like if anyone knew more than he did. He would never let me be right about anything. He called himself a nuclear power plant, and truly he was. He had way too much energy for one person. It was exhausting. I was married to a professional chef for 13 years so I know my way around the kitchen but this guy killed my confidence in the kitchen. He was such a picky eater which was a HUGE turn off. When I met him he pretended to be so experienced with fine foods and wine but that was a lie.
He could never sit down to watch even 30 minutes of TV. Hello ADHD. Add that to the list. He could never just chill. He would come home after working a 12 hour day and want to go out and do something. He would wake me up every night at 12,3 and 5 am for sex. I never said no. He’d take offence to that. He thought he was the worlds greatest lover. Lol! He would only ever sleep 3-4 hours a night.

He could never make a simple decision or have a simple discussion. He made everything so much harder than it had to be. Even something as simple as dinner plans was always such a big deal. He took offence when I suggested having chicken two days in a row.
2 weeks after he was living with me, we argued everyday. I started to believe I was the problem and even went as far as to ask my doctor for anxiety medication. He asked me all the time if I was in a bad mood but I wasn’t ever until he would assume I was. I told him that if things didn’t improve in two weeks he had to leave. That we couldn’t continue this relationship miserable. I went away the following weekend with my friends and decided that I would break up with him soon. I missed an entire week of work. I literally couldn’t get out of bed from complete mental, emotional and physical exhaustion. He sucked the life out of me. Last Tuesday we got into an argument over dinner and his lack of communication. He got made because I misunderstood something he said or didn’t say about left overs and we argued, I told him I didn’t think I wanted to continue in this relationship and he yelled that it was over and he would bring my keys the next day and hung up on me. I packed up all of his stuff and left it in the front of my place to pick up easily. I was not home when he came by. I deleted him off my Facebook and he went into a rage lashing out at me. I hurt his pride. I think he expected me to beg him to stay, to work it out. All I wanted was for him to be out of my life completely. Two days after we broke up I heard he was back online dating.

He is a Narcissist????

I was lucky and was smart enough to get out only 5 months into the relationship. So why do I miss this guy who never truly loved me? He went back online dating after two days….why would he do that? I’m so confused.

Hi Alex,

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Thank you for your emails with very helpful advice and information on NPD. Are these emails part of the quantum healing program? Or is there other information that I haven’t yet received which is the quantum healing programme? I know I signed up for the qhp, but I’m confused as to whether or not this emails are it?

I look forward to hearing from you.

Many thanks.

Best wishes,

Alex Toke-Nichols

Maybe your narc has a multiple personality disorder too or a split personality at least. The same was the case with mine I guess. He did not go to see a psychiatrist but sometimes felt he should have.

Awww gosh Tammy,

My heart goes out to you. What you are going through is so painful.

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He is the most evil man I’ve encountered.

My question, I want him far from my life and my life back, but why do I suffer from being without him? Why am I still in pain and sad to admit I have days I want to pick up the phone and hear his voice? Am I really crazy.