Comments on: How To Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse Part 1 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 18 Nov 2017 23:50:55 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-954458 Sat, 18 Nov 2017 23:50:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-954458 In reply to Christy.

Hi Christy,

my heart goes out to you.

Please know there are many people in this Community who have felt like you do, who have made full recoveries.

I’d like to help you with the first step with my free resources: ww.wmelanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

I so know how much they can help you. And in many ways, this time is perfect for you-you can dedicate it to healing you. Then all the rest will follow.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

]]> By: Christy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-953862 Sat, 18 Nov 2017 05:36:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-953862 I’m having a very hard time and don’t know what to do. I have left but I cant seem to do the no contact for very long. I have no job, no car, no home and it’s like I’ve started over so many times. Lost everything so many times. I cant forgive myself. I’m living with my parents again at the age of 43. I have no one to talk to because they just won’t understand. Sometimes i cant even believe it.

]]> By: Tara https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-548940 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 01:17:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-548940 He really doesnt have a conscious does he. With in a matter of two week’s has gone from saying.love u. Miss you. If you ever need any help. Etc. Back to blame And Nastyness and physco.

]]> By: Tara https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-548939 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 01:05:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-548939 Just would like to add. I signed a seperation agreement over a week ago.he wanted it signed asap .my lawyer has sent it to his lawyer.he has not signed yet.it was all his idea. Was all how he wanted it.is he trying to torment ne. So between this and what I wrote previously. I just want closure. I want to rid him for ever.

]]> By: Tara https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-548937 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 22:04:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-548937 Thank u for your reply. Since this last post there have been ups & downs.i couldnt hold back. Imessaged him tellin him I knew about the affair. Knew its been going on for awhile.said he is a compulsive liar & a cheater.telling me he loves me lies when he is with the other woman.i said you are narcissist. You are not my truth.you dont deserve me.etc.dont contact me again with your lies.i changed my ph number that day& blocked him
from my email. I have friends where i lived.they all thi k highly of me and being a small town cant believe what he has done. Anyway i drove over to have coffee with An
ne.i parked my car.and the x pulled up beside me. Ver ally abusing me.telling me to get out of town.threaten if I didnt get out he was going to put up body shot photos of me everywhere.said I have no friends. Stop talking shit about him.then he drove off.i met my friend. Told her what happened. We went to the local cafe.next minute the x is beside me . flinging the same abuse.my god he lost it.there were people in the cafe.said he would spit in my face if I didnt get out. He then went outside and key scratched my car all down one side.said he would do the rest if I didnt leave.now he waited in his car till I drove off . lucky the police was driving past.we waved him down.
Since then he said to a friend who was going to pick up a couple of things from the house for me.x said she is not getting them.he has been emailing my business email with digs . basically making something out of nothing.i thought yesterday. Oh my god. I would of normally replied to defend my self.i have not responded to any of his attempts to get a reaction. I have since blocked him from that email..I have been listened to the webinar.i have been trying hard to heal myself.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-548470 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 01:54:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-548470 In reply to Tara.

Hi Tara,

it is so awful when in the throes of abuse, and feeling addicted…

Just awful..

Tara please come into my next Webinar, that will show you and explain to you what you need to do to heal.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/thankyou-step2.html

Mel xo

]]> By: Tara https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-548444 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 12:01:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-548444 Hi Melanie, I am a newbie here. So pleased I found you last night with my online search for answers. I have been trying to absorb your information. I am a bit all over the place at the moment. There is so much to tell but will try not to ramble.
I have recently split up with my x. I have been in a traumatising roller coaster ride for 4 yrs. I was charmed in the beginning, but it soon turned into a nightmare. He fooled my family & friends. We went from 1 business to another, he never got attached to anything, he was never satisfied, always wanting more, big house, big car. More debt. Had to be the show pony & be the marter. A false face that no one knows whats behind it. In the last year he got worse. Picking a fight to give him an excuse to go out. In amongst this all, I couldn’t understand how he could yell & scream at me, belittle me. He would reverse blame, turning me in a victim. To dodge his wrongs. I always found me defending myself. He is Dr Jekel & Mr Hyde. Out of control drunken episodes. Compulsive lying. The control. He would call me names like a whore, he would accuse me of having an affair, yet he was insanely jealous at the same time, ring & text me constantly if I was not in his presence, and the list goes on & on its endless. His brain is like filing cabinets. He would store any information, then like the poltergeist would throw it all out against me. I used to say to myself, why do I put up with this. I don’t need to be treated like shit. I can deserve to treated with respect. But I felt tied, I felt like I couldn’t get out. I admit now that I also felt I couldn’t do without him.
Then 8 weeks ago he came home late, drunk. I checked his phone. My heart sank. I started shaking, then I knew deep down. He is having an affair. I confirmed this the next day by printing out his phone account. I immediately confronted him. Of course he denyed it & said he needed to talk to someone about our relationship. More lies. I kept pursuing the issue, cause I knew he wasn’t telling the truth. Lies & more lies. Then he said, Im moving out. He rented for 4 weeks. I found out who she was, wasn’t hard in a small town. Then he went to Fiji for a wks holiday while I was trying to manage our business. Money is no issue to him, he spends way beyond his means. Everything is so horrible & complicated. 2 weeks ago I moved out of our house, I couldn’t wait to get away. Cause he would just burst into the house in a rage & rant, I actually feared for my safety. I couldn’t do the no contact when I left cause there was a business involved. I am now living at my sons house with my 2 little granddaughters in another town. I found out yesterday that its all true, he & her have been together for some time. He rings to tell me that we could never get back together cause he couldn’t face my family or friends after all the lies I told them. You see I always told my family when he abused me. So they all know the truth & he HATED that. Hates being the bad guy when he is the scum. The other night he text me & tell me he loves me, misses me, thinks about me everynight & gets drunk to forget me & he was with her the same night he text me.
He doesn’t know yet that I know the truth, was so tempted when he rang yesterday to say to him what a %^*#(%^&& he is. But I held my tongue..
But right now I feel cheated, empty, betrayed, broken, furious, angry, revengeful, every emotion in my bones hurts. Yet I just want to tell him he is dead to me.
Please help me heal. Where do I start.

]]> By: Alan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-546315 Fri, 04 Jul 2014 19:22:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-546315 In reply to Marcy R..

Hey Marcy,

I realize it’s July and you posted this in May, but it really struck a chord in me. It really sounds to me like you would benefit from trying NARP. It has been a huge help in my life. I was in an abuse victim role, together 27 years, suicdal, depressed, and finally left her. After taking a chance on Melanie’s healing sessions, it’s like a life do-over or something. I now love myself, and for me, that’s really been the key to unlocking a whole new world. (It’s been a year and a half since we divorced)

The healing sessions are an hour and a half to two hours. At first I managed one or two a week, and I really did get a bit better in the head. When I then really Wanted to get better, was willing to put in the time and effort, for Me, I started doing sessions every day. The results were just amazing! I am no longer “hooked in” to the abuse, I have found I love myself, and this has been key to me. Melanie Tonia Evans and NARP has been the best help I have recieved, medically, psychologically, whatever- nothing and nobody has worked like this has for me. I tell you, it’s like she’s an angel that has come down to help us! It’s amazing, it works, you do get better. You have to put in the work, and do the healing sessions over and over and over, You can recover from the abuse and have a real, and fun life again!

Alan B, from the USA

]]> By: Lucita https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/#comment-487973 Thu, 29 May 2014 13:00:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2498#comment-487973 Talking with my daughter, it seems with men she thinks there isn’t a difference between arrogance and confidence. She thinks it is normal for men to be arrogant in order to have confidence.
I thought you might find this interesting and maybe a topic to work with. Difference between narc arrogance and healthy confidence.

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