Comments on: Loneliness, Another Narcissist or Something Else? https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 08 Oct 2024 21:40:54 +0000 hourly 1 By: Gail https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1281688 Sat, 01 Jul 2023 02:53:33 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1281688 Melanie,
Will you be doing the dating boot camp again soon? It is June 20, 2023 and I just heard about the one you did in April. I’m very interested. I hope you will be offering this course again.
Thank you,
Gail

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1280564 Tue, 09 May 2023 04:50:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1280564 In reply to Nury.

Hi Nury,

I’m so happy for you sweet lady that you are healing!

You are doing an amazing job.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Nury https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1280508 Sat, 06 May 2023 03:53:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1280508 Dear Mel,

What a beautiful article and metaphor of the bird and the bird hospital. I have been very much alone leaving and saying no to unhealthy acquaintances and relationships, healing, learning to self-partner, listening to my inner child and learning to open up for source to come in. It´s never easy at the beginning, but so rewarding! I am not flying yet but I definitely feel like I´m getting closer 🙂

Thank you so much for all the support and guidance!

Nury

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1280070 Mon, 17 Apr 2023 10:27:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1280070 In reply to Katherine converse.

Hi Katherine,

the only suggestion is to heal – on the inside. So needed after being n-abused and you really have been through it!

Then you will be free of the trauma and won’t go through what you are now.

Have you thought of NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp ?

That is my strongest suggestion as your healing starting point.

I hope that this helps.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Katherine converse https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1280059 Mon, 17 Apr 2023 04:59:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1280059 I subscribed to MTE newsletter years ago after realizing I was in a narcissistic abusive relationship. I tried to end it so many times but he always hunted me down and lured me back with those earnest (looking) eyes and all the right words. Of course, he was continually cheating on me and always ended up gaslighting me and turning everything I did into a huge betrayal, his delusions and lies knew no bounds. It has been a back and forth, leave him for weeks only to go back, hot and cold chaotic mess for so long I hardly know who I am without the drama. My daughter and my friends (the new ones, I lost most of my old ones in the course of this) are tired of it and I am so, so SO very tired of it. Last Wed we had a knock-down-drag-out in public and he was so horrific, after promises of “a new me, a new approach to us” days earlier. I blocked his #, took back his key to my house, and deleted all texts and his number. I am currently deep in the sad bereft phase, however, and am in a pretty dark place. Reading these comments helps and I want to do the boot camp. Any suggestions on how to fill your time when everything you do and everywhere you go reminds you of your narc?? I’m working a lot but in my down time … I would love to hear your thoughts. Much love and Hope….. Katie in kansas city

]]> By: Marjo https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1280046 Sun, 16 Apr 2023 13:06:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1280046 Oh my goodness Peter, it’s as if you wrote my story. I feel exactly the same.
Frozen in fear!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1279801 Fri, 07 Apr 2023 03:01:21 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1279801 In reply to Joanna.

Hi Joanne,

thank you for your thoughtful and beautiful post!

Im so thrilled that you were able to win your court case after everything that you have been through .. and that you are a part of our wonderful family!

So much love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1279796 Fri, 07 Apr 2023 02:09:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1279796 In reply to Peter.

It’s my pleasure Peter!

And I love how you contribute so incredibly and thoughtfully to this blog.

Most grateful!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Joanna https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/loneliness-another-narcissist-or-something-else/#comment-1279753 Wed, 05 Apr 2023 09:15:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12876#comment-1279753 Hello everyone and thank you for the wonderful conversation above which has really warmed my heart and brightened my day ❤️
I resonate a lot with what’s being said now. However, even after my divorce, I was long in denial of how coercive/controlling my ex had been, how passive aggressive/sabotaging and dishonest and, finally, even that he’d tried to kill me by suffocation when he felt he was losing that control. I still believed naively, blindly, in the “goodness of other people”, which has its origins I think in desperately needing to believe my parents were ok and loved me.

It wasn’t until a decade post divorce when my ex came after me again with another legal action that the penny finally dropped. I nearly ended it all as my eyes opened fully and I truly saw how, through my wilful ‘naivety’ I had self-abandoned so completely to awful people throughout my life. I think MFC you hit nail on head: it is about being able to see clearly, perhaps for the first time, no matter how devastatingly painful that is. It is so hard, but we can only start to rebuild once we can see clearly. There’s a reason, I guess, why it’s called ROCK bottom- you need to build from a solid foundation of truth and clarity, not the shifting sand of ‘hopium’ and illusion that narcs love to trade with us.
I lost almost all my faith in humans, and isolated/withdrew to feel safe and to try to heal. Thankfully, by that time I had found Melanie and NARP, and I felt like she really got it, as did all the NaARPERS. I wasn’t losing my mind, I’d found my tribe, and direction of healing. It’s helped me feel a bit less alone NARP sustained me sufficiently to win that court battle too, btw!
I’m in slow recovery, learning to self-partner, some days good some not, but feel like an improbable dandelion pushing up through a crack in the concrete. Hope springs eternal, right?

I love how you all contribute to discussions on a regular basis, it’s great to see familiar names come up, feels like family, real proper family. Your experiences and honesty really help me too. Thank you all, I’m sending you much love on your/our journey together.

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